Uh oh…y0u know that this is gonna be a juicy story from Reddit’s “Am I the A**hole?” page just from the title alone.
But that’s the beauty of the stories that people post on there…you never know what you’re gonna get…
Let’s take a look and see what happened.
AITA for telling my GF I can’t be a parent because she won’t let me?
“Gf and I have been together 10 years. Never married due to commitment issues on her part.
She conceived using donor sperm, and while the child is biologically and legally hers alone, I’ve been raising the child together since day one. Child will turn 6 soon. We both work full time and split the expenses but I do the lion’s share of chores, if it matters.
Problem is, as the child grows, she becomes increasingly protective. By protective, I mean she doesn’t let me use common parenting methods, like natural consequences and setting boundaries. Everything I try to do, she undermines/undoes it. This is NOT what we had agreed upon before having the child. We took parenting classes, read books and attended workshops.
Now it seems she has thrown all that out the window. Our child can do whatever she wants, eat only jellybeans for breakfast if so she fancies, stay up past midnight if she still wants to play. Of course that is not healthy. She’s doodled on my work laptop and gf wouldn’t even let me sit her down to explain why it’s wrong. In short, she doesn’t say no, doesn’t teach child right from wrong, and doesn’t let me do it.
The kindergarten teachers have already complained a ton about behavior issues and suggest that we have our child evaluated, which we did. The specialist gave us some insightful advice that gf chose to ignore because she believes her child is perfect, and she is actively preventing me from carrying out those advice (such as setting a schedule, limit sugary foods etc.)
I tried to sit gf down for a serious talk, more times than I cared to count. She doesn’t see a problem. I suggested therapy and ended up going alone because gf thinks the only one having a problem is me. Child apparently picked that up and thinks I’m the bad guy in the house.
I wanted to try harder because I really love the child even if she’s not mine biologically. But today I overheard gf tell her that I “still need to earn the parent title” and I broke. I pulled her aside and told her I can never be the child’s parent because she won’t let me.
Now she’s mad, accusing me of trying to abandon our child and giving me the cold shoulder. I think I’m the a**hole because, while I didn’t say it in front of the child, she’s a smart kid and picks up things pretty fast. I think I’ve let her down.”
Wow…now check out what Reddit users had to say about this.
This reader said this guy let A LOT of things slide in this relationship.
And another Reddit user had a hot take on the situation.
And this individual said that it sounds like this woman may have cheated on this guy.
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