I’ve never been married, but I’ve heard over and over again that a person’s wedding day is supposed to be one of the best days of their life.

I’m sure you’ve heard that too, right?

Well, a woman came clean with her husband of 7 years and admitted to him that she wasn’t happy on their wedding day.

And now she wants to know if she acted like an a**hole. Let’s take a look…

AITA For Admitting To My Husband That I Wasn’t Actually Happy On Our Wedding Day?

“I (30f) have been with my husband for 7 years and married for 4 of them.

I love him and I am genuinely happy with our marriage and the life we’ve built together with our children. I was happy the day he proposed. I was happy during our honeymoon. We’ve had our ups and downs ever since, but overall I would say that I was happy. Although, I wasn’t happy during the planning and actual wedding. Why? Because it wasn’t the wedding I wanted.

A few months into the engagement my husband’s grandmother was diagnosed with cancer and was expected to live long. Our wedding was predicted to be the last big family event that she would ever attend. Of course I felt sad and was more than willing to change the date of the wedding to better suit her needs, but what I was not expecting was that it would become HER wedding and I was to be treated like a figure on a play set. She picked out the venue, the color scheme, the food, music, the flowers, and even my dress.

It all started out as subtle suggestions but when I started to try and put my foot down I was called a heartless bridezilla who couldn’t honor a dying woman’s request, and the fact that they were paying very little into the actual wedding would be an AH thing to bring up.

After a fight my husband was told to reconsider the engagement if I couldn’t do this “one thing” and how a wedding was more important to me than actually becoming a part of the family. Knowing that I’d never win, I sat in my car and cried for an hour mourning the loss of the wedding I wanted and in the end let the In Laws have their way. I didn’t even attend further meetings to discuss the planning and left both the Bridal Shower and Bachelorette party early.

One the actual day I swallowed my disappointment and just went through the motions. Since then my sister and best friend each had their weddings and I was MOH for both and was excited each time. I took my role very seriously and had a lot of fun. My cousin is getting married and asked me to be her MOH and I jumped at the chance.

Recently, I’ve been spending hours on the phone/Zoom putting together a planning binder. My husband took note of my enthusiasm and made a joke about “missing that energy” on our day and brushed it off. After that I cut down my wedding planning in his presence but he wouldn’t let up citing that we don’t keep any wedding photos out, that I got rid of my dress as soon as I could and how I looked so much more happy at someone else’s wedding than our own.

He wouldn’t let up and eventually we got into a fight where I finally confessed that while I love him I h**ed our wedding. My husband is now hurt and giving me the silent treatment.


Hmmmm…now let’s see how Reddit users reacted.

This reader said this woman is not an a**hole and added a little something extra.

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And this Reddit user said that it’s no wonder she wasn’t happy because she had no input in the day.

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And this individual said that a possible solution would be to renew their vows to make her feel better about the whole thing.

Good idea!

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