I’m sure you already know this, but there’s no denying that men face a certain amount of stigma about being overly emotional…or emotional at all, in some cases.
It’s just the way the world works for a lot of fellas. But I think people out there still want to know what men really want deep down.
People on AskReddit talked about what they believe men want but aren’t willing to admit to.
Let’s take a look.
1. You gotta say no sometimes.
“I need a break. S**t doesn’t stop. I work 2 jobs at 45 and still everyone asks me to help fix all their s**t all the time.
Significant others feel burned out at work? They take 6 months off to unwind. I am burned out at work? They leave me instead of taking the brunt of the bills.
So I am resigned to d** on the job and work on everyone’s s**t that even remotely knows me.”
2. We all need this.
Without the guilt of hurting someone’s feelings.”
“Love, from a wife or girlfriend.
I love when she just does random stuff to me like play with my hair or put her head on top of mine, makes me feel like I mean something.”
4. They need it.
“We need someone to encourage us and make us feel important.
My wife told me yesterday that she was proud of me and I gave her the biggest, hardest because I really needed to hear that!”
5. Don’t use it against them.
“When we open up, we dont want you to throw that stuff back at us during an argument.
S**t hurts and theres a reason we did not open up in the first place.”
6. Hold me.
“I just want to be held like a child sometimes.
I’m a pretty big guy and I don’t really show too much emotion (how I was raised) but sometimes I just wanna be little spoon and cry without being judged for it. I want people to know I’m depressed and not make fun of me for it.
Sometimes the only way I can imagine life is just “cold” I might have friends etc. but nobody that I can truly talk to. And it sucks. I’m not just some h**ny breadwinner. I’m a human, I want to be loved, and cared for, as me, not the facade I put around myself.”
7. Someone who cares.
“Besides the typical food/water/shelter stuff, companionship/someone to talk to/someone who cares and some sort of purpose.
I also generally have a hard time accepting help because I don’t want to be a burden, but I always want to offer help because I see that as why I am here, to help others.
But I guess I need to view accepting help as also helping, because everyone needs the opportunity to help others, so sometimes in order to help I need to play the role of receiving help.”
8. There you go.
“To be the little spoon.
I believe that can be easily achieved by simply asking her to be the jetpack.
That way, I’m not asking to be the little spoon, I am Rocketman.”
9. Listen to me.
“To be heard.
Tthere are moments where I just want to talk…about how the world feels so small, how insecure I feel about myself and my future, how I want to spend a day with a few friends and not think of my s**tty car, how I feel useless, to talk about how I bottle everything in my throat and “get it out” with a silent scream.
I have talked about this with a few people, but the constant feeling of failing and not truly speak about it is horrible. My haunting thoughts that one day I will be 60 and my dreams will be long gone without being fullfilled.”
10. That would be nice.
“We want to be considered s**y.
Not just handsome, but s**y.
We get accused of being horndogs all the time, but mostly we want to be desired.”
11. Here for it!
“I didn’t know I wanted it but once I delved into skin care, I am 100% on board. I’m a 48 young straight dude, going through a divorce and I was feeling worn out and old.
A woman friend gave me a bunch of skin care samples and extras from her subscription boxes and I immediately realized it felt great to care for myself and my appearance, for a few minutes, each day.
I’m now eating better, working out, sleeping well (that took some doing but I got it, now) and am just taking better care of myself, in general. And it all started with some great serums and moisturizers.”
12. That’s it.
“A hug. Just a hug.
Men have been trained to not admit that they crave affection, love, etc.”
Okay, now we want to hear from you.
In the comments, tell us what you think men really want but won’t admit to.
We look forward to it!