Some secrets have a way of coming out eventually, but when the secret isn’t yours to tell, most people do their best to keep it to themselves – and that goes double when someone else’s life could hang in the balance.
That said, the internet is full of strangers, so there’s no harm in sharing. So, if you’re curious what kinds of life-ruining secrets people are sitting on out there, these people don’t mind sharing.
1. They need to be outed.
Not sure about life ruining, but basically someone spammed another person with what they thought were anonymous death threats + told them to kill themselves, then fled the platform they did it on and now are fairly successful on another.
Definitely weird knowing someone’s a shitty person + having evidence and several witnesses while their fans / friends dont and think they’re a sweetheart.
2. She better watch her back.
One of my coworkers smokes meth at work. In the last three months I’ve found probably half a dozen pipes she’s left behind because she’s too fucked up to remember to hide them. About a month ago she started leaving these passive aggressive notes (usually when the boss shows up) about how she’s the only one who does her job
I showed her the folder on my phone and told her if she leaves another bulls*%t note for me to read, I’ll call the boss, then I’ll call DHR.
3. I hate this.
More like a secret amongst me, my mom and siblings, but it’s how abusive my dad used to be. Still is but he has improved.
My brother barely even speaks to my dad anymore, he caught the majority of the abuse when we were teens.
Mum passed away 2 years ago and since then he has stopped majority of his abusive behavior. Whether of not it was intentional or not I haven’t figured out.
But every now and again I’ll just have flashbacks of all the violent and aggressive bulls%*t he pulled.
4. Time to sober up.
Wouldn’t really ruin his life but it would be embarrassing.
One of my buddies is a furry, like a massive furry.
I was looking for some old call of duty videos we made in like 2009, I was just searching the old Gamertags, trying to figure out where they were and a page for a furry website popped up.
It had all his basic info on it, with an up to date age, I looked around the page and found an IRL pic from his room that I recognized. It had like 8 years of almost daily uploads/interactions on there.
Haven’t told anyone, can’t really.
Not going to be the guy that just bullies him or tells our other friends, he’s not hurting anyone. But I’m also not gonna tell him I know, cause that would be mad awkward.
I’m terrified I’m gonna let it slip when I’m drunk.
5. This is downright hilarious.
My mom is the most straight laced, uptight person you can imagine and she works very high level financial jobs for the government.
What no one else knows is that she has a tattoo on the back of her leg of a bear with p**ises instead of legs- like where it’s legs would be there are just massive d**ks. She wears tights or pants to cover it all the time, as far as I know I’m the only person that knows about it. She was a very wild teenager and met up with an “aspiring tattoo artist” (aka rando with a tattoo gun) in a hotel room to get a tattoo of a bear when she was 16- the guy got a little excessively creative and gave her a bear with dicks for legs.
It is so vulgar that if anyone saw it I think there’s a good chance she’s lose her job, or at least have some serious explaining to do. I once asked her why she doesn’t get it removed and she says it’s her “symbol to her stupid youth”.
6. That poor girl.
The family of a good friend (let’s call her Ashley) is very religious. To the point that they only let her go to school or out with people they approved (I was the “good girl” who was allowed to go out with her to have fun) So, I was with Ashley during her rebellious stage in which She got into everything her family hated, got piercings, drank alcohol, dated guys (there was a video of her in a threesome that we had to delete from a guy’s cell phone), and even has a couple of tattoos.
The point is that she is now of legal age and her family treats her as the exemplary girl that she never gave problems with the minors of the family. She is in a 1-year relationship with a boy from church that they approve of and with whom she “had no relationships” because they are expecting marriage.
If they knew the things she did in her adolescence, they would completely disown her, she would take away all the financial stability that she has from her since she continues to live with her parents. And all her neighbors would stop talking to her because her father is the pastor of the church.
7. As long as they’re happy.
My friend who got married (to a girl) is gay.
I live in an Asian society where being Gay is still stigmatized.
He told her he was mostly gay and interested way more in men than women in their first year of marriage. Divorce is also very stigmatized. They have a secret open relationship where she is free to pursue whoever she wants and the same applies for him.
They are currently in their 60s. Both are like each others best friend and are very close.
From what I can tell, they are happy with each other. Just not romantically.
8. He must know.
One of my closest friends went to an Ivy League college. He very much acts like it on a regular basis.
I know (but he doesn’t) that his parents bought his way in. His grades were far too mediocre.
9. I…wish I had not read this.
I walked in on my ex girlfriend.letting the dog lick her out while she brushed him. It was clinical as f**k, it was “the only way she could get him to not move while she brushed him”.
Zero enjoyment on her face. It was multiple levels of odd.
10. What a mess.
A good friend of mine is Indian and gay, which she knows her family won’t accept. She about to have an arranged marriage to a man, who is also gay.
Neither of their families know the truth and are excited about the upcoming wedding. The groom’s boyfriend is part of the wedding party.
They plan to have children via ivf at some point.
11. You can’t trust people.
I know his kink, he knows mine. It’s basically mutually assured destruction if either of us ever turns into that big an a$$hole.
12. What a horrible woman.
My stepmom threw away a family heirloom that was gifted to me to make my already poor relationship with my dad worse.
I didn’t figure it out until many years later, but my dad has passed now and she was never popular with any of my family or any of his friends to begin with.
13. A huge understatement.
I had sex with my mormon boyfriend before and after he went on his mission, and also either directly before or even after he’d proposed to his now wife (he didn’t think it was particularly important to tell me that he’d found a good mormon fiancé in another town already).
This is a big no-no in the mormon church.
14. Some secrets shouldn’t be kept.
One of my brother’s military friends sexually assaulted me while my brother, his friend, and one of my friends were hanging out playing pool and drinking. My brother knows because I told him the night it happened. My family also knows.
The dude is married and has three kids. Initially my brother was furious and talked about shooting the guy, but now they’re friends again and the reasoning he gave me was “everybody cheats.” Except none of it was consensual and I’m not a piece of s*%t.
His wife showed up in my “People You May Know” on Facebook and I’ve contemplated telling her.
I plan on telling the wife, and yes, my brother cheated on his partner to be with his current wife. He’s also in the military and that’s how he knows the douche in question.
15. That’s a weird secret to have.
My friend had s*x with his wife’s sister long before they got married. She has no idea.
Wife is the one who has no idea. When it happened my friend and his wife had just started hooking up. I don’t think he ever thought they would get married.
16. Time for a raise.
I know that the director of the school I was going to had a same-s*x affair with my math teacher.
His wife never found out.
17. Ugh why are people.
I’m in the navy and I know a lot of people who have cheated on their spouses.
I’m sure if I spilled the beans at least a few of them would have their lives ruined.
18. I think a lot of us are keeping this secret.
I seem to be the only person who knows that I have no idea what I’m doing. Don’t tell my employer.
19. I guess Mom just couldn’t handle it anymore.
My mom told me my step-father is not my step-sister’s biological father. My step-sister has no idea.
Update: Wow! This completely blew up. Here’s a little more information:
My step-father knows he is not the biological father. He found out when my my step-sister had some blood work done as a baby. She’s O negative. That isn’t possible based on his blood type. He confronted his now ex wife about it and she said it didn’t matter. She said my step-sister was the result of an affair that was a one-time thing and that my step-father raised her as his own and that shouldn’t change.
Also, I will NEVER tell her. It’s not my secret to tell. Besides, my step-father IS her father as far as I’m concerned. She’s smart, kind and a hard-worker in large part due to him raising her, so I don’t care if they don’t share the same bloodline. He’s an amazing man and I consider him a “one of my dads” too.
20. What a douche.
A coworker bragged (at work) about losing his virginity the night of his bachelor party.
His wife still doesn’t know and thinks they lost their virginity to each other on their wedding night.
It’s a VERY big deal to her and would most likely end in their divorce if she ever found out.
21. This hurts my heart.
My GF’s grandfather has a secret family.
He emigrated to my country from the US when he was younger, and kept in touch with his ex (I wanna say wife? Could be girlfriend.)
But he is also dating a woman here, who is the mother of a very prominent political figure in my country (has a decent shot at being our next prime minister). He travels back and forth from my country to the states, to visit “family” and play “golf” and the woman left behind has no idea.
(The one living in the US actually knows about the other one, but the one in my country is fairly religious and would probably not approve…)
22. Time for a vacation.
A former colleague denied vacation requests for staff so he could instead approve a request for a subpar employee that he kissed at an office party.
He’s on an H1-B and if he were fired would have to go back to India and his wife would find out what happened. He’s too lazy to apply for a visa change to get off the H1-B and is a sh%*ty manager in general.
23. This is incredible.
I went to university with a guy who became a very successful drugs dealer on the dark web. He made tens of millions, then quietly retired somewhere in Asia and opened a vegan restaurant. His wife and kids dont have a clue.
Last we spoke he said he still held most of the Bitcoin he collected back then and it’s worth “9 digits” now. I dont want to say much more, he’s the nicest guy who just unwittingly stumbled into a dubious windfall.
24. I can’t believe how common this apparently is.
Me and a few others, unbeknownst to him, spotted the head of my department sloppily making out with a young intern at a work gathering.
He’s in his mid 40s, married with two kids; he’s no longer on an H1-B but did start out on one.
A week later, he asked me to interview her for a position which made no sense since she was in a totally different department/discipline to ours
25. Humans can be so awful.
My adopted daughter’s biological mother had severe mental health issues, and her drug addiction killed her. These stemmed from the fact that she knew she was the product of an incestuous rape, and it was not kept secret.
I don’t ever want my daughter to find out, because I’m afraid of what it could do to her psychologically.
26. That last bit is a downer.
Years ago was trawling sketchy personals listings and came across my then Starbucks manager.
He not only posted this face, but I could also see his sh**ty tattoos so it was definitely him.
Anyhow, he was servicing men and women starting at $100.
I never told anyone and I hated the fact that I’d seen his p**is.
27. So small towns can keep secrets.
I learned from my best friend that my cousin (40 ish m) had an affair with a 20 year old girl (one of my friend’s friend).
My cousin is engaged and have 3 with his fiancé.
I’m from a small town, if I told someone, if would not only ruin their life, but EVERYONE would so know.
His mom is from a high standing family in the area. It would be a disaster
28. This is all terrible.
My brother had an affair with one of my friends mums.
She used to give him a lift to work when he was 18 years old, and she started being suggestive on one drive so they pulled over and you know what. This continued for a long time, over six months. She ended up getting obsessed with him and he blocked her on all social media and his phone and basically buried his head in the sand. Her husband is a huge skin head scary guy that owns one of the pubs, and her son is a lifelong friend of mine.
None of them know. He only told me as she, seemingly, didn’t tell anyone. It’s pretty weird having such a weighted secret
29. I would be sorely tempted.
My ex-boss / ex-best-friend is a covert narcissist who loves lies by omission. He dodges taxes in the stupidest ways by depositing payments from roofing jobs complete with sales tax directly into his personal bank account and then just not reporting it as if they never did the job, and deletes the invoices even though invoice numbers are sequential and he would get found out in a jiff under an audit.
He lies to the Union about how much work is done and under-reports things so he pays them less. He lies about the guys working on his roofs since they’re not really part of the union, but they used to be so he likes to think he can get away with it. He lies to his commercial roofing insurance about the amount of hot work that he does to save on insurance.
Worse is he once dated an underage girl (17?) when he was in his late 20’s and lied about his age for years. He lied to his current lawyer fiance who he now has a kid with about how much he used to deal pot when it was still illegal, and having been arrested for trafficking twice in his life (once charged as a minor and gone as an adult, once dismissed as an adult for “first time” offense with community service hours served). Even worse, is that he likely never told his wife-to-be about that time he dated that underage girl and lied about his age.
Yeah, I can destroy his business with a call to the Union, a call to the insurance, a call to the tax people, a call to his competitors about his lack of safety procedures or paperwork so they can bring the workplace safety inspectors, and utterly rock the rest of his life with his partner and son by exposing that she, yet again, is marrying a giant liar who can’t be trusted with anything. And yet he saw fit to piss me off and still try to affect my unemployment
I’m…speechless. There’s a lot of drama out there, folks.
What secret are you keeping? Share with us in the comments!