The COVID-19 pandemic has forced the world’s hand in many ways, and things probably won’t be back to normal for a long time.
Everything we knew and took for granted, from getting haircuts to going to concerts, is no longer business as usual. Weddings are also different—gone are the big receptions with hundreds of people dancing and drinking. They are a more solemn, smaller affair…and with masks included.
When one bride was faced with having to cut her guest list down, she sent out a note, but what she wrote came off as sounding rude and privileged.
This was included in an actual wedding invitation. pic.twitter.com/qidA7SO6CJ
— Mary von Aue (@von_owie) July 23, 2020
One woman said if she received this, it would be a deal-breaker in her friendship with the bride.
This is a no-brainer. Take my name off your list, don’t expect a wedding gift, don’t send me X-mas cards & lose my email address & cell phone #. Don’t call, don’t write, no need to keep in touch. Don’t want to see wedding pics or any future kid pics. I won’t follow you on Insta.
— MΞGAN KΞLLΞY HALL (@MeganKelleyHall) July 23, 2020
Another woman said she was floored at the letter’s tone and couldn’t believe the bride thought people found her wedding THAT important.
My fav part is “please keep a close eye on our website for availability.” Like you’re that special that someone is checking your site constantly! & If I was group B or C I’d just send this response, “I opt out of this & all future correspondence. Thanks!”
— Anne Easton (@anne_k_easton) July 23, 2020
A wedding invitation designer weighed in. She said this was not unusual, but the way the bride worded the letter was the embarrassing part. (Maybe they needed a wedding invitation designer?)
Oh FFS. I designed wedding invitations for 14 years. The group A and B list is def NOT new. But a classier host (and smarter designer) wouldn’t let you KNOW that. You just stagger your mailing dates. Jesus. Bush league.
— Amanda Eich (@MandaRoseEich) July 25, 2020
But one guy played devil’s advocate—as we pointed out earlier, having a wedding in the middle of pandemic can’t be easy. Usually, these things are planned for months in advance. He felt sorry for the bride in question and thought the other respondees were being way too harsh.
This just seems like someone trying to pare a big wedding down to a small one where an unpredictable amount of close friends and family might say no. I don’t envy these people and I think the comments here are crappy.
— Justin Varricchione (@Taco_Jones) July 24, 2020
Someone else had a good question: who wants to spend the day at a wedding anyway? This is your out, folks!
Seriously, though, if I got a wedding invitation that implied, “Hey, this is just a formality. We really don’t care if you attend,” I’d be like, “Thank GOD,” every time.
— Matt •Stay Home• Dearringer (@dearringer) July 25, 2020
Finally, one bride, who was dealing with having to cut down her list, spoke—perhaps she gave Twitterers time to reflect on their answers.
We’re dealing with this now. April 3rd wedding was cancelled and rescheduled 3 times. Venue finally said not reopening this year. Found new venue. Assured us 100 guests was ok. Sent out invites. Just informed us only 47 guests-50 people max in room and 3 are their staff.
— Cayce Newton (@Cayce333) July 26, 2020
What do you think of the letter—was it rude or the right thing to do? Let us know in the comments below!