The COVID-19 pandemic has forced the world’s hand in many ways, and things probably won’t be back to normal for a long time.

Everything we knew and took for granted, from getting haircuts to going to concerts, is no longer business as usual. Weddings are also different—gone are the big receptions with hundreds of people dancing and drinking. They are a more solemn, smaller affair…and with masks included.

When one bride was faced with having to cut her guest list down, she sent out a note, but what she wrote came off as sounding rude and privileged.

One woman said if she received this, it would be a deal-breaker in her friendship with the bride.

Another woman said she was floored at the letter’s tone and couldn’t believe the bride thought people found her wedding THAT important.

A wedding invitation designer weighed in. She said this was not unusual, but the way the bride worded the letter was the embarrassing part. (Maybe they needed a wedding invitation designer?)

But one guy played devil’s advocate—as we pointed out earlier, having a wedding in the middle of pandemic can’t be easy. Usually, these things are planned for months in advance. He felt sorry for the bride in question and thought the other respondees were being way too harsh.

Someone else had a good question: who wants to spend the day at a wedding anyway? This is your out, folks!

Finally, one bride, who was dealing with having to cut down her list, spoke—perhaps she gave Twitterers time to reflect on their answers.

What do you think of the letter—was it rude or the right thing to do? Let us know in the comments below!