Hey, I’m not gonna lie: living with someone who is a slob can really wear a person down.
But is it okay to call someone out if you don’t like their grooming habits?
Especially if you live with them?
Check out this guy’s story from Reddit’s “Am I the A**hole?” page and see what you think.
AITA for criticizing my roommate’s grooming habits harshly?
“Hey all. I (26m) currently live in a rented apartment with my roommate (24m). Recently we’ve been running into some issues because of his grooming.
I occasionally noticed a funk coming off of him, and a few times it got bad enough to ask him to take a shower because it was distracting me and grossing me out. He apologized, and said he had a lessened sense of smell, which made him less likely to realize he needed a shower. Sounded kinda BS to me, but he showered, so I didn’t think anything of it.
Our apartment has two full bathrooms in the hallway, and I ordered a bidet for mine. The other day, I was installing it, and he happened upon me doing so. He asked what it was for, and I explained. He chuckled, and said “You gay guys are something else.” I laughed and said, “It’s less invasive than toilet paper, and more effective!” and he laughed and said “Yeah, but I don’t use that either!”
Something clicked in my head, and I asked him for clarification. Apparently he never wipes. He says he thinks it’s gross to “rub [his] a** with a piece of paper that doesn’t really do anything.” He said no straight guy does, and it’s not a big deal. I asked what he does if he eats taco bell or something, and he said he just takes a shower.
I asked what if he’s in a public bathroom. He says he waits until he gets home. I then asked if he washes his butt in the shower and he said that the soap from his back drips down and takes care of it.
At this point I was basically gagging, and told him he can’t sit on any of the furniture I pay for (which is most of it) until he wipes and washes his crusty a**. He got mad, and says the only reason I care is because I get f**ked in mine, to which I responded that I’m a top.
He got p**sy and left after this, and I haven’t seen him since. I called his girlfriend to ask if she has heard from him, and she said he came over, explained the situation, she got grossed out, and he left her place. I feel kinda bad for not viewing this as a “he doesn’t know the right way” situation rather than the more antagonistic turn it took.
Here’s how folks reacted on Reddit.
This reader said he’s NTA and he needs to get rid of this guy.
Another person asked a good question that we probably all have…
And this Reddit user dealt with something like this in the past and even had to fire someone because of how bad they smelled.
What do you think?
Let us know in the comments.
Thanks a lot!