Things can get tricky when it comes to divorced parents and events that involve their kids.
And this one is a doozy!
And now it’s up to you to see if you think this guy is out of line for his behavior.
Get started now and see what you think!
AITA for refusing to take my ex-wife as my plus one to my son’s wedding?
“My son is 22, my daughter is 18. Six years ago my daughter caught my wife with another man.
She told her brother who understood what she had witnessed then they both came and told me. I verified that it was true then I divorced my wife. During the divorce hearing, both of them expressed a desire to stay with me so I was given primary custody with her getting 1 week a month. She moved in with the other guy.
I have done my best to cut my ex out of my life. Our communication is limited to the bare minimum needed to coordinate custody and shared expenses and I have never talked about our relationship to my kids. Initially after the divorce she told me that our kids were “giving her hell” when it was her custody and that I needed to talk to them.
I sat them down and asked if it was true and they said they didn’t want to stay there, but I explained that it would be best for everyone if they remained civil until they turned 18 so we wouldn’t have to go back to court. I didn’t get complaints after that so it seemed to be working.
When my son turned 18 he moved back in with me full-time and started college. He graduated now and is getting married in a few months. My daughter turned 18 last summer and moved back in with me full-time too.
My ex-wife called me today and she started crying saying that she was not invited to my son’s wedding. Then she told me that my son hasn’t talked to her in over a year. He had still been dropping in after turning 18 to visit his sister some times but eventually stopped doing that too.
Likewise apparently my daughter stopped talking to her after turning 18 too. Then my ex-wife asked if I would bring her as my plus one so she could see her son getting married, but I told her if my son didn’t invite her it wasn’t my place to bring her.
Then she started accusing me of turning them against me and threatening to take me to court, but I told her that there was no more custody agreement to take to court since both of them are above 18 and I hung up.
I sat down with both of them later and asked them if they had cut contact from their mother and they both admitted it.
I explained to them that they did not need to do that for my sake and I still recognize she’s their mother, but they both said they had talked about it a lot and their plan was always to hold out until they were 18 but they had no desire to be around her or the other guy because she had destroyed our family. I told them that they are adults and if that’s their decision I won’t pressure them to change it.
I was telling my sister what happened and to my surprise she said my son wasn’t being fair and I should make him invite his mother to the wedding. AITA for refusing the attempt?”
And here’s what Reddit users had to say.
One reader said he’s NTA and his ex has had a lot of time to figure this out.
Another individual said his son might need to hire security for the wedding…
And this Reddit user also said he’s NTA and he’s done enough to be polite.
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