A lot of us think about what we would do if we could travel through time – but what if it wasn’t so much the current us going somewhere, as being visited by someone distant but familiar?

That’s the question that was posed on Ask Reddit.

If 16 year old you could see you now, what would 16 year old you think about your life?
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Honestly, it’s a somewhat terrifying question. Let’s see what folks had to say.

1. Don’t give up hope

16 year old me was a foster kid in a girl’s home who wanted to d**.

She wouldn’t even believe that I finally made it to Hollywood, became an artist and entertainer on her own terms and now owns her own victorian home.

I sure am glad those suicide attempts didn’t work.

– Immorefunthanyou

2. OMG so awesome!

16 year-old me would be shocked at how well I am doing.

At 16 years old I had just quit doing drugs after failing the ninth grade for the second time. I am now a DBA and make six figures.

Also, 16 year-old me would be like “Did you have s**? Yes?! OMG so awesome!”

There really is a benefit to coming from low expectations.

– imk

3. Not a doctor (shh!)

“So…not a doctor huh?”

“No, but you have a masters and you work as a therapist helping people who really need it.”

“But not a doctor.”


“Are you thinking amount doing a PhD at least?”

“Kinda, there’s a limited about of good that would do us, outside of the title, and importantly you like what you do”

“But the title is awesome!”

“I know…”

– ConneryFTW

4. Nailed it

Still overweight, that sucks. Great career though, so that’s awe…


– Garroch

5. Pretty grim

Like back then, I don’t value new experiences much because I’m not interested in most things or people, have no innate curiosity or desire to learn things and am affected deeply by negative events while getting nothing out of positive ones.

At most, after learning about my disappointing experiences with therapy and medication, I reckon my 16y/o self would just be sad that this is incurable, and probably much more bitter than I currently am that I have to put a crazy amount of effort into getting even half as much joy out of life as the average person.

I miss being blissfully ignorant about these things. Back then I was so much better at ignoring the external pressure to be someone I’m not because it didn’t even register to me that I was that abnormal. It’s getting better now, but it’s something I’ll have to make a conscious effort to fight for years to come.

– dniwehtotnoituac

6. Blinded by science

My 16 year old self would be devastated that both my parents and all my grandparents have passed away by the time I’m 32.

She would also be very surprised that I’m not working in marine biology or doing science of any kind as a career.

– Kaylin_Neya

7. No mountain high enough

16 year old me would be very impressed!

Stopped self-harming, left our emotionally-damaging hometown & now live in a gorgeous state, hiking mountains, traveling the world independently (pre-pandemic), rescued the sweetest dog ever, and still very close friends with a lot of my high-school friends that weren’t a**holes.

She would look at me and say “wow I truly made it”.

– NipplesOnIce

8. Reach for the stars

Astronomer here! I was already obsessed with the idea of being a radio astronomer when I was that age, so pretty sure she’d be over the moon ecstatic. 🙂

I actually think about 16 year old me a lot on days when research feels hard or I’m less motivated about a specific task.

It seems like such a minor thing to push through once you remember the passion you had as a teenager, and while a lot of astronomy is about chasing the next position it really makes me appreciate where I am now on the day to day level. Not sure that makes sense.

– Andromeda321

9. I’m livin’ my life

He would ask what happened to our hair and slim toned physique, then I’d explain that in adult life you eat what you want and don’t care about your hair so much so deal with it

– ScottyAlex1909

10. But why?

I am happy that 24 yo you is financially successful and managed to land a good career and have a girlfriend you like…

But why did you stop going to the gym, why do you take all those antidepressants / pills to sleep and why do you smoke weed?

– topastop

11. Mostly about phones

Well, for a start he’d be all: “You’re looking at a, whatchacallit, a ‘website’, on your telephone?”

Then he’d be happy that I was happily married with three awesome kids. Maybe a bit sad I don’t have a dog.

– TheWrongFusebox

12. California dreamin’

16 year old me would be p**sed I still lived in California instead of moving back to Texas as planned.

But I’ve fallen in love with it.

– Pythias

13. I’m still there

Like at 35 I’m still struggling with the concept of home ownership and a long term career (I have both, just still can’t wrap my brain around it).

I am living the 16 yo’s life though, own every game console (except PS5, f**k scalpers), and more Gundams than could have imagined.

– TrandaBear

14.  Pretty impressive

16 year old me would be impressed with my hot wife, great kids who would have much in common with him, being a homeowner of a really nice house, cool cars, and k**ler gaming PCs (I was a huge computer nerd in high school).

S**t, my whole house is automated which would have blown his/my mind.

– VisualBasic

15. It all changes fast

He’d be surprised with how quickly life goes from easy to hard. Both parents d** in our 20s, the last living grandparent develops dementia at 100 years old whom we become POA for.

It’s easy to compare grass is greener. You’ll feel isolated because you don’t relate to people in your 30s or even older generations in the workplace.

The salary is good though, not to mention the core group of friends you have always answer the phone when you call.

– DaGurggles

16. The real house

I made a gingerbread house at Christmas for my gf when I was 16. Gingerbread gf in the front yard with frosting flowers, and me on the roof with a gumdrop hammer. I told her I would build her a real house one day.

We’ve been together 21 years. 2 years ago I built her a new house, as promised.

I think 16 year old me would be proud.

– ohnomysoup

17. Pretty excited

He’d be pretty excited about it.

I didn’t think I’d live to be 40 when I was 16 and definitely didn’t think I would own a house.

He’d also think my wife is hot ’cause I do.

– Gubble_Buppie

18. Hotter and hotter

Its funny you say that because recently i thought about how if 16yo me saw my wife he wouldn’t believe it.

Of course i knew my wife when i was 16 but she just grew up to be hotter and hotter.

– Xaronius

19. The good life

other than the job. it’s pretty dope.

Have the gaming setup of my dream.

Married the girl i had a crush on at 16.

have a little one with her as well.

2 dogs.

live in a nice neighborhood with friendly neighbors.

Near a large pond so i can go fishing.

Brew beer and mead.

And i can enjoy weed by going to store like im buying a pack of gum.

All in all, im very fortunate

– that_random_Italian

20. Turning things around

He’d be shocked. 16 year old me was in a juvenile detention facility awaiting trial for attempted **rder. I didn’t have a future. I couldn’t see beyond tomorrow.

53 year old me is looking back at a dude who grew up to become a faithful husband of 29 years, and raised a daughter( who went on to earn a PhD in neurology and is on her way to do her postdoc work at Harvard). He’d see a dude that went back to school and earned the degree which launched a 20+ year career in database and application development for several branches of the federal government(and holding SC/TSC).

I’d like to think he’d be excited, but I barely remember that kid and for all I know he might think he turned out lame.

He’d be most psyched about how his guitar playing progressed.

– catching_comets

21. All about the movies

Truthfully, he’d probably look passed the fact that I am a middle aged man who is 20lbs overweight and losing my hair and focus on the fact that I have, by 1993’s standards, a gigantic flat screen television and a home office filled with Lego sets from all the things I loved as a kid.

Jurassic Park! Ghostbusters! STAR WARS!

– -Words-Words-Words-

22. Light at the end of the tunnel

She probably wouldn’t believe what she was seeing.

At the time she thought she’d d** as soon as she’d figure out a “good” s**cide plan.

Now that I’m finally coming out of depression, I tend to feel like it robbed me of so much time on my life and haven’t achieved what I wish I had achieved at a younger age…

But my 16 year old self would probably be proud and encouraging.

– aurorallly

23. Yeah, science!

16 year old me would never believe I’d do anything even remotely related to science or engineering, or be good at statistics, or have a PhD.

That just was not at all in my thinking at age 16.

– Guilty_Jackrabbit

24. Find your freedom

She would be surprised. She was so scared that whatever she wanted to do wouldn’t matter by the time she was in her mid-20s because she would just have to get married and make a family like everyone else.

She had no idea that she could just leave everything behind looking for her dream job, that it would be a very arduous but rewarding journey.

She would also not believe that she doesn’t have long brown hair any more.

– mochi_chan

25. The family life

I would probably be pretty mad at myself.

I gave up a career I worked so hard for to stay home and raise kids.

I think it was the right decision and I’m happy with it, but my sixteen year old self with big dreams, who’s working her a** off, would probably kick the s**t out of me.

– tlr92

26. The ice queen

She would probably be both disappointed and impressed.

I have crossed a lot of travel and adventures off the bucket list.

She might be disappointed that the career I am in is not what was planned and the fact that I am married as she swore never to do that.

However, she might be impressed with some other improvements to our life such as mental health, physical health, financial health, and the hobbies that I have now.

It would be a lot of mixed emotions, but 16 year old me would never show those emotions. I was an ice queen back then.

– MrsAHole

27. Mixed reviews

“Motherf**ker, you actually got the busty redhead (with dye, but nevertheless) wife and black and white cat you wanted. But how did you even get into that career choice? That’s not what I had chosen. It’s cool that you’re already planning getting your own house, though I would have expected you to own a car already. Decent gaming PC, but you don’t seem to play too often.”

– maczirarg

28. The twists and turns

She wouldn’t know what to think because she would be devastated to learn that her dad isn’t here anymore because he d**d suddenly in 2014.

She would also be confused because she would think that I would be married by now but she would be happy to see me living with a boyfriend (16 year old me was single and really wanted a boyfriend).

She would also ask why I wasn’t a piano teacher like I wanted to be back then.

But she would be happy that even though life is different right now (also cause of covid) I am doing okay even though I’m not where she thought I would be (married and doing what I love)

– Rainbowisland31

29. It’d be a lot to young me


“You’ve played how many rock shows in front of how many people?! You were on the radio?!?! You make how much??!? (it’d be a lot to young me) You married a woman who looks like that?!?!?!?!? YOU HAVE HOW MANY GUITARS???????!!!!!!!”

16 year-old me would be p**sed about my weight, I’m probably 100lbs over what I weighed then, but he’d be pretty happy with everything else.

He’d also be glad I finally learned “why” I’ve always been so terrible in social settings: rather intense general and social anxiety.

– guitarer09

30. The truth came out

You live in another country? In one of the most cosmopolitan cities on earth? And you went to that university I’m longing to get into? H**l yeah! Wait, why in the everloving f**k aren’t you rich?

And why does it seem like the best part of your day is sitting on the couch watching movies in your underwear?

By the way, what are those colorful flags abou… OH S**T YOU TOLD PEOPLE

– FermentedThings

I guess we’ll never know for sure.

What do you think your 16 year old self would say?

Tell us in the comments.