Oh, boy, I think this is going to be a very divisive topic and story for a lot of people out there.
And rightfully so, because the headline makes this person seem like a total bigot.
But let’s give them a chance to tell the story for themselves on Reddit “Am I the *sshole” forum, okay?
AITA for telling my daughter she cannot introduce her African American boyfriend to her grandparents?
“Let me just preface this by saying this: I HAVE ABSOLUTELY NO PROBLEM WITH INTERRACIAL RELATIONSHIPS. Now that the air is clear, let me continue.
My daughter (Anna) has recently started to date an African American man (Jamal). While I’m not exactly what you would refer to as “liberal”, he’s a nice young man and as long as my daughter is happy, I’m happy. The problem is Anna is rather naive about the community she lives in.
While her friends are quite content to see a relationship like hers, more than a few tongues are wagging in the community and a few people have privately expressed their concern to me. As I said, I have no problem with mixed relationships and I’ve set them straight, but I am painfully aware of how these matters are viewed by certain segments of the population.
My parents are planning to come and stay with us for a week and Anna expressed a desire to introduce Jamal to them now that things were getting more serious between them. I told her on no uncertain terms that this wasn’t going to happen.
I may have no problem with Jamal, but they absolutely will, and even when the relationship ends they won’t forget it. They might even go as far as to cut her off entirely. Anna was extremely upset by this and implied I was a racist and more concerned with what my parents think than how she feels.
As I said, I know my parents. They simply aren’t okay with mixed relationships and if Anna were to bring Jamal over even as a friend, they would be furious both at her and me.
Anna is currently staying with Jamal and doesn’t want to speak with me right now. My wife stands by me given she knows very well how my parents are (they had a problem with her for months over the length of the skirt she wore when I introduced her to them, for christs sake), but a close friend I confided in told me that I have behaved like an *ss and that I needed to focus more on my daughter than pleasing my parents.
No advice needed, but I have to know. Have I been an *ss?”
First of all, this person made a good point that this mother said “when” the relationship ends, and not “if.”
Hmmm. Is that coded language?
This reader got straight the point. Brutally honest!
And this Reddit user pointed out the most important thing: her daughter’s happiness should come first. Period.
This person argued that the mother is to blame because in a way, she’s making the situation all about herself and how it will affect her.
And finally, this individual made a great point about how racism works in our society.
Sorry, Mom, I think you got called out big time by these folks.
Wow…now we want to get your take on this situation.
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