Hey, religion ain’t for everyone, you know what I’m saying?
And it sounds like this woman is having some conflict with her mother about the rules she’s implementing in her household.
But is she being an a**hole?
Check out her story and see what you think…
AITA for making our home into a no-religion space, and including my mother in the rules?
“My (27F) girlfriend (32F) finally moved in together after dating for three years, do to money troubles keeping us in seperate roomate situations. We’re very exited to make our apartment into our own space, since for both of us this is the first home we’ve had without sharing with anyone else.
My mother (and my late father) is rabidly catholic. I was raised catholic growing up, church every sunday, praying before every meal and snack, blah blah blah. I refused to do confirmation, which enraged my mother but she backed off after the priest told her that was my right. She “didn’t approve” of me being bi (which is weird, she surprisingly is ok with gay people) and still dragged me to church hoping I’d grow out of it.
Long story short I moved out at 18, and have kept a respectfully distant relationship with her. She’s mellowed a bit in her age, but she still tries to invite me to church every week, even after I told her plainly to cut that out. She’s respectful to my girlfriend, mostly because I will choose her over my mother if it comes to that, and it nearly did when she accused my girlfriend of being a predator when we met due to our age gap.
My girlfriend has an even more traumatic past with religion. When she was outed at 12, her parents abused her until she was 18, then disowned her. The entire time using bible quotes and “gods mission” as an excuse. She still believes in A god, just not in religion or worship, which I respect. With all our trauma about religion, we decided to make the place into a no-religion space.
That means no praying, no religious symbols of any kind, no proselytizing, no talking about religious settings. My mother h**es that, because all her friends are churchgoers and 80% of her stories relate to something happening in church.
She also gets mad that we make her take off or cover her cross necklace, as are the rules. She claims we’re being hypocrites, to which I told her she’s lucky to be in my life at all. Still some of our friends told us we’re taking it too far, and “using our trauma as an outlet for revenge”.”
Check out what Reddit users had to say.
This person said it’s her house, her rules, but…
Another individaul said they think this is fair.
And this Reddit user said they think this behavior is venturing into a**hole territory.
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