It’s a dadgum tragedy to look at someone you once respected and think “what happened to you?”

It’s the kind of thing that sticks with you forever, even though the person in question likely won’t.

What made you lose respect for someone?
byu/neck-pillow inAskReddit

But how does this happen? Reddit’s got stories.

1. Just being a scumbag

When it came out that a friend was cheating on his disabled and house bound wife.

She managed the finances and got the EZ Pass (electronic tolling system) bill that showed he was in the wrong state when he was said he was at work. When confronted he, denied it until she pulled out the phone bill with his texts and calls to a number in general area of where the EZ-Pass was getting billed.

He then divorced her and tried to screw her out of her share of his navy pension and insurance.

They were married for longer than his time in the service (25 years) and was she legally entitled to half of it, he went out of his way to hurt her. She d**d less than a year later in a nursing home while he was moving in with a completely different woman than the one he originally cheated on the wife with.

Real classy guy, showed up to the First wives funeral with #2.

He also claimed to go out “whaling” while in the Navy- he and his fellow sailors would apparently search out and bed the largest lady they could while on shore leave, the winner took home the biggest and got bragging rights till the next round of leave.

– bbpr120

2. Being rude to staff

I used to travel as part of my job.

Sometimes I would check in to a hotel and be behind a coworker in line.

I was often amazed at how rude they treated the front desk clerk

There’s no coming back from that for me…

– williamtheturd

3. Being a manipulator

a woman robbing 25k out of her terminally ill ex-husbands bank account before a divorce, then getting her son to a**ault him so that she could claim self defense and sue him when he fought back.

No. he didn’t win the case or get a dime of his money back. Worst part is, before the divorce he had already given her 25k and paid her way through college (which she immediately dropped out of) because he wanted to make sure she was taken care of. Dumb b**ch spent the money on drugs and it was gone in than a month.

– RealMaskHead

4. Abandoning your wife

In the middle of a global pandemic, while I was undergoing cancer treatments, my husband threw me out of the house I helped build, and my “best” girlfriend decided to comfort him in “his time of need”.

I have several words of the 4 letter variety to describe both of them, but I don’t want to get banned.

– Goodbye11035Karma

5. Expecting everything, giving nothing

After years of helping my sister with her bills $150 car insurance $120phone bills buying tires for her car help paying to get it out after she had it repossessed.

That happened three times and countless money on baby food, milk, diapers, clothes, carseats for her son spending everyday I had off work babysitting her son.

I mean thousands of dollars she couldn’t drive me to work one time after my car broke down.

It wasn’t Missing work that mattered The way she reacted when I asked “why would I do that of I can sleep in tomorrow your lucky I’m picking you up now I could just let you sit out here” it was very disappointing but I learned that no matter how much you do for people it doesn’t matter so i spend my time and money on myself now and no one expects things from me now or even asked I feel alot less stressed.

– chantal988

6. Being a harasser

When she wouldn’t respect my “Thanks, but I’m married”…many times over. Female coworkers seem to get a pass on s**ual harassment.

Believe it or not, “no means no” even for men. Shocking, I know…

– chocolate_fever

7. Betrayal

She was my closest friend back then, she slept around a lot. That wasn’t a problem until she went behind my back to sleep with the guys she knew I had a crush on.

She even went as far as finding a guy I met on a dating app, flirting with him and sleeping with him the night before I was supposed to go on a date with him.

When I confronted her about it, she admitted she seen me as “competition” when it came to men and dating.

– Youre_late_for_tea

8. Being a fraudster

A few personal injury and workmen’s comp patients asked me to commit insurance fraud through false documentation, because “nobody will know.”


– PaperPusherPT

9. Drinking while pregnant

When my ex-friend got pregnant shortly after we graduated highschool.

She invited me to a party and when I got there she was so d**nk I almost lost my s**t.

I remember telling her “I can’t believe you’re drinking while you’re pregnant, what the actual f**k is wrong with you” before I turned around and left.

– morganfreenomorph

10. Being shallow

One time I had a high school teacher who was actually really kind and respectful and she never shouted or was impatient with her students. I had her every Wednesday and I always looked forward to her lessons. I would be walking to school with my friends and the I’d be like, “Yes! I have Mrs. **** today.” They would always respond,”Ah. You mean the fat one?”

At that point I realised they couldn’t care less about personality, but only looks.

It explained why they always dated the popular girls that I’ve always h**ed and seemed arrogant beyond belief but looked good.

Anyways, I kinda started to zone them out a bit.

5 years later and 2 of the 3 are in prison.

The other is an alcoholic and a drug addict.

– Cold_Task9034

11. Refusing to take responsibility

I once told my grandfather that he was wrong for mistreating a child.

He launched into this long-winded, misogynistic, victim-blaming diatribe, telling me in no uncertain terms that I’m the bad guy and I deserve all the traumas I’ve endured because I don’t know my place. I waited for him to finish, and then I asked him why the truth about his behavior upset him to the point that he felt the need to verbally crucify me.

His response, verbatim: “The truth doesn’t matter. What matters is what I believe.”

– Jedi_Among_Sith

12. Neglecting your kids

My son’s friend used to spend weekends and nearly his entire summers at our house.

One weekend, the boy was staying over with us when he had a terrible toothache. He was crying and just rocking back and forth writhing in pain. We looked at the tooth and it was completely rotten and broken. Tried to reach the parents, but couldn’t get ahold of them. We did the best we could to comfort him.

When we took him back home, we told the parents about it and they admitted they had known about it for awhile, but they couldn’t afford the dentist. In d**n near the same breath they proceeded to show us the new flat screen tv and surround sound they had just bought for $700.

The boy continued to suffer in that home (in many ways we didn’t even know about until later) for a couple years when finally my wife and I called CPS.

We were so afraid of making things worse and were pretty certain that they would know exactly who made the complaint and it would jeopardize our being able to give him any reprieve if they cut us off from having contact with him.

When we finally made the call, it went exactly as we had feared. The agency wouldn’t give us any details of the contact, but the boy’s parents cut us off completely. My son saw him at school and that would be the only way we could communicate with him.

One night several months later, he showed up at our door. Turns out he ran away. Cops came, he tried to explain the abuse he was having in the home which at this point we found out had turned into physical beatings and the cop told him to “knock your s**t off and get in the (police) car” and they took him back to the abusive parents.

The next morning, the mother came to our house with the boy and told us to keep him. So, we went through a big process and got legal guardianship of him and ever since he has been in our home. He is treated like our own son. First thing we did was go to a dentist.

I’m not one to wish ill on anyone no matter what they’ve done, but I hope those people burn in h**l.

– MaliciousCode

13. Being stingy and selfish

At college in London I had a car and my mate didn’t, nor a driving license so I regularly drove to the other side of the city to pick him up or drop him off. Never once asked for petrol and would have rejected the offer if made. It’s a mate, right.

One night a group of us were out in town and decided to go watch a film. I called him up, told him to get over and I’d pick up an extra ticket to make sure he could make it. When he arrived he took the ticket, and casually said, “get the money from Bob, he owes me.”

I’d spent my last ten pounds on that ticket. Everyone decided to got to McDonald’s. I couldn’t afford to eat. Then they decided to go to a bar, I swear he asked me what I wanted to drink. I asked for coke. He came back holding two, thinking one was for me I reached for it and he looked at me at said, “In your dreams” and walked past.

Didn’t have much to do with him after that.

– 47q8AmLjRGfn

14. Making everything about you

My boyfriend threw me a surprise birthday party for my 21st, and invited all my friends which included one that lived 6 hours away!(F21). She ended up coming, but wanted to make the whole night about her.

She kept telling everyone I shouldn’t drink because I get too messed up, kept complaining about how much she missed her 50 year old fiancé (she kept including the age in order to also mention how more mature she was), and how it was rude that my bf’s roommate didn’t offer his room to her because his bed was larger.

Even the next day when we got brunch, she kept complaining about how much she missed her fiancé, and that I should just get a box so she can take me home and go home herself.

She managed to p**s a lot of people off that night, but especially me. We had been friends for about 3 years, but that night really made me look at our so called friendship in a brand new light.

– xxglitterkittenxx

15. Being an insensitive pr**k

I was working for Special Olympics and a friend I hadn’t talked to in a while asked if I was “still working at the ‘tard’ house.”

He then proceeded to try and recruit me to sell AdvoCare…

– Answer70

16. Showing disrespect

When a member of the team I supervise ranted about my leadership to me while I was actively trying to support them in dealing with a difficult client and then said, “I guess I should just chalk it up to your age.”

I reminded her that I was her boss, and that if she had the gall to say that to her supervisor, could I trust what she was saying to clients and colleagues?

That seemed to get my point across.

I will continue to treat her equitably and professionally through the end of her contract, but I no longer respect her.

– DashHammerfist

17. Being EXTREMELY cheap

A former friend of mine is very cheap. Like, she won’t even throw few pieces of fries away, because she doesn’t like to waste food. I really respected that, because I’m not super duper careful with money.

She rode her junk bike around, and one day, it broke to the point of no return. I had some bikes around that I sort of fixed, so I sold one of them for $50.

It caused some issues, and I tried to fix it, but didn’t work out. I obviously felt bad. Eventually, she asked for the money back. I apologized and gave $50.

Few days later, I asked for the bike back, so I can fix it and sell it online or something.

She said “Well, this bike is not worth $50 and it caused so many troubles. I’m not gonna give you the bike back.”

I said “wtf? That’s not how this works. Either give me $50 or the bike”

She said “I’ll have my mechanic friend to look at it and offer a fair value for this bike. I need the bike, but it’s not worth $50.”

I knew that she’s cheap af, but I didn’t know that she’s this “cheap”.

– OvulatingScrotum

18. Being an opportunistic predator

I had just found out my husband had an affair, and we had separated for a short time.

It was mentally and emotionally breaking for me, obviously.

A guy friend of mine I had known forever found out about what happened and text me to see if I was doing ok.

Didn’t even wait for an answer, got a d**k pic and “ wanna make out sometime?” from him.

It’s been four years and I can’t even look at his profile picture without being furious.

– LaylaBird65

19. Cheating

Visited a friend from high school I hadn’t seen in a long time to congratulate her on her pregnancy and catch up.

While there she told me that she suspected the baby wasn’t her husband’s but knew she’d be able to tell in the delivery room so she wasn’t going to say anything to him until she saw.

– alottafajynna

20. Pulling a Homer Simpson in the worst way

Was at someone’s home and because his son would not stop hanging on him, put him in a sleeper hold till his 13yo, passed out.

The dad did not think anyone saw him do it. I pulled him aside and called him on it. He did not think it was that big of a deal.

I called out to my wife, said I can no longer associate with him and we left. I explained to her what he did.

Later the wife called asking WTF, I asked if she new what he had been doing…

He is now divorced and not allowed near his 3 son’s. I h**e this because the oldest son has made school life difficult for my oldest son.


– alanwilliford

21. Being an awful customer

I work at a grocery store for barely more than minimum wage. One of my coworkers came through my line with a full basket and started berating one of our newer employees, who was sacking her groceries.

She was acting just like any other customer that makes our days worse that they need to be. I lost a lot of respect for her.

– Weller_BWitched

22. Being an entitled snob

I had a friend whose dad paid for her college degree, housing, credit cards, car, and then eventually got her a job in his buddy’s company, and then he bought her a house.

That’s fine, whatever, lucky her.

But then she would make disparaging remarks about people with debt, and that I just can’t handle.

– OutrageousSea5212

23. Getting weirdly v**lent

Best friend of mine up until the beginning of this year.

Got d**nk and out of nowhere put a knife to my throat.

I was able to escape and sent him a picture of the cut on my throat from the knife.

I told him to get help.

Otherwise, I haven’t talked to him since.

– David_Pumpkin

24. Being an unapologetic manipulator

Had a friend since the 4th grade, and at age 35 he was single and using dating sites.

He said to me and I quote “I need to find a woman with low self esteem so I can manipulate her into doing what I want”.

It’s been 8 years, and haven’t spoke to him since.

– Bald-Bull509

25. Stealing from kids

I was a kid in girl scouts during the cookie season almost 20 years ago now.

My troop did rather well selling cookies and we were supposed to get different prizes for reaching various numbers of boxes sold.

Once all the money and checks were collected, my troop leader took it all for herself (a bit more than $5000) and vanished. No one got any of their cookies or prizes.

She was discovered some time later at an electronics store and arrested.

– -butterscotchtape-

26. Being a sleeze

The husband of a friend was commenting on another girl’s bikini pics.

Things like, “you look so good. Can I hit you up. Maybe take you out? ”

He didn’t know that I was friends with the other girl.

– Catlenfell

27. Being an awful manager

An ex-manager throwing his direct reports (me and my colleagues) under the bus and blaming s**t that was his fault on us to try and weasel out of a bollocking from his (admittedly sh**ty) manager.

I’ve never been more disgusted with a human in a work context.

Needless to say I didn’t stay there much longer.

– skuldintape_eire

28. Abandoning your pets

Dumped all her pets after having a baby.

Two were my former foster cats.

I got them back, and they were covered in fleas, had three kinds of internal parasites, and had forgotten how to use a litter box.

In hindsight I’m glad they got out of there, but I’ll never speak to her again.

– BotiaDario

29. Being a compulsive liar

They’d lie about everything to get attention, and the funniest thing is that they were an awful liar.

he changed up his lies all the time and thought I was dumb enough to believe it.

he complained about the problems he was causing himself and acting like the victim and refused to fix his s**t.

I blocked him on all social media including his phone number

– A_wild_Slimee

30. Besmirching someone

My roommate slept with my friend, and when he decided he didn’t want to hook up with her anymore or pursue a relationship, she lied and told everyone he gave her an STD. He took a full STD test and came back 100% clean.

I got in another fight with this same roommate because I was sick of her always making excuses for driving d**nk. When I tried to explain to her that the consequences can affect the lives of other people and not just her own, she said she “just doesn’t really care that much.”

I told her she needed to take some accountability or move out. She moved.

– Redtember

I guess I knew before this that there were bad people out there but like…it’s rough to be reminded so thoroughly.

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