Love, as they say, makes the world go ’round.
The older I get, the more I realize that having loving friends and family members is so important and is worth way more than anything else in this crazy world thƒat we live in.
What’s the best way to show someone you love them?
AskReddit users weighed in on this important question.
1. Show some interest.
“Pay attention to the things that they’re interested in.
Showing interest in things they like goes a long way.”
2. That’s love!
“My husband shovels the driveway right before I come home from work, turns on my coffee while I’m in the bathroom, records my favourite show if I’m not home.
Now THAT is love!”
“Knowing when they want you to help and knowing when they want you to just be present.
It sounds really boring and unromantic, but occasionally when someone is really down or stressed, they don’t want you to White Knight their problem for them.
Don’t tell them “here’s what I’d do…” when what they want is empathy and a good listener.”
4. Figure that out and you’ll be good.
“Everyone has a different love language.
The best thing you can do if you truly love someone is to find out what theirs is.”
5. Good stuff.
“Take pleasure in cooking together in the kitchen.
Also, do thoughtful things for no particular reason other than to show true affection.”
6. Here you go.
“Honesty, compassion, and presence.
Be consistent in your support, and understanding with failures. Show them they have intrinsic value. They are not a task, a bank, or a laborer. They are not a dollar bill. Love is days in and tears soaked up on a steady shoulder.
It’s laughter at inside jokes and comfort with habit. Love is sharing yourself with a person and knowing they will do the same.”
7. The small things.
“Do little things. My partner had never been with someone who made an effort.
I make his lunch for work while he’s getting ready to go or I buy him socks when he needs new ones but doesn’t say so.
Small things matter.”
8. Quirky is good.
“Appreciate their little quirks.
They might already feel self-conscious about them, and they hope that the person they love is not going to judge them for it.”
9. That’s nice.
“Buy them food if they can’t afford it and never ask for any money in return.”
10. What are you into?
“Sit down and talk to them about their hobbies.
If they’re into art, ask what kinds. Ask why those artists. Ask about method or preferred medium. If they’re into music, same thing: genres, eras, soloists, etc.
Get involved. Learn about them. And when you feel comfortable enough, try and find something they might like but don’t know yet.”
11. What’s best for them.
“Put what is best for them before what is best for you. That doesn’t mean catering to every whim and enabling selfish behavior, but genuinely prioritizing their needs over your own.
We all would like to think that we would be the “let her go, take me instead” hero in the movie that sacrifices his own life for the one he loves, but are we willing to do that on a small scale, day to day basis?”
12. Every single day.
“Show it to them each day and each moment with your actions. Be considerate of them before you act and keep them in mind at all times.
You will never need to say I love you because you show it to them all the time.”
13. There’s that…
“Telling them is usually a pretty good start. The rest varies.
Some people like me prefer cuddling up to a TV show or something, but others would appreciate getting a small gift or doing a chore for them.
No harm in asking them to see what they like most.”
14. Good advice.
“Remembering their interests or what they say they like in general and planing dates accordingly.
I have quite a good memory (most people actually do if they try), so when I am talking to a girl I like, I remember almost everything she says.
So when I speak to her after some time I mention things they said in quite a lot of detail. Then I always see them light up its very cute. Everbody just likes when you actually care and listen.
So try to pay attention when someone says something thats important to them. Hope this helps.”
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