Fact: people tend to lose their minds a little bit when they’re getting married and even when they’re involved in weddings.
Things get heated, people are on edge, and a lot of folks do things that they probably regret later on.
Check out this story from Reddit’s “Am I The A**hole?” page about a maid of honor who threatened to drop out of the wedding.
AITA For Threatening to Drop Out as Maid of Honor?
“A little backstory, I (30F) have been married for ten years to my husband, and a year ago, I had a really exhausting, traumatizing miscarriage after years of trying for a baby with my husband; in the aftermath, doctors told me I may be infertile forever.
This news of my dream of being a mother being crushed spiraled into about a six month long bout of depression and therapy. I’m doing MUCH better now, but it’s still a tender subject as I’m still going forth with medical treatments and surgeries to try and regain fertility of some sort, which I understand is my own fault, but I’m working on it.
Anyway, I have a best friend (of more than a decade) about to get married to someone she’s known for about a year, and I’m the maid of honor in the wedding. The spouse has always been a little standoffish of me, being really… sensitive when I try to talk to my friend or get her attention. My husband has joked that the spouse thinks I’m trying to steal my friend away, but I just laughed it off and ignored it.
Fast forward to a couple weeks ago. My friend and I are having a normal conversation and she mentions she’s trying to sell her house, which she bought by herself years ago. This is completely out of character for her, so I immediately ask what on Earth is going on to make her do that.
She answers, “We can’t have babies in this house.”
This is the first time I’ve heard about this in a serious tone rather than just what if scenarios, so I say, “I didn’t know y’all wanted to have kids! That’s awesome!”
She says, “Yeah, [my spouse] wants to have kids immediately after the wedding. They said we don’t want to be THAT weird couple that waits ten years into our marriage to have a baby.”
Immediately, I feel like I’ve been slapped in the face with a flaming bag of bricks. I’m mad. I’m sad. I’m upset. My heart is pretty much broken. So, I said, “Say that back to yourself. Don’t you think that’s something really weird and specific for your spouse to say?”
She basically freaks out, saying I’m overreacting and their spouse would never say anything rude on purpose, and she doesn’t want this to be a problem at the wedding.
For reference, this is NOT the first time the spouse has said something that bothered me, but this was the first time that I got teared up and genuinely upset about one of the comments. So, I calmly told my best friend, “I don’t know if I even want to be maid of honor if this behavior towards me continues.”
Now, my friend, her spouse, and the families think I’m being a complete a**hole about a simple little comment, and I’m kind of feeling like maybe I really was being way too sensitive?”
And here’s what folks on Reddit had to say about this story.
One person said that these are not just simple little comments, they are being cruel.
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Another reader said that these issues have nothing to do with the woman who wrote the post and the husband seems very controlling.
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This individual argued that the husband’s behavior is full of red flags.
Scary stuff…
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And finally, this Reddit user said that this woman was mistreated by pretty much everyone throughout this process and she was not to blame.
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