You call that a gift?

What were you thinking?!?!

Oh boy, that doesn’t sound too good…and it definitely doesn’t sound good from a wife to her husband.

But did this woman step over the line?

Check out her story below and let us know what you think in the comments.

AITA for not using my husband’s “hilarious” gift?

“H (29m) and I (26f) have been married for 4 years. I had a great job in sales before covid, but we found during the pandemic that things just worked better with H at work and me at home (he earns enough to support us both).

I never thought I’d end up being a “traditional” wife, but given that he’s the breadwinner, I sometimes feel as though i should pick up a lot of the slack at home. I’m not a great cook, but I’m sociable and enjoy being the hostess.

When H has friends over to watch soccer, I prep a huge tray of snacks, keep the beers on ice, and pop in with drink and food top ups during the game. I don’t stay to watch, but I do ask the guys how they’re doing etc, just polite chit chat. They all seemed into it and often comment that H has done well to have such a great wife. It’s a nice set up.

Last week, H came home with a beautifully gift wrapped box and said he’d got me a little something to wear when his friends are next over. I do my best to dress nicely when they’re round, so I figured it would be a pretty dress or something. He had this huge grin on his face so I was SO excited.

I opened the box to find a red latex mini dress and a ball gag. The gag was designed to look like a soccer ball and the dress is in his teams colour. I didn’t know what to say at first, I was so confused (he’s never been into anything like that, he’s very vanilla).

I asked if it was a joke and at first he said no and told me his friends wouldn’t believe how lucky he was if I walked in with the snacks like that. I can’t remember what I said next, but then he told me it would be hilarious if i wore it and I should lighten up. I gave it a nervous laugh and told him I thought it was funny too.

This morning, he’d put both items on my dresser and said he’s looking forward to seeing me in them when the guys are round tomorrow. I reminded him that he said it was a joke, he got a bit sulky and said he can’t believe I don’t have a sense of humour. But from what he’s saying, it sounds like he’s expecting me to wear it?

I’m so confused because 1) I don’t know if he’s done this as a joke because his friends think I talk too much, or 2) If he’d get off on me being humiliated. He says I’m being uptight and called me out for being an AH, but I honestly don’t think I’m unreasonable.


Check out what folks had to say on Reddit.

One person said she’s NTA at all.

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Another Reddit user said his friends probably thought this was uncomfortable, too.

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And this individual said she’s NTA and that this was weird and disgusting.

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