I don’t have kids, so I can’t imagine the anxiety and straight-up fear that first-time parents have.
And today we’re gonna focus on all the men out there who are gonna be proud papas!
Y’all ready for this?
Dads on AskReddit shared tips for the fellas who are expecting a little one for the first time.
Let’s take a look.
1. A good idea.
“It’s a good idea to check all clothes are really soft to touch, seams aren’t rough. and don’t go nuts about cleanliness.
Keep things clean, but don’t disinfect everything, as you don’t want your baby in a totally sterile environment.”
“The first 8 weeks are the most straightforward.
They’re not easy but pretty standard across babies, for the most part.
When they start crawling and walking, then you got problems.”
3. Walk away.
“Literally the doctor that delivered one of my kids said to me. “Don’t ever shake this child, if it won’t stop crying, put it in the crib and walk away. No child has ever cried itself to d**th”
4. Nobody’s perfect.
“I have 2 things to add about breast feeding. You can’t! But you can help.
For the middle of the night feedings, whether planned or unplanned, I would get up, get our daughter, check the diaper, and bring the baby to mom while mom does whatever to make herself comfortable. I nap while they feed. When done, I took her back to bed, checked the diaper and went back to bed where mom was asleep again. Its not much, but my wife appreciated it.
You can’t get that mother/baby feeding bond, but I took a different approach to getting that bonding moment-diaper change! It has to be done, so make it a dad/baby bonding thing. Don’t race. Its not the Daytona 500 where seconds count. Play with her/him while you clean them up. Find their feet, their nose.
Laugh when they giggle. Bond. Mommy makes the tummy better, dad makes the bottom better. Both are very important to baby. Of course I don’t mean you have to change all the diapers, just make the most of it when you do.
Have fun. Remember, you’re not going to be perfect. There’s a heck of a learning curve. Babies are tougher than they look, but still delicate.
Oh, that first morning you wake up and baby slept through the night is scary. You’ll be happy when it happens and everybody is fine, but it is scary when it happens.”
5. Remember the good times.
“Take pictures and make memories.
My wife says a lot how she takes pictures of me and the kids doing things but doesnt have any of herself and the kids. 5 years from now you’ll look back and say “wow, it feels like we just came home from the hospital yesterday.” Its not as horrible as some people make it out to be.
Even on the sleepy days, when the baby looks at you and giggles you realize its all worth it. Ya never know, the baby might just sleep like an angel through the night. Watching them learn and become more and more independent is a joy to watch.
One day at a time, one nap at a time, and dont get so wrapped up in parenthood that you forget you have to be a husband or boyfriend as well. You got this.”
6. Deal with it.
“A baby cannot be reasoned with.
Be patient. They may act illogically.
Deal with it.”
7. They’re listening.
“Your child understands a lot more than they can say. Talk to them like they’re people. Explain things that are happening to them – especially things that will hurt, like vaccines.
“This is going to hurt, but it’s to stop you getting sick and feeling bad,” can actually have a six-month old baby smiling sweetly at the nurse when they get jabbed, if you’re lucky.
Don’t lie to them. They won’t have the words, but the sentiment of “f**k you old man” can kick in early.”
8. Love ’em!
“Don’t be afraid to be affectionate with your child.
There’s nothing wrong with a man kissing and hugging his children, men should be able to do the same things their wives/partners do.”
9. Books and music.
“Read to your child. Every night, no matter what. Same book over and over? Fine. Instruction manual for the dish washer? Fine. Make it a habit.
Then sing some songs.
The child will always remember that time, even if it is not clear, it will be in there.”
10. They’re durable.
“This is for a bit later. When they start walking or even crawling. If they fall, give them a second.
Chances are they are ok and will watch your reaction to figure out how they should react. If you wait a moment to see they will often get up and go on like nothing happened. If you rush over and start fussing over them, they are more likely to learn to cry every time they fall. Kids are super durable.
Obviously it also depends on severity. If they climb a chair and fall off smacking their head on the floor you need to check on them immediately, but most small falls a kid takes are minor and they will take their cues from you.”
11. Night lights.
“Get a red light for night time feeding. The red light doesn’t disrupt sleep cycles the way white/blue light does.
Constantly speak to your baby, or as often as you can.
Read to the kid even if it seems silly at first.
And remember most of all that it really does feel like the years start flying by, but time flies when you’re having fun, right?”
12. Take it all in.
“Treasure every moment regardless of how challenging they may appear.
Allow your child to make mistakes.
Learn to listen.”
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