Hmmmm, I know how I feel about this one…but I’m gonna bite my tongue so my personal opinion doesn’t get in the way of what you or the folks below have to say.
What do you think about a 30-year-old dating a 19-year-old?
Here’s what AskReddit users had to say about this.
1. A bad idea.
“When I was 19 I wouldn’t have thought it was a big deal. But I was also a moron when I was 19.
Now that I’m 32, I think it’s a bad idea and unfair to the 19 year old. There’s a whole lot of life lived in those short years between 18 and 21/22, and I know for myself, I wasn’t “me” yet.”
2. Maturity gap.
“As a 29 yr old I don’t date unless people are 24-25+ It’s more so maturity gap and the phase in which most gals are in.
22-24 right outta college, not really settled down yet and still partying like they’re in college etc. and don’t know what they want.
I know not the same for everyone but that’s the main reason.”
“I’m a 20 y/o guy in college and I party and chill like I’m immortal.
I could not date a 25-30 year old.
I would feel like a child and I would feel like getting pressured into living the ‘adult life’.”
4. Different phases.
“This was me.
I (18m) met her (30f) when I was moving into the apt she was moving out of. I was going to school and she, into assisted housing. We were together about a year, and were talking about marriage when my parents asked me to come home, alone one weekend.
Stepping away helped me to see all of the possibilities. A fiery breakup ensued. Looking back, the age separation was one of the smaller issues. This was when I learned to walk away. She was done having her adventures. I needed to have my own.”
5. Do your thing.
“Honestly it’s your life and you don’t have to justify it to anyone.
As long as you’re not hurting people do as you please at your own pace!”
6. Changed your mind.
“I thought it was okay when i was in my 20s but now that im on my 30s its a big NO NO.”
7. No way.
“When you’re 19, you’re blinded. You think “oh wow, they think I’m so grown up, smart, and mature”.
Then when you’re older and you look at someone that age, there’s no way I could ever imagine even considering someone in their early 20s; let alone a teenager.”
8. Good analogy.
“It reminds me of the one story from Sam Morril where he talks about how his one friend had a really cool dad who s**ked weed with them, and how as a kid you’re like “wow this guy is so cool” but from an adult’s perspective it’s very uncool to s**ke weed with children.”
9. Doesn’t usually work out.
“When I was 20 I started dating my now-husband who was 30 at the time. We are now nearly-40 and nearly-50.
When I was 20 I thought I was plenty mature. Looking back I was NOT. There has been a number of things on which our being at different life stages was a much bigger deal than I would have anticipated.
I was very lucky that he is a generous and thoughtful person. It could easily have been otherwise. And without much life experience, I would not have known the difference quickly enough to not get hurt.
The difference really isn’t fair to both parties. It’s a rare situation where it works out ok. I wouldn’t count on it.”
10. Grossed out.
“I was dating a 33 year old man at 18. He started grooming me at 17.
I’m 24 now and even at this age I’ve started to realize how disgusting it would be to try and date someone that young.
I would never in a million years think it would be ok for me to date a teenager, let alone at 33??”
11. Lifestyle differences.
“As a 30 y/o, I have no interest in going to the club or bars or ragers, but I’d never want to hold someone else back from those experiences if they wanted them.
It’s just a matter of lifestyle.”
12. True story.
“Met my ex husband when I was barely 21 and he was 29.
Married for 24 years, most of them miserable for me. I guess the simple reason is that I grew up and changed, and he was already grown and stayed the same.
We’ve since both moved on to much more compatible partners, but he still says, “I never should have married someone so young!””
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