Some people are on the fence about it and some people just know deep down that it’s not a good idea for them.
I’m talking about the enormous decision to have children…or not to have them.
And obviously people have pretty strong opinions about this subject.
What are your reasons for never wanting to have kids?
AskReddit users shared their thoughts.
1. Been there, done that.
“I’m the oldest of 10, and I raised my baby sister from infancy to 6 years old, on top of being responsible for 6 siblings at the time (I’ve gained 3 since I escaped my situation).
Changing diapers and warming up bottles at 3 am as a pre teen pretty much k**led any desire I might have ever had.”
2. You only live once.
“I understand the immense responsibility & sacrifice they are and choose instead to work on myself and continue to nurture my own experiences and growth through the one life I have.”
3. Totally valid.
“Mental health – I have extreme anxiety and ADHD. I don’t want to have a kid and potentially put them through what I go through.
Pregnancy is terrifying to me. Never want to try it.
Spite. Got tired real quick always being told I’d be a great mother, even when I announced that I don’t like kids and never want any.”
4. Plain and simple.
“I don’t want kids.
There’s literally no other reason.”
5. You know yourself.
“I don’t want to go through birth, I don’t like the baby stage, children and toddlers are fun and can be adorable but not 24/7.
I like money and the piece of mind that I won’t do anything to screw up their lives, everyone I have said I don’t want kids to will say I told you so
And finally I’m not responsible or mature enough.”
6. Doing your own thing.
“I love my life too much. I h**e mess and noise. I love travelling whenever i like. I love going for trips and meals out with my husband. I love being able to do what I want whenever I want.
I dont want to spend my days listening to crying, arguing, whining, doing the school run in the rain and shopping for food. The planet has plenty of humans and we have done a great job of wrecking the planet and treat animal so cruelly – I dont want to add to that problem.”
7. Just being honest.
“I can barely handle a full-time job and taking care of a cat. I do not have the time, money, patience, or desire to raise a kid.
I want to live my life, not be weighed down with a responsibility I don’t want and wouldn’t be beneficial for me. I like having the freedom to not have to deal with all that.”
8. The list.
“I have too much trauma and I’m scared of raising a human where I could accidentally Project my trauma on to them.
-It is a big responsibility and idk if I can handle that.
-I have a lot of genetic Illnesses that I don’t wish on anyone.
-I don’t want to go thru childbirth and all that Jazz
-Oh also because people told me I will change my mind and now I just don’t want to out of spite.”
9. Having a blast!
“I like having my time and money to myself.
Fancy sitting in bed late, drinking beer and ordering takeout? I can do that.
Going out with friends at the drop of a hat with no worries? That too.”
10. Don’t like ’em.
“Because I don’t like children.
I don’t want to raise one for 18 years.
I’d rather put that money into my dream car.”
11. Society is at fault.
“Our society is structured so that nearly everyone but the wealthy are living hand to mouth.
I feel no security in my life and find life stressful. I can’t imagine how bad that would be if I had to worry about another soul.”
12. Puttin’ it all out there.
“Kids are expensive
I rather spend money on travel than children
I want to retire early
I only like children in small doses
I rather do drugs at Burning Man than raise a child. I don’t want to be that guy who tries to do both.
There is no decent return policy on kids.
I really like my me-time.
Every time I see people with kids, I have an overwhelming feeling of dread.
I find people who have kids a little boring, to be honest. Not always, but I know that their rockstar days are now behind them.”
13. Do what you want.
“Just never felt like I’d want to have kids when I was younger, and now (42, female) I wake up every single day with immense gratitude that I never had or never will have kids and it makes me so happy!
My life is my own, I do what I want when I want, and it’s very fulfilling. I don’t have the delusion that having children would somehow guarantee love or that I won’t be alone on my d**thbed. Lots of people are alone on their d**thbed anyway (I work in end-of-life care).
Also, given the state of the Earth with regards to climate change, I feel it’s kinda s**tty to keep making more humans. We probably can’t turn this ship around.”
Why do YOU never want to have children?
Let us know what you think.
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