The signs are everywhere…unfortunately we just fail to pick up on them sometimes…
But don’t get too down on yourself about it, we’ve all been there: someone likes you, they try to let you know in a roundabout way but you just don’t pick up what they’re putting down.
Hey, that’s life!
Let’s check out some stories about this phenomenon from AskReddit users.
1. What do you think?
“Girl lived across the hall in my college dorm.
She came over in just her new push-up bra to see what I thought of it.”
“This was way back in high school a good twenty years ago: she asked me and my buddy to walk her to her car, and while we were walking, she sidled up to me and grabbed my hand. We walked hand in hand all the way to her car.
She said she’s gotta go home or something…and so naturally I said something like “ok, drive safe!” and then amble away like a f*cking carrot.
My buddy is looking at me dumbfounded. Slack jawed. He chewed me out good: said something like “what is wrong with you??” I assured him that friends often hold hands, and it probably didn’t mean anything. If she reads this: sorry for being such a dunce.
A different girl, a couple years older than me, asked me to the prom…and I basically said “nah, I don’t think I’ll ever go to the prom”. I was certain she wanted to go as friends. That one I did realize and apologize for, because a friend of hers confronted me later saying it was humiliating.
I was, and remain, completely oblivious to human interaction sometimes.”
“When she said;
Yea, my bo*bs are big, you can grab them, i wouldn’t care…
I laughed……. w…t…f…”
“I was at a high school dance. I really wanted to dance with my crush and was preparing to ask her.
Then a girl from her group of friends came to me and asked me for a dance. I danced with her and then she casually asked me who I had a crush on(we were friend so it wasn’t weird). I procced to tell her.
When we finished dancing I asked my crush. She said no in front of all her and my friends. I cried in the bathroom. When i composed myself i went and enjoyed the night further.
I had noticed the girl i danced with first was crying but i didn’t think much of it because i was with my guy friends at the time. Thinking back i realized I crushed her heart.”
5. The Point.
“After work, she needed a ride home.
I let her drive my car because she wanted to drive a stick. She drove me to a secluded spot that only could have been described as “Makeout Point.”
I had to be somewhere, so I drove her home.
Yes. This is all real.”
6. The boss.
“My boss’s face became RED and had the biggest smile ever when I talked about inviting her to the dinner I was going to have for my birthday. She also became extremely sad when I said that I liked another woman.
It wasn’t until I stopped liking the other woman that I realized that my boss liked me. Worst part is that the other woman didn’t care for me in that sense at all(she is still a good friend though).”
7. A happy ending.
“She asked to bake brownies with me. She sent me bikini pics and a side bo*b pic showing her new tattoo. She asked to make chocolate covered fruit with me.
Called me to go out to eat with her on campus multiple times. I thought she was just being a nice friend
Update: We are actually engaged now 🙂 “
8. Pizza girl.
“There was this Domino’s Pizza stand at the community college I went to. Nothing fancy, they just had a couple pizzas in hotbags below the counter and would charge like $2 a slice, then pack it up and leave when they ran out.
Anyways, this pretty cute girl was usually working it, and I’d sit at a table right in front of it because there weren’t usually a ton of people around and I could play on my phone or do homework. Of course, I’d get a slice of pizza or two and eat while I sat there.
We ended up chatting every day I was there. Just shooting the sh*t, nothing special. After a while she started throwing an extra slice on my plate when I ordered and eventually she stopped charging me at all. Of course, my young, oblivious self with no self-esteem was just like, “Sweet, free food and someone to chat with!”
Towards the end of the semester we were talking one day and she told me that they weren’t gonna be doing the stand the following semester. I was just like, “D*mn, that sucks” and asked her what was gonna happen. This poor girl practically begged me to make a move, but I was just too f*cking stupid to see it.
I was talking about the pizza stand with a buddy of mine YEARS later who started at that juco after the stand was gone. I was telling the story and my interactions with this girl and was like, “Yeah, she was super cool and used to give me free pizza-” and I stopped mid-sentence and looked at nothing in particular and said, “Oh my god she had a crush on me.”
If you’re out there, Northwest MS Domino’s girl, I am so sorry I was so dense. It wasn’t anything against you, I’m just really dumb.”
9. Didn’t realize…
“My mom always told me to marry this one girl from high school. I told her about it and she was like “oh…wow that’s totally crazy right?? Would that ever happen?”
And I was like “no, we are too good of friends!” Girl was like “so not even a chance??” Didn’t realize she was crushed until college.”
10. Not a joke.
“She yelled “date me” after I walked away from her one time.
I thought she was joking.”
“One time this girl came over to my house.
She sat on my bed and said “you’re alone in your bedroom with a girl on your bed.”
And I was like “yep, that’s weird I guess…”
I was totally clueless.”
“We were watching TV at her house just us on the couch and some character in the show said something I can’t even remember now and she said to me “if we ever have s*x, that’s how I’m going to describe it”.
I think I just chuckled and said “oh really?” and that was pretty much it. We hung out a few more times and didn’t do anything and eventually she ghosted me and moved to another town.
I’m an idiot”
13. You missed the boat.
“‘Man, lately I’m just so horny all the time’.
I wish I were joking.”
14. Sorry, pal.
“Dude here, roommate had introduced me to a woman who said she wanted to get to know me.
On several occasions we’re in the backyard, watching a movie and having a bonfire, she’s got her legs across my lap, her one arm across my chest, and the other behind me, her head on my shoulder looking at me with the most obvious “kiss me” eyes anyone could have.
My dumb *ss decides to ask “What? Why are you looking at me like that?” and goes back to watching the movie.
Now engaged, with a kid. Her of course, not me, to a guy who knew the signs….”
15. A beeline.
“Making a beeline to sit on my lap on multiple nights out, repeatedly asking for my ‘help’ with buying stuff on eBay, inviting me specifically to a party at the end of our first year at uni. Those are just the ones I remember in hindsight.
Teenage me was about as attentive as a concrete bollard. All the more annoying since she was just the right sort of quirky and weird, and I’d have been all about her in a heartbeat if I’d realised.”
“There was a lot of touching from her. Just general flirtatious behaviour. Had another girl even comment on how cute we were. The icing on the cake was her kissing my forehead, and saying “I would not want to kiss you in the wrong place”.
I was way too young when I started college and was way too clueless around girls due to having a pretty sh*tty high school experience.”
17. Blew that one.
“Cute Friend: “Do you have a girlfriend?”
Cute Friend: “Are you dating someone?”
Me: “Nope. Not really.”
Cute Friend: “Wow. If you asked me out, I would date you.”
Me: “Ha. Thanks… ok bye”
Fast forward to a few years later
Me: “… hold up””
“In college I was in a girl’s apartment at 3am and she said “I’m really horny right now” and I sh*t you not, my response was “nice to meet you horny, I’m (name).””
19. Wakeup call.
“There was a girl in college who I had a crush on. One night, she described the “type” of guy who she’s attracted to.
She basically just described me, but since my self-esteem was so low at the time, I was like “d*mn I wish I was like that…” A few days later, my friends were discussing it and they were laughing at me for not making a move.
It was actually a huge wakeup call for me to get my mental health together.”
“She used to crash in my bed because her dorm was “too far away.” I really liked her and didn’t want to scare her off by taking advantage of her.
Thank god she liked ’em dumb.”
21. Too shy.
“In high school. She was gorgeous. She ended up wearing my leather jacket and said I was “mysterious.. and HOT!”
I just thought she was being nice. Sigh.. I was way too shy to do anything about it.”
22. You putz.
“She, along with my parents, helped me move into a new apartment. She was my then girlfriend’s old roommate and I thought of her as a friend.
As soon as my parents were out the door, she gave me a big grin, grabbed my hand, and started pulling me toward the bedroom. I thought it was her just making a joke.
What a putz I was…”
23. Let’s go check out the closet.
“A girl I had a crush on wanted me to hide in a closet with her in her bedroom to “scare her friend”. Waited in there for like 10 minutes and her friend never came into her house.
I think she wanted me to make a move…”
24. What do you mean?
“They wanted to buy chewing gum and asked what flavour to get. I asked why, they told me I’d be tasting it later.
Went straight over my head…”
25. You failed.
“Once a girl took me to my favorite tea place, bought it for me, then we went thrifting and she bought me buttons in a jar, and I still didn’t get it.
And she like sat very close to me and even wrapped her arm around my shoulders but. nope. her efforts failed so hard.”
26. Not too quick.
“Freshman in college and I was a moron.
“I heard you like Monty Python. Want to watch it in my room?”
Thought it was a totally common thing to hear in an American school.
Cut to: three episodes in, she’s sitting on my lap, arm around me, and asking me to stroke her legs. The most pressing thought in my mind was “she wanted to watch the show why isn’t she paying attention?”. I
don’t get it until she asks me if I want to kiss her. I turn her down because I promised my long-distance friend I would take her on a date later.”
27. It was pretty clear.
“She wrote “I want you in my pants” in my yearbook but I just thought she was joking, or was just something girls did.
She was one of those friends you don’t think about that way until one day you do. Man, I couldn’t have been more oblivious.”
28. Left behind.
“I had a coworker in a coffee shop I used to work at. Most beautiful girl I had ever met inside and out. I used to joke with one of our mutual coworkers that I would marry her in a heartbeat if I ever got the chance. We became really good friends.
Would go on midnight drives, sing songs the whole time. Go look at the stars while sitting on the roof. We would go get lunch together, and do art in her apartment. Talk for hours and hours about the things in life that others cant share.The whole shebang in retrospect… but I lacked the confidence to ever ask her out formally.
I was so afraid that she just valued my friendship, and that by asking her out I would cross some invisible line and lose all that time that I cherished. I never ever made a move. Time passed and she began dating someone else (a godd*mn Saint of a man) and I fell into a cycle of unfulfilling relationships.
Years later Im talking to our mutual coworker who I was still friends with. Turns out, after I stopped working there he asked her if she ever liked me in that way… She did.
I had a chance with a woman I can now only dream of, and now she’s married to the Saint, and I am alone typing up one of my deepest and most painful regrets on the internet.”
Has this ever happened to you?
DID YOU REALIZE LATER THAT YOU TOTALLY BLEW IT?!?!
Tell us your stories in the comments. Thanks!