The term “moral compass” is typically used to refer to some innate ability for a person to consistently align themselves with moral things or to experience guilt and regret when they fail to do so.
It’s such an intuitive concept that when we see it being apparently broken, it stops us d**d in our tracks.
What was a disturbing sign that your friend might have a broken moral compass?
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So what did Reddit witness that led them to believe someone they knew didn’t quite grasp right from wrong?
1. The Sociopath
My ex would questioned why I would share something (like dinner I made or my food/drink)that I paid for with my friends.
He couldn’t understand why I would do that without them giving me something in return.
– seatoc
2. Control Monster
A few years ago I was out with some friends, there was this guy who started humiliating his girlfriend in front of everyone, did everything he could to destroy her self esteem and brought her to tears.
When we were leaving he came to me and said “I felt really good tonight, I really felt like I was in control”.
And that’s how I lost my best friend ladies and gentlemen.
– loop_22
3. Cat’s out of the bag.
I had to stop her from drowning her cat in a kiddie pool, we were like 7 at the time.
I wonder what ever happened to her.
– ChosenSCIM
4. The Litterbug
When she cheated on her husband with a guy she worked with at a gas station, and then asked me to join them for a threesome, that was a big red flag flapping in the wind.
She also littered and thought it was funny. Literally threw trash out the car window driving down the road. Then giggled about it like she had gotten away with something.
She also invited me and my kids out to dinner one night by way of saying, “Let’s go to (restaurant) and let the kids run around and make a huge mess that we don’t have to clean up!”
Obviously, we are NOT friends anymore. She grew up in a very wealthy family (her mother’s last name is literally on a building in my city), attended private school, has a master’s degree in early childhood education and had every opportunity handed to her and still insists on acting like trash.
– YardSard1021
5. The Humiliator
I found out that a friend of many many years watched and shared a video of a d**nk and passed out co worker being undressed, posed and mocked. I never saw the video but it was a fairly big deal at our small company and the woman that it happened to kind of downplayed the incident as boys being boys but she was clearly very humiliated by the whole experience.
My friend and I were fishing with a group of friends a couple of years after the video was filmed and I walked up on him showing the video to others in our group with one stating “oh I remember when you sent me this, it’s so f**ked up”. They than began imitating the video and making fun of the woman’s weight.
I packed up and headed out immediately and said friend and I are basically just fb acquaintances now.
– upornicorn
6. The Betrayal
One that really disturbed me was when I told a friend I couldn’t trust them anymore, because they’d betrayed me too many times.
Instead of trying to apologize, they chuckled and said that was fine, fully expecting us to continue being friends.
They seemed to have no recognition of the fact that betraying people is a bad thing to do. It was a bit creepy.
– peneverywhen
7. The Weirdest Lies
After not talking for months, my friend (ex), called me at 7AM crying about popping a tire and being stuck with her dogs. It was like -10 degrees so I called in sick to work, drove to where she was, and bought a spare on the way.
It turned out my jack wasn’t for an SUV so I went and bought one and came back. Changed the tire while freezing my balls off, by the end I couldn’t feel my hands or face. I honestly didn’t expect a thank you and didn’t care she didn’t thank me.
But when I got home I saw she made a long post on FB about some guy ‘saving her life.’ It actually made me real happy… until I saw it was about the homeless dude, who unsolicited, simply pointed to where I should put the jack (I did give him a 20 for the advice and because holy s**t, it was cold). She made a whole story up about a conversation that didn’t happen (she never got out of the car) and actually made fun of me for giving money away when I hopped in the car.
I still have absolutely no clue why she did any of this or how she benefited from lying here
– MidRangeSauce
8. How you treat the least of these.
Was at an indoor playground for a kids b day party.
He was turning 3, and most kids were around that age or a couple years older. My 2 kids were playing in the mess of pre Covid bodies. I was shooting the breeze and walking around with the birthday boys dad. He’s been a friend/ acquaintance for a few years by that point through family.
We see a 2 year old kid crying in a corner. He’s losing it. He’s Somali- American, pretty easy to point out his family. I quickly notice he’s out of their sight line and vice versa. I lean in and tell him his family is over their. Well the birthday boys dad, leans in and loudly yells “SHUT THE F**K UP!” He then nudges my shoulder, laughs, and walks away.
I flagged down one of the kids older siblings and pointed him out. Then moved on with my life.
But I couldn’t get over the way my “friend” treated a d**n child. A d**n toddler. Was it a power move? Was it a race thing? Was it all of it? Either way it was a big red flag. I kept my distance from him other than amicable conversation till they moved away.
The more I think about it the more uncomfortable it makes me.
– thePETEY12
9. The Backstabbers
When they have no problem talking about other friends behind their back in a negative way.
You can be certain they are doing it to you as well.
– broadsharp
10. The Snoop
he tried to get me to look through my friend’s messages.
(I had access to her account because she couldn’t post one day so she asked me too.)
it was during a fight and he tried to convince me that it wasn’t a big deal
– Advanced_Block2725
11. Blind Hatred
A guy in a group I was involved with was quite the p**sy hound. Slept with everyone- younger, older, whoever. Then came the time a member of the group who was blind and traveled a long way to an event went home with him and they had s**.
Afterward she asked for a ride home as the buses weren’t running, which he refused.
She asked how she’s supposed to get home then, and he replied, “I don’t know, and I don’t care.”
He was rejected by the group after word got out about this.
From then on, people in the group called him Firstname F**k-over-a-blind-chick Lastname whenever referencing him.
– MentORPHEUS
12. The Cheat
When I exposed his gf for cheating on him with a dude at a party that my friend threw. She was inside the washroom with the dude for an hour while my friend was passed out d**nk in his room.
He stopped talking to me a week later. This was my best friend of 12 years.
– Responsible-Chard515
13. The Kiss
She kissed my then-boyfriend during MY birthday party.
That was the end for me.
She has no respect and I couldn’t trust her any more after that.
– Excellent-Elk-1435
14. I can dish it out, but I can’t take it.
When they like to beef with others just because, quoting their own words, «I’m bored».
Yet when someone is joking about them they cannot handle it.
– Gurkeprinsen
15. Awful Parenting
She started neglecting her children. I anonymously called CPS twice.
They came and never took the kids.
2 years passed, I cut ties and her children are finally in the custody of their grandparents.
– PoonGoon8
16. The Story Stealer
This isn’t as “shocking” on the broken moral compass scale as others but it was crazy to me.
I had a good friend from growing up but we drifted apart. It sucked as I got the impression that he was purposely freezing me out.
Anyway, a couple of years ago I threw a party at a bar when I took a new job and invited him. At one point in the evening he told this hilarious story about some shenanigans from back in college. Everyone was laughing….except for me because I know the story and it’s my f**king story! He wasn’t even there.
We didn’t go to college together and the story includes details specific to my college town. He’s heard the story before and at some point he just substituted me out of the story.
– M-Test24
17. The Worst Mom
When she screamed expletives at her elderly dog for being “gross” he wasn’t gross, he was just old. He’d come over to her for pets and she’d shove him away and scream at him. I always gave him extra love when I could.
Our friendship ended when we were 16, haven’t seen her since I was 20, almost 7 years ago. She k**led her 2 month old baby a little over a year ago. So glad that friendship ended when it did.
– -teaqueen-
18. The Affair
Bragged to me about having an affair with an engaged guy because he was kind of famous.
I still see her post Instagram stories of her acting buddy-buddy with the dude’s now-wife and it gives me the heebie jeebies.
– analognewb
19. The Perv
I had a best-friend break up in middle school that ended because he kept talking about how hot a third grader was (we were in eighth) he ended up getting arrested later I’m sure you can guess why
– unstable-Equinox
20. The Zealot
“But if you don’t believe in God, what stops you from stealing things or committing m**der?”
What stops me is an understanding of right and wrong, not a fear of divine retribution.
This is especially concerning in a person who seems to be losing their faith.
– JackofScarlets
21. The Barf Bro
Not a friend but a coworker back in college. He was bragging about how wasted he got one night in his dorm and ended up vomiting on his math book.
“But that’s okay! I went to class the next day and sat next to some guy, and just when class was letting out I switched my book with theirs. Isn’t that funny?”
Yeaahh… Some random student paid $140 for a textbook and ended up with one with your biohazard all over it? Good one, “bro.”
– Von_Moistus
22. The Thief
We were shopping at the mall. We went into a little store and she asked if I could hold something in my bag for her. Thinking it was her wallet or something, I said yes.
I turned around and realized she was asking me to put stolen merchandise in my bag.
I immediately closed my bag and left her there with said item.
There was no way I was getting caught with that s**t on me and getting the blame.
I ended that friendship then and there.
– ithasanidea8597
23. The Cat K**ler
It was a childhood friend who I lost contact with, but she and her family had a cat that they often allowed to get kittens. We asked her once what they did with the kittens when they were older and she told us “daddy either sells them and those we can’t sell, we drown in the fish pond”
As a kid, I didn’t fully understand what she meant with that (I was very little and couldn’t imagine someone doing this) but my parents didn’t let us go over there that often after that.
– Lark1987
24. The Instability
She and her then husband took their two young sons with them to an o**y at their clients house.
After she divorced husband, she got with a mentally unstable alcoholic-as-f**k dude that pulled a loaded gun to her head in front of her son. He’s arrested, she dumps him til he’s let out of jail and gets right back with him.
There’s a lot more insanity but those were the two things that made me step away from that person. F**kin yikes
– yellowlabbies
25. The “Joker”
He made crude comments to a woman walking alone around 11pm. He had a couple of beers in him and we had left the bar to walk to another one about five blocks away. We are at a darker area of the walk and there was no one nearby, at least not in front of us.
She went real quick from greeting us to getting a scared look on her face. I apologized for my friend, told him to shut his d**n mouth or I would deck his a**. We never even went to the other bar. I was just so p**sed at him for needlessly scaring that poor gal.
I talked to him the next day about it, he didn’t see what the big deal was as she should have known he was joking. That was it after that, never really hung out with him again.
– mayoroftheed
26. The Rocker
My cat was sleeping under a rocking chair with her tail under one of the rocking legs.
He said it would be funny if someone sat in the chair and rolled over her tail. I asked if that was supposed to be a joke and he started to reach for the chair to give it a rock.
I’ve never kicked anyone out of my apartment faster than I did that day.
– angry_centipede
27. The Psychopath
When she sided with my ab**ive bf at the time, and would say things to try to get us to fight.. and talk about how she recommended us having a threesome even though I stated I’d be too jealous, and she brought it up again later. & when she told me how when she was a kid the counselor diagnosed her with psychopathy.
Then when that bf cheated on me and we broke up, she told me that he was her friend too and acted like I was crazy
– MysteriousTraining72
28. The Manipulator
Whenever he talks about work or some sort of side project, he never fails to bring up his love of money.
He’ll also interject how good he is at “persuading people” (aka, manipulating them) whenever the topic of business comes up.
He’s also flat out said how good he is at being fake towards people and has clearly stated he doesn’t care about others as long as he gets what he wants.
To make a long story short, I only ever talk to him when I can’t physically avoid him.
He’s honestly a very off-putting person that used to be my best friend.
– Ghostinthemachinima
29. Upstairs/Downstairs
My friend has separate utensils and crockery for the working staff at her apartment. Like the security guard, housekeeper, cleaning lady and gardener all have separate utensils kept near the “servants restroom”.
Once I made tea for the guard and poured in the same mugs as us and she lost her s**t. Her explanation was that we don’t use the same things as our workers who are below us and gave a totally out of context bible verse to explain slavery and how it’s important to keep the working class below us.
After that incident me and my friends avoid hanging out with her and go to her apartment.
– Raphael63
30. The A**ser
When he started openly a**sing his girlfriend and insulting her because she was bis**ual, as well as just how he treated women in general.
It just became clear he was a massive s**ist but it only came out in high school when he actually got into relationships.
– tetsuneda
If you see any of this: r u n.
Have you had these sorts of experiences with people? How did you react?
Tell us about it in the comments.
