The truth hurts sometimes…but once in a while, you also just have to lay it all out there!
And that’s what this guy did when he told his family why he didn’t invite his brother to his wedding.
Was he an a**hole?
Let’s take a look and see…
AITA for announcing the reason why I didn’t invite my brother to my wedding and exposing him to the entire family?
“I (M30) got married 2 weeks ago. I was married before but it ended after I found out that my older brother Thomas (M34) got involved with my first wife. It was devastating because we were close and had a great relationship. I also helped him so much while he was struggling and seeing how he repaid me hurts to this very day.
I stopped talking to him and Mom and dad forced me to keep it a secret and because I was too weak to argue with them, I just kept my own distance.
Then I met my now wife. my family loved and embraced her as their own. mom and dad treat her like a queen which helped repair and solidified my relationship with them. However, as the wedding was approaching they told me they expected me to invite Thomas. I of course refused but they kept guilting me about what the relatives and other guests would think and say when they don’t see Thomas there. I fought with them about it til the day of the wedding. Turned out they’d invited him behind my back but I found out and stopped them in time.
They came to the wedding looking pi**ed asking what we were going to tell people when they ask about Thomas. I told them I’d take care of it. and what I did was take a moment while everyone was paying attention, grabbed the mic and flatout announced this and said “the reason I didn’t invite Thomas to my wedding is because I was worried he’d steal my now wife just like he stole the first one” I said it playfully to not make it sound so tense but most of the guests looked shocked and started mumbling then it went awkwardly quiet for a moment. then we moved on but I saw Mom and Dad walk out while looking at me grudgingly.
Later they started lashing out about how I just exposed Thomas and caused him to be shunned by the family in the most hideous of ways. I told them that I already said I didn’t want him there yet they tried to push him on me repeatedly saying “what are people going to say” so I told them the reason why he wasn’t there in a playful way but they (the guests) still got the message. Mom started yelling about how everyone will now look down on and shun Thomas, she called me pathetic and cruel for still punishing him and gradually ruining his life despite him apologizing and trying to reconcile but in my opinion? somethings are just unforgivable.
We’ve been on horrible terms since then. AITA? My wife said at least now they’re off my back about what people would say about not inviting him.
Here’s what Reddit users had to say about this.
One reader said that maybe he wasn’t being an a**hole to his parents but maybe he was to his new wife…
And this person made a good point about what went down.
Another Reddit user said he’s NTA and that his brother brought this on himself.
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