Yowza…this story from Reddit’s “Am I the A**hole?” page doesn’t sound very good…
In fact, it sounds like this husband and wife have some serious issues they need to resolve.
But today, we need to figure out if this guy was rude for what he said to his wife.
Take a look and see what you think.
AITA for telling my wife she was causing a scene and not defending her with my mom?
“I (42) have a step daughter ‘Liz’ (17) from my wife ‘Kate’ (42) first marriage.
Me and Kate also have a daughter ‘Emma’ (3) together. Liz doesn’t call me dad and usually refers to me as Mr my last name. I’ll be honest that this bothered me a little, but this is what Liz feels comfortable with so I never pushed it. We’re not close but we have a good relationship overall, and she loves Emma.
We weren’t able to get together with my side of the family over Christmas, so my family had a late Christmas/New Year’s gathering where my mom gave her Christmas gifts for the grandkids. She got Emma some toys and Liz a sketch pad (she’s an artist so it’s not a random gift). Liz (and Kate) were disappointed, and Kate pulled my mom aside later (I was around) to say she shouldn’t have given the gifts out in front of everyone and Liz is hurt.
Basically my mom ended up replying she went out of her way to get Liz a gift as a grandma, when Liz doesn’t even consider me any kind of father figure. If they (Liz and Kate) have such an issue with the gifts, they can go ask Liz’s real father for a gift.
Kate caused a bit of a scene and didn’t take that comment well, and said my mom has “no respect” for them. I tried to calm it down, and I did tell mom she was being a little harsh. I also told Kate she was causing a scene and blowing this up for no reason, and she was the one nitpicking about gifts and mom just responded to her.
Kate later got angry with me for saying that and said I should’ve defended her. It’s been a couple of weeks and she’s still a little upset with me. I don’t think I’m really in the wrong here and most of my family agree. My brother said I should post on here if this is still causing issues, so AITA?”
And here’s what Reddit users had to say.
One person said this guy’s mom needs to stay out of his family business.
And another reader said he’s an a**hole and his wife should divorce him.
Another individual said this behavior is truly evil.
What do you think?
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