This doesn’t sound good, friends…
In fact, I think you can file this story under “Big Time Family Drama”…because it sounds pretty dramatic to me!
But we want to hear what you think.
Talk to us in the comments and let us know if you think this guy acted like an a**hole.
AITA for wearing my wedding ring to my sister’s wedding against her wishes and “hijacking” her night?
“My sister (29f) got married last Saturday. The ceremony was beautiful and I enjoyed myself as much as someone who is famously not a wedding guy could. The dramatics were not quite as enjoyable.
I (27m) hadn’t seen my family in a few months, and we’ve only had a handful of phone calls over the course of those months. It’s never on purpose that I pull one of these disappearing acts, it’s mostly out of habit.
I’ve been fiercely independent for most of my life and I get easily caught up in whatever I’m doing at the time that makes it hard for me to remember to keep those not in my direct line of sight in the loop. My mother is the same way. (It’s also nice visiting around times when big events like this are going on as my mom is prone to hovering whenever I’m home, and this takes some of the spotlight off me.)
I had been in Ireland around 8 months prior to flying in last Thursday. I was originally there to spend two weeks with my best friend who, thanks to the aforementioned one track mindness I possess, I had unfortunately grown apart from within recent years.
Ours was a friendship that had started since we were 14 and was one of the most important relationships in my life for over a decade, and I wanted to put more effort into it so I didn’t lose it. He was spending time overseas as to reconnect with his heritage since his father’s passing, I was already traveling, and my stay obviously turned out to be a lot longer than two weeks.
It also turned into us getting married. Funny how life works out.
About two weeks before our trip the states for my sister’s wedding, I sent out a mass email to close family letting them know that me and my husband were married. I wanted to assuage any possibility of us ‘stealing any thunder’ right from the get go. My mom replied that she was hurt that she wasn’t told sooner or allowed to be there, which I understood.
It seemed her mood flipped by the time we met in person, however. Rehearsal dinner was on Friday, and that was where we all met up for the first time.
My mom was overjoyed to see me and my partner and spent a large part of the night telling stories about she had always predicted there was something different about my friendship with him compared to others I was close with in high school. It was a very sweet moment. But at the end of the night, my sister pulled me aside and asked if we would not wear our wedding rings to her ceremony.
I was confused, so I asked why. She said I was taking the attention off her and she was already bitter than I was ‘hijacked’ her rehearsal dinner. More family might take notice if I wore my ring tomorrow and cause a similar incident. I refused. Like I mentioned before, the ceremony was beautiful but she didn’t speak to me for the rest of the weekend and we ended up leaving the reception early.
Now let’s see how people reacted on Reddit.
One person blamed what happened here on the busybodies who asked him about his ring.
Another reader said he’s an a**hole and this is his fault.
And one Reddit user said he could’ve held off but he ended up stealing her thunder.
What do you think about what happened?
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