I don’t really know any people who have A TON of money, but I have noticed one thing about the ones I have met: they don’t “look” rich at all and they actually dressed kind of like slobs.

At least the ones I met…I guess they didn’t want people to know they were wealthy, or something like that.

Folks took to AskReddit to talk about what they think screams “I’m rich.”

Let’s have a look.

1. No sweat.

“Keep a business afloat for two years during a pandemic with very little income coming in.

I’m grateful for my boss and I hope his vintage Rolls Royce gets finished soon.”

2. Where do you summer?

“I went to a more prestigious university for graduate school, one of the top in my country. I come from a blue collar, working class family.

I walk into my class on the first day, these two girls are sitting next to me catching up.

Girl: Where did you summer this year? Oh, we went to Germany and Italy, spent some time in France. How about you?

Other girl: Oh, nothing too exciting. We spend a lot of time at our family cottage in (insert ridiculously expensive cottage country area for the rich, celebrities own entire islands on these lakes).

That’s when I learned “summering” is a thing.”

3. Pricey.

“Buying new furniture, not from Ikea or the like.

That s**t is expensive.”

4. Time is money.

“If your time is worth more than your money.

For example, as a lawyer, if I bill out at $600/hour, I would have to save at least $100 for me to take 10 min to do anything that I could otherwise bill.”

5. Subtle.

“A friend of mine from Catholic school where they wore uniforms said expensive belts and shoes were rich kid indicators.

I guess it was a matter of degrees. It was an expensive school so everyone was doing ok, but if a kids rocking To Boot New York kicks, their parents are balling.”

6. Charming.

“Through my work as a lawyer, I have a number of wealthy clients.

The most common trait between them is an easy-going demeanor along with a bit of a sense of entitlement, though not so much in a rude way. They are used to getting their way and are usually able to accomplish it through some combination of charm and money.

A likeable charmingness is another common trait. It may be that most of the wealthy people I know are business owners, and their good manners and conversation skills go a long way in their course of business.

There could be a bit of a bias here just because I don’t really know any really wealthy people other than “small” business owners, but I have scarcely met a brash or rude person with real wealth so far as I know.”

7. What’s a job?

“A rich kid at university once asked me with a straight face why I was working over the summer instead of going abroad to have a break.”

8. All kinds of gear.


Went on a hike/bike/kayak tour or the Sipan islands and my wife and I got to know this slightly older couple that was with us. As other posts will say they wore very non descriptive clothes. Upscale leisure athletic, I would call it, but what screamed “rich” to me were the little things.

Dude’s watch was super high end, their equipment was top notch and their custom bikes were easily 5K each. Turns out they are both lawyers making oodles of money and travel when they get good deals.”

9. The ultra rich.

“I grew up poor but my mother sacrificed 30% of her annual salary to send me and my sister to private grammar and high school.

Because of this, I received a scholarship to a good college and I have had a very good career and have been living amongst the wealthy for many years. However, I still feel like an anthropologist in a strange country.

Here’s what I’ve learned about the ultra rich:

They don’t care what you think. The wealthy and wannabes may buy the Gucci and the LV but the ultra wealthy buy comfortable clothes by designers you’ve never heard of. Even better, they go with the classics. Levi’s. Converse.

The ultra wealthy are far kinder than the rich. Rich people generally tend to be anxious and a**holes because they don’t believe what they have will last. And they’re grasping. The ultra rich know what they have is enough. More than enough. So they don’t have much of a reason to be a**holes.

I have met at least six billionaires. At least those are the ones I know of. In personal settings they are quite kind. In business, they are ruthless as hell. The rich can be rude and often are. The ultra wealthy are not typically.

They pay for experiences more than things.

They pay for quality. Every. Single. Time. A Patek Philippe watch will appreciate in value. Your $700 watch will not. (Unless you are extremely lucky). Their furniture lasts longer than yours.

They would rather buy once because they don’t have the time or the desire to think about it more than once. I’m talking about the ultra wealthy not just rich. They appreciate quality. Think well running Mercedes station wagon with 200k miles on it. That’s a badge of honor.

They don’t complain about what something costs if it’s what they wanted but they will complain endlessly if it’s not perfect. They will gladly overpay for craftsmanship. Screw it up and they have no qualms stiffing you. In their eyes, you reneged.

If you are leasing a vehicle because you think that’s what wealthy people do, you’re making a mistake. Wealthy people expense vehicles through their business. That’s an accounting expense thereby lowering their tax base. For regular folks doing it you’re basically burning money.

They understand that getting their kids into the best college possible is more a branding exercise than an educational exercise. The information in the text book is the same wherever you go. Having that stamp of approval and that ivy league T-shirt for the rest of your life is a whole different ball game.

I have not figured out the whole tipping thing. I believe that the ultra wealthy think that tipping extravagantly is gauche. Many of them just follow the 20% rule because they don’t know anything better and don’t want to seem crass.

I assume that a waiter would not care. The self-made ultra wealthy appreciate the effort more and tend to tip more.”

10. Be on the lookout.

“Steve Jobs never had a license plate on his car.

He’d always lease for five months and 29 days, because in California you have to get a license plate within 6 months. His assistant would drop off his lease and pick up a new one.

I used to live in the Bay Area and saw him leave Apple and head straight into the carpool lane at full speed. He never cared about getting ticketed.”

11. Perfect fit.

“Tailored clothing.

Yes, they wear “plain” jeans and t-shirts but often that clothing is tailored to fit.

Which is why it looks better than normal.”

12. Lookin’ sharp.

“Perfect skin and good teeth.

Rich people can afford to go to doctors and medical professionals for their appearance. I had a friend who worked for a skin doctor. He let her train on her friends with some new products and apparently, it’s a thing where you go in on a regular basis and your skin smooths out, all the weird spots go away and you just glisten like Arwen or Galadriel.

I did get to go in for one practice treatment and the other folks waiting in the room had amazing skin. Ever since then, I could spot moneyed women just by their complexions. Also, a good number of them.. you can spot if you know fabrics really well and how they are supposed to drape when well made.”

13. Time is money.

“Spend money if it saves you time.

Time is more valuable than money.”

14. Who is that?

“Dressing like a hobo inside exclusive clubs and be served as the most important person there.”

15. Didn’t notice.

“Not noticing you haven’t been paid in two months.

I work with some people that make $20k a month. We had one say in March they didn’t think they’d been paid since December.

Sure enough two months didn’t pay out for some reason. He wasn’t even mad and just kind of mentioned it like he was talking about the weather.

If I miss a paycheck I’d notice on payday.”

16. The types.

“There’s honestly “types” or “cliques” of uber rich people I’ve seen.

There’s the Bill Gates type that wear t-shirts and jeans because they literally could not be bothered to care about fashion.

There’s the ones that REALLY care about fashion but only care about brands most normal people won’t ever see in a store, no Gucci or Prada or Fendi.

Then there’s the ones that are all about boutique style fashion where something doesn’t particularly look expensive or have a name brand associated with it but is still like $400 for a sweater.

I haven’t met many rich people but the few I do know are big into finding expensive clothes at small stores.”

17. Totally chill.

“The only real tell is the air of total chill he has.

He’s not worried about much.

Money insulates you from really a lot of stress.”

18. The little stuff.

“They will never complain about the cost of something but will nit-pik the quality of work to d**th.”

19. No big deal.

“I was at a really posh restaurant (you know the kind where there are about 8 pieces of silverware?) we had saved up for months and a group of 8 of girls (nurses and CNA’s) went out.

One of the recently divorced nurses was flirting with a guy at the next table.

When we got our checks he leaned over and tossed his platinum card on the “I got this”. Like combined our tab was easily at least $1,000.”

20. A lot of trash.

“I lived in lower middle class neighborhood after getting married.

There was one house in the neighborhood that was much bigger, had a pool, new cars every year but what drove me crazy was every week this family of 4 put 7 or 8 garbage cans at the curb.

Most families had one maybe 2. How much s**t are they buying to generate all that trash?”

21. We all have one, right?

“I once vaguely knew a family who were very rich. Even the kids had bodyguards (kidnap-ransom risk).

When I stayed at their home for a weekend on a visit, the father casually mentioned not to push a certain button in the room, when I asked what it did out of interest he explained off-hand that it was a panic button to alert security and bodyguards in the grounds, like it was the most natural thing in the world.

They were impeccably polite with me but I felt like Oliver Twist wandering into the wrong home.”

22. Plain clothes.

“Working at a luxury resort, one thing I’ve noticed is that the people who want to give the air of being very wealthy will have lots of designer patterns on their clothes and accessories, like Louis Vuitton print, but almost all of the truly ridiculously wealthy people will basically wear nondescript leisure wear and really plain looking clothes (like plain jeans and tees with no logos).”

23. It’s true.

“Buying art.

Tons of people buy things that are generally outside their means but I don’t think you’re gonna see many middle class or poorer walking out of a gallery with an actual purchase.”

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