There’s a lot of family tragedy in this story, FYI.
But this young woman felt it was serious enough to ask the good people on Reddit’s “Am I the A**hole?” page if she was out of line for saying that she raised her sisters after their parents passed away.
Read on to see what happened.
AITA for saying I “raised” my two younger sisters?
“My (28F) parents d**d when I was 18 and my twin sisters were 11, from a car crash. We had no other relatives to take my sisters in. I was about to start college.
Thankfully, my parents left us a very generous life insurance payout and a wealthy trust—enough to last my sisters and I through college and some years after with appropriate housing and living expenses. I didn’t take any chances with the money. I smartened up and talked things out with my parents’ financial adviser to make sure we would be set. I proceeded to college and took a part time job just in case.
I knew I wasn’t in a capacity to handle my sisters full time and we absolutely had nobody else to go to, so I explained the situation to them (with a counselor present) and enrolled them in a private boarding school. I kept tabs on them all throughout their education: I spent as many weekends and my holidays with them.
I went to PTCs, as many recitals and games as I could—even helped them shop for prom dresses. I was very involved in their life. I also made sure to schedule them sessions with a therapist and received constant updates from their guidance counselor.
My sisters ended up graduating with no trouble, and they’re lovely, well adjusted human beings both in college now. I am now a college lecturer doing my PhD. We have a close relationship and I am so lucky that they have been kind and understanding throughout the years.
I spent the weekend with a friend’s (28M) family last weekend and they asked me about myself, all the usual. Somewhere in the conversation I said “I raised my sisters” and my friend’s sister disagreed.
She said the boarding school raised them and I shouldn’t take credit for that. I disagreed and said I fulfilled the role of a parent, so yes I raised them from age 11 onward. She said I was an a**hole for pretending to be a parent, and I give “real parents” a bad name.
Weekend went downhill after that and I didn’t feel comfortable after. Friend and his parents are on my side but the sister’s now posting passive aggressive stuff on social media.
Now let’s see what Reddit users said about this.
This person said that this woman did nothing wrong and should be proud of how she raised her sisters.
And this Reddit user made a very good point…check it out.
This individual agreed and said she went above and beyond in this situation.
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