One of my philosophies in life is that if it’s someone’s birthday, you do whatever they want that day and don’t give them a hard time about anything at all.
It’s their one special day, so just make it work!
But you know how married folks can be…
And the woman who wrote this story on Reddit’s “Am I the A**hole?” page wants to know if she was out of line for telling her husband that he ruined her birthday.
Get all the details below and see what you think.
AITA for telling my husband he ruined my birthday…. again?
“Background: Today is my 28th birthday, I am really into birthdays and holidays and believe in celebrating them to the max, and this is well known to everyone.
I’m also the planner and the giver in not only my family (husband and kids) but my extended family (parents, siblings, friends, etc), so I’m the one that plans birthday get togethers, gifts, travel etc. I’m also a SAHM due to having a son with complex medical and behavioral needs.
I’ve been with him 24/7 for the last week as it’s school break and he’s extremely clingy and has behavioral problems due to mental illnesses. I also had a upper respiratory cold during this time, sore throat, fever, cough, runny nose, ear ache. But kept up with mom duties nonetheless.
My husband’s birthday was last month and as usual I planned something for him. Weekend in a town a couple hours away for us and our kids.
For my birthday I tell him I just want help with the kids, the house cleaned, a nap, and him to cook supper or take me out. Maybe a homemade gift from the kids and a cake.
Yesterday, my husband starts complaining of a sore throat. I check his throat and looks fine. No fever or other symptoms. He stays up all night playing video games.
This morning he says he is sick, but has no visible symptoms. No fever, no cough, no runny nose, doesn’t sound like someone with a cold. He says his throat hurts but spent an hour on XBox live talking just fine.
He naps all day because he says he’s sick, I think it’s because he stayed up until 4 a.m. playing video games. Meanwhile I make my own cake, take care of the kids as usual, and do my usual chores. He didn’t even tell me happy birthday.
Finally I decided to take the cake I made with the kids to my parents house to have supper there so I didn’t have to cook. I’m pretty crabby at this point and don’t say a word before we leave. He calls and asks why we left. I tell him because he ruined my birthday yet again and I’m trying to salvage it at least a little and hung up. He called back and said I was overreacting. He’s sick and I’m an adult, birthdays aren’t a big deal anymore after 21.
So AITA for wanting 1 day to be the receiver instead of the giver? To celebrate myself?”
And here’s what Reddit users had to say.
One reader said she’s NTA and that it sounds like her husband doesn’t even like her.
Another person said he should have gotten it together and acted like an adult for her birthday.
And this reader said she’s NTA and there are clearly some communication issues going on here.
What do you think?
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Thanks a lot!