Nobody likes to be told that they’re making a big mistake.
Especially when you tell someone that they’re making a mistake by getting pregnant.
But that’s what we’re dealing with here, folks!
Check out this woman’s story and see if you think she acted like an a**hole.
AITA for not congratulating my sister in law on her planned pregnancy and telling her she’s making a mistake instead?
“My brother works as a car rental agent and his salary is not livable at all. His wife is a stay at home mom for their 4 year-old, so, he’s the sole provider and he’s been receiving a fixed sum from both my mom and other sister to keep things afloat. I also helped a few times when I could.
Some time ago, my sister in law told me she wanted another child because she didn’t want their son to be an only child and asked me what I think. I advised her against it and told her to either wait till my brother gets promoted or till she gets a job. I told her it would be realistically impossible to provide for another child when you’re barely coasting by and that she was still young (27yo). I also told my brother the same thing.
About three weeks ago, my brother calls me all happy and tells me his wife is pregnant. I told him great, I wish you good luck and soon hang up. I never called sister in law to congratulate her nor went over to their place for the baby shower (told them I was busy.)
Yesterday, we had dinner at our parents’ house and I inevitably met my sister in law. She told me you know I’m pregnant with an excited tone. I told her yeah I know, that’s great I wish you good luck. She then said so? That’s it? I asked her what she meant and she said aren’t you happy for us?
I told her my feelings are irrelevant here and their decision is up to them. She told me of course they matter and begged me to please honestly tell her what I think. So I told her I frankly think you’re making a mistake and this innocent child is going to suffer the consequences of your selfishness.
You are not ready to care for another little life when you can’t even pay your bills. How long do you think my mom and sister are gonna support you?
She interrupted me and said what the hell, that’s none of your f**king business. I only asked you out of politeness but you really didn’t hold back at all. I told her you’re the one who told me to be honest. She said that I told you to be honest with me not be a douche. She then called me an a**hole and went off to complain to my brother.
I didn’t want to entangle with them and grabbed my purse and left. Some time later my mom calls me fuming and tells me I had no right to make any comment whatsoever. She said I should have congratulated them properly and left it at that. That even if she was the one who asked for my opinion I should’ve known better than to hurt her with those words.
I think my words might have been pretty hurtful and I went too far. AITA?”
Now let’s see how folks reacted on Reddit.
This reader said she’s NTA and she was asked to give her opinion.
Another individual also said she’s NTA and she was only being honest.
And this person said they think they know what the sister-in-law is really after here…
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