Sometimes, people just have to be put in their places…
Especially if they’re talking trash!
So is it wrong to call someone out when they label you with a less-than-flattering term?
Check out this woman’s story and see if you think she went too far…
AITA for telling my boyfriend’s friends I make twice what he does, when they called me a gold digger and he didn’t defend me?
“I’m in a relationship with a guy who also works in tech. He makes 68k and I make 130k. I am a mechanical engineer at a robotics startup. He works at a more stable job doing programming at a large company.
He brought me to meet his friends at a party and they asked me about myself. His friends mostly work in tech too and talked about themselves in terms of their jobs.
I told them I’m an hiker, I do archery, I love road trips and camping and riding dirtbikes, etc. Basically talking about my hobbies because work is just a way to get paid to do the s**t I love. It’s not how I define myself and it doesn’t come to mind when someone wants me to tell them about myself.
One of his friends asked about work and I said “Oh gosh, I don’t wanna talk about work at a party! Spent my whole day sweating my ass off in 95 degree heat trying to replace this busted motor just to find the replacement part was also f**ked.”
I wasn’t lying or trying to downplay that I have a good job, that really is how I spent my day, and I wasn’t in the mood to talk shop at a party!
Some other conversations came up casually that probably also made me seem poorer like me saying that car dealership repairs were a ripoff, and telling my boyfriend that my childhood neighbors trailer caught on fire and I was gonna visit and help her out
I wasn’t doing it on purpose, I was literally just talking about my life, but I guess I gave the impression I was poorer
It got later in the night, everyone was getting drunker, and some of his friends (not close ones tho) were making jokes about me growing up in a trailer and being a gold digger. And being ready to jump to a richer guy. Really misogynistic s**t honestly, since they don’t even know me and seemed to just assume all girls are good diggers.
He didn’t say anything. He later said it was because he’d smoked weed and gets quiet and has trouble carrying on a quick conversation when he’s high. But regardless I felt hurt he didn’t say anything.
I got irritated with his friends and asked “Now why the hell would you say that when I make twice what he does?” His friends went quiet for a second and I continued saying “There ain’t no gold to dig here, not with him or anyone at this party. So do y’all think I’m cheap, or do y’all think I’m stupid?
My boyfriend wanted to leave the party shortly after and he was pretty upset with me for telling everyone I make twice what he does. I said I would have held my tongue if he’d checked his friends himself. But he didn’t say anything so I wasn’t about to let them talk to me like that.
He said it was humiliating and now everyone thinks I’m a b**ch, and I flippantly said “at least they know I’m a rich b**ch”
He was angry I embarrassed him when I spoke up, I was angry I had to say anything at all because his friends were talking s**t so it should be on him to check them. Stuff is still tense.
AITA for explaining why I’m not a gold digger?”
Now let’s see how folks reacted on Reddit.
This reader said she’s NTA and that there are some red flags going on here.
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Another person said her boyfriend is clearly the a**hole here.
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And this Reddit user said she’s NTA and that this is bulls**t!
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