I guess you’d probably have to have a pretty good reason to ask your partner to skip a work event, right?
I guess every person has their own opinion about this, huh?
Check out this woman’s story and let us know if you think she acted like an a**hole.
AITA for insisting my partner skip a work event?
“I (32F) have been with Paul (34M) for 4 years. A year ago we were in a car accident- Paul was driving and 100% at fault. Paul had no injuries, but I broke my back.
I was in a back brace for months and am still going to PT. After I was out of the brace I started going to the gym and running, and at this point I’m in the best shape I’ve ever been in. I’m really proud of the progress I’ve made.
A month ago I found out that there was a 10k race on the 1 year anniversary of the accident in a mountain town about 3 hours away. I thought this would be a fun and positive way to spend the day and celebrate my recovery. I suggested this idea to Paul, my 2 best friends, and their partners- the plan was to drive there Friday afternoon, run the 10k Saturday morning, and spend the rest of the weekend exploring the town. Everyone was on board.
Paul recently started a new job. It’s fully remote and he hasn’t met his coworkers yet. He is supposed to fly to SF to meet his team the Monday after our weekend trip- we knew this when we made our plans.
A few days before our trip, Paul told me his bosses now want him to be in SF on Sunday because they got box seats to a Giants game and they want him to come, so he would no longer be able to come on our trip. I thought he was joking, because he makes fun of “corporate kiss-a** culture”, but he was serious.
I told him to explain the situation and that they can’t expect him to be available with less than a week’s notice. He said he had already told them yes and he didn’t want to backtrack. So I asked him to tell them he forgot he had a wedding to attend or something like that, and he said he didn’t want to turn down the offer because it would be a “really good networking opportunity”.
I suggested he join on Friday as planned and drive back late Saturday or early Sunday to catch his flight. He said no because he didn’t want to drive 6 hours round trip just for one day. I suggested he fly out of the regional airport nearby, which he also shot down because it would be too expensive (he makes good money so this wouldn’t be a financial burden).
I was almost in tears at this point, pleading him to come and telling him how important it was to me. When I realized he wasn’t going to budge, I stopped trying to convince him, but I did let him know I was hurt and angered by his decision.
The morning I was supposed to leave, Paul was trying to be affectionate and sweet towards me, but I’m still pretty upset, so I was admittedly pretty bi**hy to him and rejected all attempts at affection.
Now he’s upset with me for “ruining” our last day together and also for pressuring him to skip his work event. I think he’s an a**hole for prioritizing a baseball game over a celebration of my recovery, especially considering he’s the one that caused my injury in the 1st place.
My friends are on my side but I’d like some unbiased perspective.”
And here’s how people reacted on Reddit.
One person said she’s NTA but she shouldn’t be guilt tripping him.
Another person said she’s NTA and explained why.
And this Reddit user said she’s NTA and it doesn’t sound like her partner puts a whole lot of work into their relationship.
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