Hell no, you’re not borrowing my car for a long trip!
I can understand letting someone use my car to go to the store and use it for a day, but to take out of town?
I don’t think that’s gonna happen.
But let’s get all the details before we make up our minds, okay?
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AITA for not letting my neighbors borrow my car for a long trip?
“I (F29) moved to a new neighborhood almost 2 years ago. I live alone, no partner or kids but my mom (f80) does live with me part of the year (6-8 months of the year)
I really like this neighborhood and haven’t any issues until now, it’s a very tight knit “community”, neighborhood bbqs at least once a month, the kids all play together after school etc.
My next door neighbors to one side have a severely disabled child, she is 6, almost 7, and completely non verbal and wheelchair bound. They have nurses who help care for her but I know her parents are struggling, understandably so, her mom had to quit her job and is a full time carer for her and their other older child. I’ve gotten relatively close to them, the parents, and they are lovely neighbors. Their older child is respectful and honestly one of the sweetest children in the neighborhood.
For my mom, I bought a minivan and had it customized to have a ramp and wheelchair tie downs so that I can easily transport her and her mobility equipment, usually an ecv or wheelchair, when she’s staying with me.
The other 4-6 months of the year, when my mom spends time with her sister and friends in our home country, the car sits mostly unused unless I have a reason to move bigger things that won’t fit in my daily driver.
I noticed that the neighbors didn’t have a car suitable for transporting their daughter without taking her out of the wheelchair and fighting to keep all her tubes and wires in place so I offered them the use of my minivan if I wasn’t using it to transport my mom.
We’ve had an agreement in place that has worked well for us for almost 18 months but now they’ve asked if they can use the car to go on a road trip, the trip is scheduled to last just over 2 weeks, the main reason for the trip is to take the kids to Disney World for the first time.
My problem is that my mom is supposed to arrive a couple days after they would leave, I asked if they could delay the trip by just a few days so I can at least get her from the airport with minimal stress.
They are adamant they leave on the dates they want to do I said no, I need to be able to comfortably get my mom from the airport and after a 12 hour flight I want her to be comfortable and not have to worry about getting in and out of the car.
They called me selfish and I’ve been ousted by the rest of the community, I wasn’t invited to the last bbq, nobody says hi or waves back at me on the street anymore. The neighbor kids that come by to see my dogs and run around the yard with them haven’t been by in almost 2 weeks. I tried to text the neighbors but my texts went undelivered so I think they blocked me.
I feel like I’m living in a hostile environment now and it’s so uncomfortable.
Should I just cave and let them take my car?”
Check out how people on Reddit reacted to this story.
This person said she’s NTA and she shouldn’t cave to these folks.
Another Reddit user made a good point about the neighbors…
And this reader said she needs to make sure they don’t ever use the car again.
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