Well, well, well…
This sounds like quite a conundrum, don’t you think?
A woman not letting her sister-in-law use her wedding dress for her wedding…even though she can’t afford one?
Hmmmm, there must be something pretty serious going on here.
Read on to get all the details and let us know if you think she’s acting like an a**hole.
AITA for not letting my SIL use my wedding dress for her wedding even though she can’t afford one?
“My (28F) younger brother (24M) and his fiancée (23F) are supposed to get married in the spring after being engaged for about year.
My younger brother has always been the golden child between the both of us to my mom (not to my dad). Him and his fiancée currently live with her, rent free might I add.
My dad and I on the other hand have mixed feelings about this wedding. We both feel like my brother is rushing into thing’s and not being financially smart. He just finished his bachelor program a year ago, is still trying to get on his feet and find a good full time job in his field, and decides to spend thousands of dollars on a wedding?
We sat him down and explained this to him and asked him what the rush was? Why not push it off for a few years and save up so you guys can really have the wedding of your dreams?
He explained to us that his fiancée wants the wedding as soon as possible and doesn’t want to wait.
Well his fiancée’s family is pitching in a couple thousand for the wedding, my dad reluctantly is pitching in a couple thousand as well (all important later).
Well a few nights ago I’m eating dinner with my husband when I get a call from my future SIL. Convo starts our normal “hey how are you?” “s**tty weather we’re having” etc etc, until she tells me she has a serious question to ask me.
She asks me if she can use my wedding dress, that I wore to my wedding JUST OVER A YEAR AGO. She explains that she can’t afford one herself, that she absolutely LOVES mine and that it would be her “something borrowed”.
I immediately shut her down and said I’m sorry but no, this is a THOUSANDS of dollars dress we’re talking about, that she’d have to get altered to fit her btw too, so no way. We’re also not even close at all and barely talk so like wtf?
She starts begging and even starts CRYING and going on about how she can’t afford one. I told her i’m sorry but no. She then starts going on about how I’m not even financially helping her and my brother pay for the wedding, so the least I can do is let her use my dress.
I told her the honest truth, that I think they’re rushing into having a wedding and not being financially smart. She said she didn’t care, she has a timeline and wants to be married by 25.
I basically said to her that she made her bed so now she has to lie in it, and figure it out herself, and if she can’t afford her WEDDING DRESS then she should be having a wedding. Simple as that.
She ran back to my mom and my brother to tell them what I said. They think I’m an AH because I have the money to financially help my brother and his fiancée, but I’m being “selfish” and “unsupportive”. They also think “it’s just a dress so what’s the big deal”.
My dad is on my side and defending me and is now thinking of taking back his financial help due to the sheer audacity of my brother fiancée asking me such a thing.”
And here’s what Reddit users had to say about this story.
This person said she’s NTA and that her SIL is pretty darn entitled.
Another reader said her SIL can just buy a cheap dress.
What a concept!
And this Reddit user agreed and spoke from experience about how it can be pulled off easily.
What do you think about what happened?
Sound off in the comments and let us know.
We can’t wait to hear from you!