I’d venture to say that MOST people out there don’t like to hurt ANYONE’s feelings.
But I guess sometimes it’s necessary and you can’t please everyone, right?
But still, even if someone deserves it, you most likely still feel at least kind of bad about it, right?
Go ahead and read this story from Reddit’s “Am I the A**hole?” page and see if you think this person was wrong for hurting their friend’s mom’s feelings.
AITA for hurting my mom’s friend’s feelings?
“I got engaged about a month ago, and my fiancé and I recently set a date for late 2023.
Everyone is excited, especially my mom, and in my opinion she’s using her excitement as an excuse to ignore boundaries, but everyone (other than my fiancé) is insisting I’m in the wrong here, so I’ve come to Reddit for help.
My mom’s friend is a hairdresser. My mom has been going to her for at least 25 years, and I grew up having this woman (I’ll call her Stacy) do my hair. Stacy was great when I was a kid, but as an adult woman, Stacy is… well, she’s very nice, but sometime in the past few years she’s been incapable of doing my hair. A few examples have been:
I asked for curtain bangs and left with straight across seven-year-old bangs
I asked Stacy not to use heat on my hair (trying to protect my natural curls), and Stacy told me I didn’t have curly hair and straightened it anyway
“Jokes” about checking in with my parents to make sure they “approved” what I was doing to my hair (this lasted until I stopped seeing Stacy at 22)
The last straw was asking for a caramel balayage and leaving with level 7 or 8 highlights with a money piece because “this looks better, trust me”. She didn’t say anything to me about changing the color to look better, she just did it
So, when my mom asked if I wanted Stacy to do everyone’s hair and makeup, I said no. However, my mom kept asking. I’m not exaggerating when I say she asked almost fifteen times in two weeks, and each time I said no. Eventually my mother and I came to the consensus that the wedding would be too far away from Stacy to even ask. I thought that was that.
The next day, my mom called. She had asked Stacy to do everyone’s makeup and hair, and Stacy had accepted! Wasn’t I excited? I reminded her that I had said no, and that even though she had asked Stacy, my answer was still no. My mom just hung up, and I haven’t heard from her since.
My dad and brother, however, are blowing up my phone. They say mom has been consoling Stacy this whole time, and I’m acting like a cold-hearted brat.
They think once mom asked Stacy I should have just sucked it up, because Stacy is Mom’s friend, and I’ve really hurt her by excluding her. Who cares if she screws up hair/makeup? It’s just hair, and it’s just one day. Im being a bridezilla, and it’s only a month in.
Am I being an a**hole about this?”
And here’s what folks had to say on Reddit.
This reader said it sounds like this Stacy character just can’t be trusted…
And this Reddit user said that it sounds like it’s Stacy’s way or the highway.
And this individual shared a cautionary tale from her own wedding about someone like this.
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