I think a lot of people have the experience I’m about to describe to you…
You grow up believing everything your parents say and you pretty much take their word as gospel…
Until you get a little bit older and you realize that they might not know what they’re talking about…at least about some things.
What did your parents teach you that turned out to be wrong?
Here’s what AskReddit users had to say.
“That it’s rude to express any negative emotions.
My dad told me I would get stomach ulcers and was a bad person if I was a negative. It shut me up, which is what he wanted. But I don’t think he’ll ever realize how much damage it caused.
Negative emotions are ok and perfectly normal, y’all.”
2. Thanks a lot…
“When I was in kindergarten, the teacher asked us to go home and ask our parents how many days are in a year. So I went home and asked my dad:
“240 days, son.”
Imagine my disappointment the next day when my teacher said that was wrong! Dad swears I never asked that or if I did I misunderstood his answer, but I heard what I heard.”
3. More to it than that.
“That as long as we “have always been given everything we need, we are loved”.
The emotional a**se has ruined me.”
4. All kinds of bad stuff.
“Everything will be OK.
Tell me the truth I won’t be mad.
The dog went with the mailman. RIP Hazel.”
5. Scare tactics.
“That I would get pregnant as soon as I had s**.
Told me that as a teenager, so I was terrified I’d get pregnant every time I interacted with a p**is.
Now (a decade later), I’m married and have been actually trying and it turns it out it’s not as easy as they made it sound.”
6. Time to suffer.
“That you have to “suffer for love” (I’m a chick).
Thanks mom, you set me up for a lifetime of trying to change narcissistic losers.”
7. Oh, boy.
“My dad on finances, “when you have money you spend it and when you run out you just stay home”.”
8. Walked all over.
“”Your job is to do whatever your boss tells you to do.”
This led to a bunch of stupid situations of both me getting walked all over by employers and me quitting jobs over things that could have been fixed with a conversation.”
“That ANY person who told me I was pretty was only saying that because they wanted to do bad things to me.
My entire childhood/teenage years was spent backing away from people and telling them they were wrong rather than taking the compliment and saying “thank you”, which really damaged my self esteem in the long run.
Even now as a 24 year old with a husband, I still struggle with accepting compliments from people – even my husband – because I automatically think they want in my pants, which isn’t the case like 98% of the time.”
“My mum made me believe that privacy was a privilege.
Wasn’t until I started studying childcare and learning in depth about the rights of the child that I learned it is a right and that my mum is full of bulls**t.”
11. Maybe not all of them…
“”Respect your elders” but in the sense that you should just keep quiet when you disagree with somebody older than you – turns out many people are awful regardless of their age.
Don’t get me wrong, my default is to respect any new person I meet, but when a person has repeatedly shown me that they don’t are about my feelings or even basic logic, I won’t hold back from speaking my mind calmly, even if they see this as disrespectful.”
12. Not all the time.
“Just keep your nose to the grindstone, work really hard, don’t make waves or draw attention to yourself, and your bosses will reward and promote you to the top!”
Did your parents teach you any lessons that you realized were wrong later in life?
Share your stories with us in the comments.
Thanks a lot!