What’s it like to actually hook up with the crash?

That’s what Reddit user ExtraCirpyTater wanted too know, and so do most of us:

What is it like to successfully get with your crush?
byu/ExtraCrispyTater inAskReddit

So what’s it like, this mythic experience? Let’s find out from those who have been there.

1. A moving story.


I developed a crush on a coworker a few months before I was moving cross country.

I tried to squash it because I knew there was no point in pursuing it, but it turned out to be mutual.

We started seeing each other, and 4 months into our relationship, he moved 2000 miles away with me.

– PsychedelicGoat42

2. Like on the screen.

It was rather an amazing thing.

It was like a movie or series with insane s**ual tension you know before the two characters finally get together

Except it’s real and it’s you and the satisfaction is mind blowing

11 years last December

– Dread_Wolf_TakeMe

3. Game over.

Honestly it’s weird.

The thrill of the hunt is over.

– mmm-pistol-whip

4. What might have been.

Had a crush on him from middle school through high school.

We dated like 7 months and he cheated on me. It’s frustrating.

I’d rather have never got with them at all but maybe it’s important to follow that sort of experience through so you don’t look back with rose colored classes at the what could have been and compare future relationships to that.

– Astronomy-clown

5. Grateful for the time.


I had a crush on this guy in college. He was the popular, extroverted type and I was the shy type who had never even had a boyfriend and only knew unrequited love.

We ended up becoming very good friends. I never thought we would be more than this.

One day out of the blue he tells me he wants to kiss me. We end up hooking up.

Two months later he breaks it off because he wants to be with other girls (typical, I know). I was heart broken but went on with my life. It was almost graduation so I was happy to spend the end of college with friends.

A few days after graduation he starts coming around alot and texting me… long story short we end up dating for 4 years (and live together for 3). 8 months ago he got the opportunity to move across the country and decided to break up with me because he’s really just scared of commitment. Sad, but honestly the relationship was worth it.

I feel lucky to have had the opportunity to be with someone who i never thought I would get. And it was better than my expectations.

And he was very kind to me when he left and I will go on with my life but maybe someday we will meet again.

– puppy1994c

6. A rollercoaster.

Initially euphoric, then rock-bottom heartbreaking.

Finally got with crush for like a week and had to part our separate ways bc we both moved away from college.

He was cool tho.

– name_is_dan

7. Wine and dine.

Crushed on her hard while I was working retail.

I’d look for her in the streets whenever I was in the neighborhood. She had a bf and the area had a good bit of nightlife so I’d see her often while I worked.

One day she came into the wine shop looking for some quick fix, she was upset. We spoke and I got her number, texted her to check in, and nothing came of it.

A few months later I happen to catch her and her bf together in a train cart randomly, I’m sad but I understand.

A year later, she sees me waiting for the bus and we hit it off.

Been together almost 4 years now, if you told me she’d be sleeping next to me as I type this 4 years later, I’d laugh in your face.

– dreamtoimagine

8. The best.

It’s the best.

I was crushing super hard on a guy I knew a little but from high school but had gotten super cute in college.

After weeks of seeing him where he worked over break, I decided to swoop in and ask him out right before he went back to his college.

It was a little awkward at first but he’s even more awesome than I knew and we’ve been married 21 years.

– educationofbetty

9. Things fall apart.

It was nice at first.

The honeymoon phase hit different with her, and I was investing a ton into it.

Then after a few fights, and both of our emotions getting to the best of us we just drifted apart. Then we broke up, and kept acting like we were dating even though I knew we weren’t.

It kinda sucked and then we fought again, and I haven’t talked to her since.

I miss her sometimes, and I hope she’s doing well.

– p*ssyflute69

10. A mixed bag.

It’s intoxicating and addicting both, with all the positives and negatives that entails

– brianxlr4

11. Like…

Like warm apple pie.

– SaberRawk

12. Rock and roll.

Had a crush on this punk with liberty spikes when I was 12 now I’m 33 and he’s the guy in a cbgb shirt playing video games with our daughters.

Together 18 years.

He still makes my heart skip a beat

– Trashbat8

13. The feeling is mutual.

My bf had a crush on me for a few months before he confessed to liking me, he was surprised when I told him I liked him too

– pencat5

14. The one we all wanted.

I didn’t find out until a few years later that my crush…and that’s a bit of a stretch…was actually crushing on me.

Tracie was this waitress at the restaurant where I was a cook. I say it was a stretch that she was my crush because I was far from the only one. We all wanted her, and she was way out of our league. All of us.

Tracie was working on her Master’s degree while she was waiting tables, and was far too intelligent, classy, and beautiful to get with any of us slobs working in the kitchen. She was nice, though, and over the years we got to be friends.

Then she got her degree, was moving on, and we had a going away party for her at our favorite bar. A few of us closed it down, and Tracie and I wound up in the parking lot afterwards in that “I will miss you so much and it’s also freeze-*ss cold out here” embrace. She was very emotional and I asked her what was wrong.

She said something like “I wish we’d been more than just friends.” Well, sh*t. You couldn’t have told me this a couple years ago? We wound up making out (that’s what we called it back then) in that parking lot for awhile. It was what she’d always wanted to do, and I had no idea I could have done. It was a revelation.

Yet it was fleeting. She was leaving, I was staying, and it was never going to be anything more than that moment.

About a year later she came back for a mutual friend’s wedding, and at the reception we wound up together again. It was still there…that thing between us…but it was even further away from being possible.

It was nice to know, though, that if circumstances had been different and I hadn’t been such a clueless idiot, it could have turned out different.

– gogojack

15. How did this happen?

Crazy lol honestly doesn’t feel real sometimes.

We apparently both liked each other in high school and tried flirting with each other a couple of times but we are both horrible at picking up signs.

Took a late night ‘how have you been’ conversation to finally realized we like each other all that time.

No idea what he sees in me but he’s amazing, currently planning a wedding for next year. 🙂

oh and he’s waaayyy more of a dork then I originally thought but that just makes me love him more.

– Nightfall_2000

16. “Changes a lot.”

In 4 words: Not how you Imagine.

Look, the magic of crushes lays on the image you have of them (doesn’t matter if you are friends or not) cause even if you are, relationship changes a lot when you actually get together.

But it also feels pretty f*cking awesome the first moments cause, I mean, you got your crush!!

– phxnticsanders

17. “Somewhat false.”


Because you find out how the image of then you built up is somewhat false.

– Gopnik_Luigi

18. “Wanting feels better than having.”

If it’s someone you also view as a bestie, you might be pretty lucky.

Otherwise, sometimes wanting feels better than having.

– dynamicDiscovery

19. “Amazing.”

It’s d*mn amazing as long as you remember they have flaws just like you do.

If you made a perfect image of them it’s about to crumble and you’re gonna be disappointed.

– LittleTomori

20. “Until…”

Amazing, until he breaks up with you months later out of the blue, and because you’ve invested so much emotional energy into this relationship, you fall into a deep depression that you can’t get out of until you’ve physically moved away two years later

– jolygoestoschool

21. “It’s been great.”

I married mine 14 years later.

In high school I always thought he was sooo hot and sweet (and apparently he was attracted to me too) but I didn’t think I stood a chance so I never spoke up.

We drifted apart after graduation but after a really bad break up 14 years later, drunk me thought it’d be a good idea to get back in touch with him.

I still can’t believe we’re married (3 years now!). I still look at him and think “F*ck he’s hot.” We are basically the same person so he’s really easy to get along with but I’m glad we didn’t date in high school because I was really stupid and insecure and I would have f*cked it all up.

There were definitely moments where I became a high school girl again saying “OMMGG!” when I’d tell my friends about us dating, getting engaged, etc.

So far it’s been great but I got lucky my crush was actually a good person and not a handsome *sshole.

– MacNPickles

22. “It’s like my brain knew!”

Moved to college and the next morning I had to go to a required group-orientation/tour with people in my department. I happen to stand next to this cute girl who I decide to say hi to and we chat for the next 20 min. She was the first person I met on campus I hadn’t met in my residence hall. We say bye and I don’t see her for the rest of the day.

Somehow, I instantly knew I liked her and wanted to be more than friends, even though I only met her once. However, it turned out she had a boyfriend who went to school nearby. We ended up being classmates every semester and going into the same major.

After 3 years of school, some drama and way too many coincidences for our relationship to be considered normal, we got together and discovered how crazy compatible we were.

It’s honestly like my brain knew the whole time!

– EggsAisle27

23. “Lucky.”

Well, not really me but my brother, lucky man.

He had a crush on a girl that had an old crush on him too, so it was only natural they’d get together.

Well, this girl is like a younger sister I’ve never had, and even though she’s my brother’s girlfriend now, we spend more time in sleepovers and talking about him than he does with her. (I’m a girl) Basically, she’s my bff now.

– Aaruni_2008

24. “It certainly worked for me.”

I had a huge crush on a guy in my friends group who was married.

We became very good friends but always appropriate because he was married. He confessed he was unhappy in his marriage. I suggested they go to therapy because he would regret it if he didn’t give his marriage every chance.

He told his wife he wanted to go to counseling. She said she didn’t care that much and they should probably just break up and moved out.

The next week I swooped in and told him how I felt. Terrible idea. Rebound, all that.

We’ve been married 11 years now.

I’d never tell someone to confess their love to a friend going through a divorce but it certainly worked for me.

– WaffleFoxes

25. “I dodged a bullet.”

I crushed on a man for 3 years. This man was my manager.

Eventually, he moved to a different department and he and his long-term girlfriend broke up. We began dating. Holy c**p… BEST FEELING EVER. I was head over heels for him and it felt like I was constantly on cloud 9, especially when he introduced me to his daughter and family. I felt like… life could not get any better. The man I was pining for, for so many years finally wanted me too, plus I was persistent and that is what drew him to me. It felt so good to do all the things I wanted to do with him, like kissing and being intimate… going for long drives and cuddling.

BUT, yes, as someone mentioned below, it can be bittersweet too. The image you have built up is false and you find out about other things about them that are… major red flags. Sadly, we rushed into living together, and we fell apart so quickly. He brought out the worst in me and took advantage of me – I thought because he loved me and treated me nicely that we would last while he treated other people really badly. Eventually, I became someone he could treat badly, and this was all within one month of moving in together, I knew by the second weekend I had made a mistake.

It hurts if there is incompatibility, but can be bliss if you are both compatible. Sometimes it’s not worth it to get your crush. Now not only have I lost someone who was my friend, but I also lost my love. But he constantly brings me down and I feel like sh*t every time we speak so I guess I dodged a bullet.

– Whisky-Baby15

26. “Sweet victory.”

Sweet Victory

…she was different (and more fun and passionate) than what I perceived her to be. I wasn’t expecting her to be it for me… didn’t even consider it. We both still shake our heads wondering why the hell we were never together sooner. And why we wasted time on loser relationships lol Yet maybe it wasn’t the right time for us earlier. I dunno

My approach:

I figured a lot of guys were hitting on her. I didn’t. I just got to know her better over messaging (we used to work together 5 years ago but she moved away). Finally we met for drinks and sparks flew. Then I came to visit her and I never left and she asked me to move in with her.

– blue1k

27. “The worst.”

I had a huge crush on this guy – we ended up hooking up – and he was the WORST kisser.

I didn’t even think being “bad at kissing” was really a thing because it’s not rocket science really.

But it was the worst.

– Pleasant-Flamingo344

28. “Too married.”

I fell in love with someone who was married … Too fast, too much, too, well … married.

But things changed, life moved on and now we’re two weeks away from celebrating our 15th anniversary.

I definitely had them built up in my mind, we have certainly been through ups and downs, but I know how lucky I am every d*mn day to have found them.

Sometimes it’s so much more than you even dreamed it could be.

– the_0zz

29. “Feelings evaporated.”

I crushed on a gorgeous South African blonde for a few months.

We made out and it was great.

Then I got to know the person better and turns out, my crush was not very intelligent.

Feelings evaporated like that *snap.

– whynotaskwhynotask

30. “It’s like…”

Its like putting the USB in perfectly the first time

– AmbitiousJellyTube

Maybe it’s because I’m just not a hopeless romantic, but I seriously doubt anything can feel as good as that last one.

Have you gotten with your crush? What was it like?

Tell us in the comments.