A lot of families out there are kind of like soap operas.
There’s drama, intrigue, backstabbing, and a whole lot of dark secrets that seem to come out at the worst time.
Like a wedding or a funeral.
And that’s when the finger-pointing and the fighting start!
Have you ever had a big secret come out in your family?
Folks on AskReddit shared their stories.
1. So many questions.
“My mother is kid #7 of 10.
My aunt (kid #4) who was born in 1945 did her DNA and found out that she has a different father from everyone else. She was devastated. There was always rumor that there was an affair but nobody talked about it.
She has so many questions but nobody’s alive to answer her.
“In the 1970s a dead girl was found on my grandpa’s property.
Everyone including the local police just assumed she was in with a bad crowd and m**dered by drug dealers.
In the 1990s, some of his grandkids came forward about all the molestation.
After that, people started to realize grandpa probably k**led that girl.”
3. Shocking and sad.
“My dad always thought his father who raised him wasn’t his biodad and the father thought the same.
He was treated terribly by his father because the father was told he couldn’t have children and my father was born prematurely (but at a healthy weight).
So, everyone assumed my grandmother had an affair and got pregnant with my dad. It was to the point that after my grandmother d**d, my grandfather failed to even mention to his new wife that he had a son and grandchild (me).
Years later, my dad gets an AncestryDNA test for him and me. He find out that his dad was actually his bio dad. It was shocking and sad.”
4. A reunion.
“Found out my grandma had a baby as a teenager and was forced to give him up for adoption by my great grandparents.
40 years later he found us.”
“My great grandmother wasn’t actually Mexican, but rather was adopted by Mexicans from a Chinese family who was being kicked out of Mexico when railroad construction was over.
She always had more typically Asian features but only spoke Spanish and it was never really questioned. 23 and me is a hell of a thing.”
6. The gift.
When I was 5 years old (1988), Santa Claus left a Nintendo on our front porch.
It was wrapped in newspaper, and my parents had no idea who gifted it to us. My dad, particularly, tried to figure it out. He was always suspicious that it had been a family friend. It was by far the best gift of the year, and we played it all the time throughout our childhood.
My dad d**d in 2004.
Last Christmas, my mom explained that she was the one who had bought it and surreptitiously placed it on the porch. My dad really liked to be in control of things and had forbidden the purchase.
She knew better. She didn’t tell a soul for 30 years.”
7. The real story.
“After my mom d**d I found out the real story behind my parent’s marriage.
She came to my father’s country to visit some of her relatives. Met my father and after just one week she asked him to marry her so she could stay in the country. My father accepted because he had no one else and his parents were pressing him to get married already.
But the highlight of the story is that over some time, the two of them fell in love with each other. Their love only grew over the time and they were really happy together. My mother spent her last days very ill, and she would accept only my father by her bedside.
He swears to this day that she was an angel sent from god to take care of him. I am shocked that they got married just like that, out of the blue and ended up loving each other so so so deeply. I can only hope to have as good and loving marriage as they had.”
“About a month ago, my mother-in-law’s 88 year old sister revealed on her death bed that her husband’s best friend was actually the father of all 4 of her children.
Her husband was an abusive Grade A jerk by all accounts.
While everyone was shocked, no one was saddened by this news.”
9. Where the bodies are buried.
“I only just recently heard about this, but my grandmother had gotten a little drunk with my dad and brother a month or so ago and started talking about our great uncle Ferber (not sure on the spelling).
From what I heard he apparently k**led quite a few people and buried them on some family-owned land in a swamp.”
10. What a story.
“My uncle served in Vietnam. While over there his troop found a baby that had been orphaned or abandoned, they aren’t sure.
My uncle was shipping back to Australia soon and wanted to adopt him, but my aunt said no (they’d only been married about 4 months when he was drafted, so while I don’t agree with my aunt’s actions and generally don’t like her as a person, I can understand why she said no). My uncle’s troop found a family to raise the baby, and that’s the story the whole family knows.
The secret is that my uncle and some other guys from his troop stayed in contact with the family and the kid, sending them money every month to help raise him and then to help him go to university and eventually helped him and his adoptive family move to Australia in the last 90s.
My aunt and the rest of my family had no idea all this time, it only came out when my aunt and uncle divorced in 2017 and she had a forensic accountant go through their bank records. She worked at a bank for like 40 years and always noticed the money missing, but his reasons were always justified.
Since we all know now, my uncle has introduced some of us to the guy and his family. They’re all really lovely people.”
11. Mobbed up.
“My great grandfather didn’t d** of cancer.
He d**d from complications after being shot when one of his businesses was being robbed. Maybe. He also spent a lot of time in Atlantic City. He also had a lot of partners in the Teamsters and other unions in coal country. Also, everyone called him “Smiling Tony’ but his name wasn’t Tony.
He d**d in the 1960s, long before my time, but when my great grandmother d**d 20 years ago, a very old guy showed up to the funeral in a white suit and all of the oldest people in my family kisses his hand. When I asked, no one knew who he was.
My grandfather moved his family away from central PA in the late 1960s and disconnected from all of this but, there it is.”
“When my paternal grandfather d**d the federal govt reached out to do a state funeral. He’d been career army and a colonel, so we didn’t question it.
Then the funeral came and they went ALL OUT! Huge procession, people showing up who are really big names, like heads of dept’s, senators, retired senators, people from the CIA and State Dept.
It was nuts and we were all super confused. Turns out he was a key dude in the OSI during WWII and when the OSI splintered into the CIA and Secret Service, he went the Secret Service route.
He wasn’t on White House detail, but instead worked in a covert office that dealt with counterfeiting and currency. He went blind when I was a toddler and retired from ‘the Army.’
For whatever reason, he told no one about all his covert work with the OSI and Secret Service and the only person who knew (my grandmother) was sworn to secrecy and never told anyone. My father grew up thinking he was just a colonel working on base.
Only after his death were we given all sorts of cool s**t like publications by him, lectures given by him, and all kinds of things from various things he did and was known for. All I knew him as was a blind old man who was perpetually smoking, drinking and being a crotchety b**tard.
Turns out he was a bad motherf**ker and all but none of us knew.”
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Tell us about a family secret of yours that came out.
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