I know who I miss the most these days…
I miss my friends and family members who live in different corners of the country that I haven’t been able to see in quite some time now.
As you know, certain world events have thrown a wrench into plans to go visit people for the past year or so, but we’re almost there, folks!
So keep the faith!
Folks on AskReddit opened up about who they miss most in their lives right now.
1. Feels empty.
“I still miss our beloved cat that had to be put to sleep.
He often appears in my dreams (some quite vivid) – and when I wake up, the house seems “empty” without him.”
2. Looking for a friend.
“Someone whom i can call a friend.
This pandemic and lockdown completely hit me as I am already an introvert so I already have very little friend circle, due to lockdown period then in between that I got corona myself, many distanced themselves from me due to fear of spreading it that time.
Now things are start to get normal but it seems that part of my life got lost, those friends moved on in there life without me. No msg, no calls.
When I tried to call and talk to them, I felt awkwardness in their voice.”
3. My ex.
“My ex-girlfriend. She is my ex not because of choice.
I wanted to get married to her and she wanted to marry me. But then COVID happened and we started drifting apart. I didn’t have a good house or money to give her the life she deserves. So she got engaged to someone else from pressure from her parents. She wanted to keep them happy.
I am from India so this is something that occurs here. I really want her back and I truly love her. But she is about to get married on May 9th. I do not know what to do.”
4. Came out of nowhere.
“My daughter ‘ran away’ in the night with a man she met online about about two months ago. I say ‘ran away’ because she had turned eighteen a few weeks before, so I guess technically she just left.
It came out of nowhere. She will fail school. She has no license and is mentally ill. She hasn’t spoken to anyone—family or friends or her therapist—since before she left and I don’t even know if she is alive currently.
I miss her so much I can hardly get through my days sometimes. I enjoyed her and her company so much and now she is disappeared possibly forever and it is hard to cope with.”
5. Dogs are the greatest.
“My dog that died a few years ago. He was a coon hound, so anyone who knows that breed knows how much of a character they can be.
Best memories of him:
Climbed onto a folding chair and got stuck
Climbed a tree and got stuck
Climbed between two fences and got stuck
Got out of the backyard, ran down the block, wouldn’t come home when yelling for him, so we held out some stinky ham and there he was trotting back home wagging his tail (very food motivated)
Me sitting in a recliner and he comes up and climbs on me like a lap dog even though he was bigger than me. (I’m an adult for size reference)
My baby niece was crying and getting attention and he got jealous so he climbed on me yet again
I gave him a Whopper (which I regret and learned better) and he ate everything but the lettuce, which he spat out completely intact)
He figured out how to turn the bath water on, but couldn’t turn it off.”
6. Old friends.
I graduated from college the summer right before COVID, and moved back to my hometown, basically everyone I knew in high school had moved away, and all my college friends I can only text because they’re so far.”
7. Sorry for your loss.
“My grandmother. She was my best friend.
She died alone without someone nearby.
I work with the elderly…. Now I make sure others don’t have to die alone.”
8. A long recovery.
“My husband. He’s sitting right next to me, but I’ve never felt so alone.
A week ago today he had surgery to remove a large brain tumor and his speech/general communication has suffered. Recovery is a long road to walk without my best friend, lover, and soulmate at my side.
I feel awful for wanting my pre-surgery husband back, even just for a moment to tell me that he’s going to be ok.”
9. Missing Mom.
“I miss my mom, who has been gone for almost 9 years, but missing her has basically become a daily thing.”
“My brother who was k**led in a car accident 2 years ago.
He was bipolar, and had so many issues, working and being with him was like being around “an inexperienced car bomber.” It’s that I never knew if helping him out would blow me up and my family.
Never knew what was coming next… his getting arrested for parking tickets, or staying in a storage/warehouse until he could find housing. Living with him was impossible, but so was giving him $$$ to get him through another day.
I never figured out how to help him, and I mean really help him out, and I wept when I learned he’d died. RIP Allyn, thanks for the laughs, and good times, as I think of you every day.”
“My best friend who ghosted me.
It’s been over 2 years and I still think about her all the time and wonder what I did wrong.
I haven’t been able to make any new friends since.”
12. Not the same.
“My friends from university.
We still talk all the time online and in group chats but it just doesn’t feel the same not seeing them everyday and hanging out on a whim.
I feel now too its had a strange effect where I dont really want to socialize with anyone or open up that much to people who don’t remind me of my friends.
Probably because I’m aware of what I once had and want to find it again.”
“My Sister, who passed away in 2014, and my Father, who passed the following year.
They shared a birthday which also happens to be today.
I really miss you both.”
14. Think of them often.
“My two dogs from my first marriage.
My ex-wife got both of them (vet said they couldn’t be separated bc one had crippling anxiety and separating them would be too detrimental and I couldn’t bring myself to fight to separate them knowing this).
Not a day goes by that I don’t think about them.”
15. Everyone back home.
“I’m from Buffalo, but I’ve lived in NYC for the last year or so due to work.
I haven’t been able to see my family back home since I work in a high risk field for COVID.
Last week, I went to a Wegmens upstate and got emotional walking around, because I guess I just sort of compartmentalized how much I miss home.
“Mike. He was my “punching bag” when life was hard. We worked together in automotive shop.
He was around until right before my first husband and I got married, he quit or got fired. He showed up and got his job a week before my first husband unexpectedly d**d. He was with me through that, my mom dying of pancreatic cancer, being evicted because my landlord didn’t pay his mortgage.
He would walk up to me and say I looked like I wanted to punch someone, and would let me punch him. I didn’t always but sometimes it helped a lot. He also made me laugh, a lot, even when I didn’t want to. He was the person who let me have a small pity party for myself then tell me to get over myself. I would. He knew me better than I knew myself and we were either really good or very awful.
When we would fight, everyone knew and it was over dumb things and last… sometimes for weeks. He d**d a couple years ago.
I believe that was because I would never need him that way again. But I miss him a lot and wish he could see where I’ve gotten from where I was.”
“My dad. He k**led himself when I was 15.
I don’t even remember the last thing I said to him. I know I was angry from the abuse and him moving out of state when I was 11.
I miss him so much I wish I could tell him I loved him again.”
18. Still miss him.
“My ex husband.
Yes we’re divorced for good reason but it’s been difficult these past few years without him.
I really do miss him, even though we had our problems.
I bet a lot of people feel like I do.”
19. A sad story.
She passed away in 2019 after her first birthday. Long story short my wife and I dont plan on having kids. Her sisters child (my niece through marriage, who I also love) moved across country so we almost never get to see her.
So when my brothers daughter was born we were always around when we could be. Brought my family together a lot. She was such a sweet kid. She didn’t like a lot of people when she was younger, but I was the only one who could always get her to smile. We just had such a great bond and she was in a coma before she passed away.
That week ruined me, and I was at the hospital every moment I could be. Even now writing this it feels like my heart is being ripped out of my chest. I just miss her so much, and I miss life where my brother wasn’t a broken person, he was beyond destroyed.”
20. A voice of hope.
She was always a voice of real hope and balanced reason, with a big pinch of Southern charm.
I’m ok without her, but a big part of me becoming successful was to validate her impression of me.
She bragged about me all the time.
I became the most deserving of that praise about a year after she passed, and I just wish she could have seen what I’m up to.
She’d have smiled pretty big for her 5 foot self.”
21. Other side of the world.
She lives on the other side of the world and I haven’t seen her other than through a phone/computer screen in 6 months.”
She was my best friend for 14 years and we had to say goodbye in January.”
23. An old friend.
“There’s an old friend I’ve been thinking about lately. We had a lot of adventures together when we were younger and we were both broken is similar ways that made us natural friends and allies.
I was honestly smitten with her at first sight. We met at a local music club and had a lot of fun times together going to local music festivals, open mic nights, and hanging out at diners. Then, we just sort of drifted apart.
I tried to reach out but I got an “It was nice to know you” letter in return and I took the hint. Ha, I was actually pretty embarrassed at the time that I hadn’t realized she just wasn’t into our friendship anymore.
Still, I really miss her. That was all a long time ago, long enough that the person I miss certainly doesn’t exist anymore. She wouldn’t know me, either, anymore than I’d know her. I would never insert myself into her life at this point and I’m not entirely sure I would welcome her if she did so. I’m still a little offended she ghosted me if I’m being honest.
But I do mostly think back on our friendship fondly. When it comes to the people I used to know, she’s the one who most frequently ends up on my mind. She’s been in my mind a lot the last few days and I find myself stupidly wishing I could go back in time for a weekend and just enjoy the moments we used to have.
Some people seem to imprint on you forever. That can be a very mixed bag. Gods’ honest truth, I’d probably choose to forget her if I could. The good outweighed the bad, but maybe not by enough?”
How about you?
Who do you miss the most right now?
Tell us in the comments!