Well, this one sure sounds weird…

But I’m making that assumption just off of the title alone…

So why don’t you and I both dig into the details of this story from Reddit’s “Am I the A**hole?” page to see what really happened and then we’ll make our final decisions.

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AITA for packing my dad’s lunch but not my BIL and refusing when demanding to?

“My (17F) parents have been remodeling the house, my dad tore a big chunk in the back and he, my brother (19M) and my sister’s husband (27M) have been cleaning and picking the rubbish that was left.

Is important to say that I do not like my BIL at all, he’s quite misogynistic, disrespectful and has no boundaries. I know how badly this speaks of my family, but my brother and father are nothing like that and they too believe that he’s awfully wrong, here is so much we can do when my sister claims she’s happy with this.

I try to interact as less as I can with him, and I feel uncomfortable in his presence because until a few years ago he used to made fun of me for anything I did. He’s also used to have my sister or my mom do things for him like cooking, serving him his own plate, laundry, childcaring, anything.

That being said, my father and my BIL usually leaves at the same hour to work (My dad works in construction and BIL at a company), I’ve been doing my dad’s lunch for two years now since I got a liking to cooking, I cook dinner for all of us and I only pack some for him, for example, during this instance, I made enchiladas so I packed him a few, with a side of lettuce, sour cream and green salsa in small containers, a bag of chips and a few chunks of sliced fruit (apple and pear), I also pack him a water and coke.

When they came to the kitchen (with my mom) I told my dad that his lunch was already in his car so he could eat something and leave without worrying, and my BIL said ”what about me?”. I just shrugged my shoulders and said that I left him a container in the island and he was more than welcome to pack his own stuff, that there were waters and cokes in the fridge.

He gave me a dirty look and asked why I didn’t do it for him and I said ”You’re not my dad so…”, my mom got in the middle and told me to start pack my BIL’s lunch and he smirked when she said that, but I just sat with my plate and said no, that he could pack his own lunch or buy something at his job, my mom said that I was embarrassing her but my dad cut all for this when he told my BIL to stop fighting and pack his own stuff because I already cooked for all of us.

He ended up saying he would eat something at work and left early, my mom tried to berate me, but my dad cut her out and said that my BIL is already an adult, she said ”but she packs your lunch” and my dad said ”yeah, but I don’t demand it”. When he left my mom called me an AH and that she raised me better.


Here’s what Reddit users had to say about what happened.

This reader said this young woman is NTA.


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Another reader agreed and commended her father for having her back.

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And this individual had some thoughts about the woman’s sister and her mother.

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