Every once in a while, you just gotta lay down the law in life and ban people from your life…and from your house.
And a woman asked the fine folks on Reddit’s “Am I the A**hole?” page if she’s wrong for telling her daughter-in-law that she’s not welcome in her house anymore.
Read on to see what happened…
AITA For Telling My Daughter in Law She is Never Welcome at My Home Again?
“I (44f) have a twenty-three year old biological son as well as three foster children 2 boys (9 and 17) and one girl (12.)
I have been a foster parent since my son was four. I am a social worker as well. He has gone through life understanding the system and the horrors these kids face. The three that I have right now I am planning to adopt. I love them as my own. The last two Christmas’ I have not had my biological son, Tyler, home.
He has spent them with his girlfriend and wife now of eight months family. I have always respected it. She is much less independent than Tyler and her family suffered the loss of a grandfather so they wanted her there for the holidays. This Christmas Tyler has been telling me that him and Sonia (my DIL) will spend Christmas with our family.
Well the day before yesterday Tyler told me he feels like he owes a debt to Sonia’s family for the extravagant wedding gift they gave them and he felt pressured to spend another holiday with them. I didn’t believe him. I know when my son is lying. After pressing for about fifteen minutes he revealed to me that Sonia felt uncomfortable spending Christmas at our home because it did not feel genuine.
She says that my foster children are not real family so it takes away from the spirit of the holiday. I would never let anyone be so disrespectful to Tyler so why would I let this fly with my other children? I told him fine but if she doenst feel comfortable at Christmas then I don’t ever feel comfortable with her around my kids, and she cannot step foot in this house again.
I have always treated her with kindness and respect. I love her because she loves my son and he loves her, but I will not let anyone exclude my children. My husband believes I am going to cause a wedge between us and our son, but right now I am so so disappointed in him. This is not who I raised him to be maybe a wedge is needed for him to come to his senses.
So am I the a**hole?”
Check out what folks on Reddit had to say about this.
This reader said that this woman is not an a**hole and her DIL sounds like she could be dangerous.
And another reader said that this is totally on the DIL’s shoulders.
And this individual said that the DIL might be coming from a place of “privileged ignorance.”
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