Have you ever heard the phrase,”Don’t be a Karen.” This is a real-life story on how to not be a Karen.

Recently of the subreddit r/Bridezillas, u/bridesmaidwoes123 posted her story about a friends upcoming wedding. Let’s just say that “Karen” (the bride) has won the ashamed title of Bridezilla.

The post starts by saying, “I think I was kicked off the bridal party for refusing to wear a wig.”

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“This is a throw away account because the bride follows me on reddit and I’m still a little confused about the whole situation. I am very good friends with the bride to be, lets call her Karen for simplicity.

She got engaged about 1.5 years ago and immediately asked me to be a bridesmaid which I was thrilled about (she was my maid of honor for context).”

And she should be thrilled! It’s an honor to stand up for your friend. Well, that is until the bride can’t get passed her own selfishness.

“To make a long story short I got some real bad news in the past year and had to undergo radiation and chemotherapy. I don’t want to go into details about this because its still very traumatic for me. My hair fell out and I am recovering but my hair is still very short.

I have also been very active in the survivor community and have been involved in fund raising and public speaking. Karen has been super supportive through all of this.

She is a nurse and it has been nice to have someone with medical background to chat about some of this issues about this.”

Karen seems sweet, right? Keep reading.

“About 2 weeks ago Karen called me and told me she was going to take me out to celebrate my remission and end of treatment and had a special surprise for me.

I agree and we meet up. We go to a spa which was super nice and enjoy some skin treatments, massages, and general pampering.

At the end of the day she takes me to a special hair salon which specializes in high quality wigs.”

Come again?

“I am a little taken aback by this because Karen knows that a lot of the work I have been involves psychological treatment in cancer patients and avoiding the shame associated with hair loss for instance.

I politely go through the appointment and even try on some wigs although I was quite upset honestly. I politely decline when she offers to pick one out and try to forget the whole ordeal.

So she calls me yesterday and tells me that I can’t be in the bridal party any longer because the minister stated there are too many people in the bridal party.”

Karen should know the truth always comes out.

“This completely floors me because basically I am her number 2 girl after her sister (who she barely gets a long with).

I call around and it although some of the other bridesmaids are reluctant to tell me anything hint at the fact that Karen was worried about how the pictures are going to look with someone with a bald head.

I was so upset, I tried to call her but she did not respond.

I am thinking I am may not go to the wedding but want to make sure I am not overthinking this.

Her wedding is in 2 weeks.”

Karen is more worried about her wedding pictures than if her best friend is standing with her? Unbelievable.

Reddit users responded, giving bridesmaidwoes123 support.

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Because nobody should be shamed for who they are.

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You be you, regardless of the consequences.

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Kindness, love, and understanding go a long way. This is something Karen should learn.

And to bridesmaidwoes123, you are beautiful no matter what. You are a survivor. Don’t let the Karen’s of the world get you down.