It seems like more and more people are in open relationships these days.
I don’t think I’d be able to ever do that, but to each their own, you know what I’m saying?
What do you think about open relationships?
Here’s what AskReddit users had to say.
“I think it could work if both parties are on the same page.
My skepticism comes from the fact that the vast majority of people struggle having ONE relationship that works and is healthy long term.
But having multiple relationships and trying to get all parties on the same page gets exponentially harder the more people you add. I’m not saying it can’t be done, but I’m saying that it has to difficult as hell.”
2. Enjoyed it at the time.
“I really enjoyed it.
It was perfect, I was basically a side ho while I was in University and didn’t have time for a monogamous relationship it was great. Also she was hands down the best girlfriend I ever had.
Super supportive, super fun, super funny and bonus she is absolutely f**king gorgeous both physically as well as emotionally. We’re still really good friends to this day.
That all being said, when it comes to settling down, I don’t think it’s the lifestyle for me. But I 100% support any couple it works for.”
3. Ended badly.
“This is a tough one for me personally.
Allowing the relationship I was in to open was the catalyst that ended our marriage. We talked about it for a year, in an effort to help me warm up to the idea. I established only 2 clear rules as a requirement:
We only play together (with a third we’ve both agreed on) until I’m comfortable enough to try/allow solo sessions
If feelings develop on either side then the third is dropped (with respect)
Two weeks after our first threesome, rule one was broken. Not long after, rule 2 was broken (and it continued for several months before they admitted it).
It’s situational, circumstantial, and subjective.
But some solid advise: If you’re unhappy or think you need more in the relationship, be honest with your SO. Figure out what it is that you (or they) need. Don’t explore outside options unless you’re both comfortable and committed. Even if you’re ready, you might not actually be. So acknowledge that with each other. Don’t lie and betray/hurt your SO.”
4. No thanks.
“Not for me. Too much work.
I know / knew four couples in open relationships. Two eventually imploded after people got jealous, one split after one of them decided a partner was a better relationship.”
“I’m currently seeing this happen to a friend of mine. She wanted an open relationship because she wanted to sleep around and he really didn’t want that.
He eventually gave in to it and is now bringing home girls all the time and she always looks so sad and miserable because of it. It pretty much backfired on her.”
6. No time.
“They take a LOT of work.
When I’m dating multiple people, my hobbies all take a back seat and I get nothing done.”
“When you see two people in an open relationship it’s like which one of you came up with the idea and which one of you cries to sleep every night?”
“Open relationships are exponentially more complicated than monogamous relationships. Ethically they are fine as long as everyone knows what’s going on and there is good communication.
The biggest problem is that you are dividing our attention and time away from your spouse, which can be very destructive to a long term relationship.”
9. Usually doesn’t work.
“I’m a big no go on open relationships because I and my fiancée have seen NUMEROUS of these and they have consistently ended up ending in fighting, tears, anger, jealousy and (where applicable) divorce.
If it works for you, cool, but you’re in a very rare minority of people who can deal with this and not have it all go sideways.”
10. Not wired that way.
“People can do what they want. But I am not into it.
I never even dated two people at once. I am not wired that way.”
11. Once upon a time…
“I have had one once.
I was in my early twenties and my bf of about two years at the time wanted to open our relationship. After much talking about it I agreed. We stayed together about 3.5 years.. Together for 5.5 years total.
In the end, I decided it just wasn’t for me. I’m just a monogamous person by nature. I need to really like and care about someone to be intimate with them.”
12. If you can pull it off…
“Generally a bad idea.
Very, very few people can handle the trust, communication & effort it takes to make one work. Its just a relationship on hard mode.
If you can pull it off, go nuts.”
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