Sometimes in life, you hear the exact thing you needed to hear at the exact right moment.
And it changes everything!
It doesn’t happen very often, but if it does, you better believe people will remember it forever.
AskReddit users talked about the advice they got that changed their lives.
Let’s take a look.
1. Not worth it.
“Never have an argument with an idiot, they will drag you down to their level and beat you through experience.”
2. Keep chipping away.
“Work is not like school. You don’t hand-in an assignment and it’s done.
Instead, you constantly chip away at things over time. In my first job I was upset that my work was never “perfrct”/done like it was at school.
This advice helped me shift my mindset so that I wasn’t so hard on myself.”
3. It’s true.
“Don’t worry about what other people are thinking about you, because everyone is only thinking about themselves.”
4. You can say “no”.
“Consider what saying “yes” will cost you – time, energy, money, etc.
If you really can’t part with what it would cost, then “no” is a statement of fact, and an act of self-respect.”
5. Good stuff.
“You are what you eat.
It showed me that if you want to be a different person you need to do a little bit of everything every day.
My career, body, and overall happiness skyrocketed after I did it.
It is sometimes boring, because it is a grind, but the results are amazing.”
6. Take care of Number One.
“Stop putting everyone else first.
Think about what you need before you try to help anyone else. You have to be selfish and take care of yourself before anyone else otherwise you’ll have nothing left to give others. It’s okay to put yourself first it doesn’t mean you don’t care about anyone else.
My doctor told me that when I broke down to him during a very hard period of my life. I just crumbled in that room the second he said “enough about everyone else, how are you doing?” I was such a people pleaser and ran myself almost into my grave with it. I always believed if i could make everyone around me happy I’d be happy too because then there would be no reason for me to worry I wasn’t making anyone happy or proud.
But it doesn’t work that way. You can’t make everyone else happy you can only do that for yourself and it’s not selfish to put yourself first. It’s how you survive and get better. Then I can help the people I want to help. It was helpful in teaching me it wasn’t my job to fix other people too, they wouldn’t get fixed if they didn’t want to be and I was fighting a losing battle by trying and just bringing myself down with them.
It took a long time, so many hard moments but I’m selfish now and make no apologies for it.”
7. Time for a change.
“”If you’re serious about it, you have to change everything.”
At the time it was just about workouts and eating, but I realized everything affected my goals (work, life, gym, etc).”
8. It’s okay to leave.
“That I didn’t have to stay married to my a**sive spouse, myself and children could be better off.
Was taught that divorce was bad. Didn’t even realize leaving him/divorce was a real option.
My life has completely changed in many ways.”
“”If I think there’s something wrong everyone around me, then there’s something wrong with me.”
Been chanting this every time I feel this way.
Though others may see it as depressing (not to mentioned about my current self-esteem), it helps me to not blame others and more saying to myself “what can I do better”.”
10. The truth.
“It might seem simple, but when my parents were going through divorce a lot of nasty stuff was being said – mostly by the maternal side of my family. Think adults trying to trick a bunch of young kids into hating their dad.
One day, my father took me aside and told me: ‘You will hear things from me, you will hear things from your mom, and from others too. Find your own truth.’
Those words helped me make sense of things in times where I didn’t know what to believe, and I still follow that advice to this day.”
11. No excuses.
“Don’t give me an excuse.
Say you’re sorry, and you’ll do better.
Stayed with me, and actually got me to deal with my s**t, stop putting off things, and to actually give it a shot.”
12. We should all be so lucky.
“Don’t find someone to grow old with…
Find someone to stay forever young with.”
13. You can’t control everything.
“It’s pointless to stress yourself out over things that are completely out of your control.
That led me to just sit back in those situations and it made me learn that 90% of events in life will work out if I just did nothing
. I see life like being in a rowboat in the ocean (the ocean being life). The tide is going to take you wherever it wants despite your best efforts. All you can do is paddle, making small corrections as you go.”
Okay, now it’s your turn.
In the comments, tell us about the best advice you’ve ever received.
Thanks in advance!