I think I’ve known since I was a teenager that having kids just wasn’t in the cards for me.
Don’t get me wrong, I love spending time with the little ones who belong to my friends and family members, but I don’t think I’d have the patience to deal with being a parent.
Hey, I’m just being honest!
And I don’t think I’m alone in this department…
People took to AskReddit to talk about why they never want to have children.
Take a look.
1. Whoa.
“A friend told me once that I would probably be like the mom from Carrie and there’s no f**king way I would condemn a child to such a miserable life.
Also, giving birth? F**k that.”
2. At least you know.
“I would make a terrible dad.
A great uncle but a terrible dad.”
3. The truth.
“I’m stingy.
I don’t want something that takes up the majority of my life for the foreseeable future.”
4. Honest.
“I’m too mentally unstable to provide a quality life for any potential kids.
Just being honest.”
5. There you go.
“I’m not romantic and self-centered.
I would make a terrible partner and a lousy parent.”
6. Feels like a nightmare.
“I love peace and quiet.
Whenever I visit family with children it’s fine for a few hours but then I’ve had enough of their energy and chaos, and I’m very glad to get home where it’s calm.
There not being any real way to escape feels like a nightmare.”
7. Freedom.
“I’m sleeping in on a beautiful Saturday morning, then I’m going to lift some weights, write some music on my computer, go eat at a Chinese buffet and then go hiking.
And I’m only able to do all these things because I dont have kids. I love the peace, quiet and the freedom.”
8. No desire.
“Money, peace, freedom to do what I want/travel where I want without complications associated with having a child.
Also, I don’t feel the inherent desire to have a child. I don’t care to ‘continue my lineage’ or to force someone to take care of me when I’m older.
Kids can be cute, but I prefer to be able to give them back.”
9. Not cheap.
“They’re expensive and I’m already in enough debt from college.
They’re a big commitment and seeing how my siblings lives have changed with kids, I look at that and don’t want it, I like my freedom, I don’t handle crying well, especially from kids/babies, they’re rowdy, loud, messy and cause damage. If I could fast forward them to age 10, I’d be more open to it.
I’m 28 and considering a vasectomy. When I find the right woman, maybe I’ll change my mind, but I tend to look for women who don’t have kids and would rather not have them.”
10. Wouldn’t be fair.
“Too mentally ill from childhood trauma and have various auto immune diseases.
Wouldn’t be fair to have a child when I’m not completely present for them.
I love kids, but not for me.”
11. Valid points.
“As the eldest sibling in my family, I’ve already lived out my maternal dreams.
Mental and chronic illness runs in my family and I can’t risk passing it along.
I don’t want to put my body through pregnancy.
It’s a lot of responsibility and I rather live for myself and all the other things I rather do in the world.”
12. You REALLY shouldn’t have a kid.
“Having a cat has made me even more unlikely to want kids. She’s so low effort but it’s still so much mental energy to sort out her meals and care every day.
The other big thing is that she’s a really anxious cat and even though I line up friends and family whom she likes to come and stay with her whenever I’m away, she still gets super anxious and has a lot of anxious behavior when I’m not here.
More than anything it’s made it clear that parenting can’t be outsourced – even with the biggest team of grandparents and aunts and uncles and babysitters in the world you might have a kid who just needs their mum there and I’m not sure I’ll ever want to have that level of responsibility for an entire human life.”
What are the reasons you don’t want to have kids?
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