What’s so wrong with showing yourself a little bit of love once in a while?
Every situation is different but this person wants to know if they’re wrong for choosing to spoil themself instead of spending their money on their family.
Let’s see what happened in this story from Reddit’s “Am I the A**hole?” page.
AITA for Only Spoiling Myself?
“My parents adored my older sister L.
I was the oops baby they had later in life. Growing up, I was well aware that my older sister and was the star of the show. I wasn’t a**sed–just ignored. Ex. Sister had huge party every year, and the one year I wanted one (16th birthday), my parents basically let her take over and it ended up being all about her. I always felt second best.
When it was time for college, my folks told me I was on my own as my L switched majors so they had to spend more money on her degree. It was up to me to figure it out. Luckily I had the grades. I applied for grants/scholarships and left 2 days after HS graduation. I’ve been LC since.
Through hard work, counseling, and good friends, I’m pretty happy with the person I am today. I own my own home, my retirement plan is sound, so I enjoy spoiling myself (nice car, vacations with friends). I often post our adventures on social media. (This is important).
After 7 years of not speaking (cards at Christmas), my mom reached out and invited me to Thanksgiving. I went more out of curiosity than hopes of reconciliation (but I had an open mind). When I arrived, L was there. That degree never happened. (She’s currently posting stuff on Tic Toc waiting become a viral star). In the meantime she’s living at home.
After dinner, my mom mentioned that she started following me on FB and saw what a nice life I had. L made the comment that ‘it must be nice to have money to throw away and ignore your familial responsibilities.’
My mom co-signed this nonsense stating that since I was doing so well, I should be helping out especially since she and Dad are close to retirement age. The house needs work, and L could use a little help because family helps family. I should start pitching in to ease the burden.
Here’s where I might be the a**hole: I told Mom that she and Dad bet on the wrong horse. And that I don’t owe her, him, or my delusional sibling a d**n thing. I left and blocked them. AITA for not even considering helping out since I have a healthy amount of disposable income?
AITA further for thinking the invite was nothing more than the opening salvo to get money?”
Hmmm…now check out what Reddit users said about this.
This person said that it can be up to the golden child sister to support them now.
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And this individual had a great point about the best revenge someone can get.
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And this reader made a good point: family isn’t a one-way street.
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