Every relationship is different, but I think a lot of folks split things with their partners when it comes to finances.
But conversations around finances can get touchy…
Check out this story and see if you think this guy was out of line for asking his wife to pay her fair share.
AITA for asking my wife to pay her fair share?
“I (M 39) have been married to my wife Stacey (F 30) for 5 years and we have 2 children together.
I also share 3 children with my ex wife Hannah (F 37). Ever since Stacey and I got together she has made it very clear to me that my 3 children are mine and Hannah’s responsibility, not hers. This has worked out well so far, but lately it has been taking a toll on me.
I pay Hannah child support every month, ever since Stacey had our first child she has demanded that I give her the same amount of money each month to keep things “fair”. In addition, I have to pay for half of our joint household expenses (ie mortgage, utilities, food) and my own car. Stacey pays for the majority of expenses for our children.
Here lies the problem. Stacey has never taking issues with having to care for mine and Hannah’s children. She picks them up from school, takes them to activities, and ensures they have everything they need. However, anytime she purchases anything for them, she immediately sends me a Venmo request and demands I cover all expenses related to children that are “not hers”.
We recently went on a family vacation and she demanded that I pay for half of the portion for our children and all of the portion for Hannah’s. I told her that all theses expenses are taking a hit in my finances and she didn’t seem to care. She reiterated that my children are my responsibility.
To add insult to injury, she recently started contributing money to college funds for her kids, while Hannah and I have nothing saved for our kids’ college. Hannah found out and asked that I start funds for our kids. When I talked with Stacey about this, she said this was fine, but I had to put the same amount of money in the funds she has set up for our kids.
I told Stacey I need her to start paying her fair share of expenses around our household. I cannot afford to pay child support, household expenses, and all these miscellaneous expenses that come up for my kids.
It wouldn’t hurt her financially, as she makes more than me and could easily spare some money. Stacey blew up and took our children to her parent’s house and I haven’t heard from her in a day and a half. Am I the a**hole for demanding that she pay her fair share?”
Check out what Reddit users had to say about this.
This person said this guy is an a**hole and said it sounds like his wife is already paying quite a bit.
And this Reddit user said he’s an a**hole because of what he’s still expecting his wife to do.
And this individual made a good point: why did she marry this guy if she knew it was going to be like this?
What do you think about what happened?
Let us know in the comments.