Ouch…it’s gotta hurt for your own dad to put the nix on walking you down the aisle at your wedding.
But these kinds of things can be complicated!
So let’s reserve judgment until we hear the whole story, okay?
Take a look at what happened…
AITA for refusing to walk my daughter down the aisle?
“I (M49) have 2 daughters, Marie(27) and Julie(23).
For context Julie is not my biological daughter since I married my current wife when she was only 2 and since her dad was absent I adopted her as my own but I love both my daughters the same.
This being said, I am closer to Julie since she has and still live with us and we do almost everything together. Instead, Marie is closer to her mom, mainly cause her mom got full custody of her and has never lived with me.
Now, to the main issue: Julie got engaged about a year ago and immediately asked me to walk her down the aisle, I of course agreed and have actively helped her with the planning of the wedding which is scheduled to October/2022.
A couple of weeks ago Marie asked me to go grab some coffee with her and let me know she’s currently pregnant and will soon get married. To be honest this got me off guard since I didn’t even know she had a boyfriend. She apparently will have quiet a fast wedding since she doesn’t want to show too much, meaning her wedding will be in 3 months.
She says it’ll be a small ceremony and asked me to walk her down the aisle. I felt weird about it since I don’t even know her fiancé and it’s all so sudden so I asked her to let me think about it. It seemed like this answer surprised her but she understood.
I then went home and let my wife and daughter know and Julie asked me to please decline since she wanted to be the first to be walked down the aisle and since she asked first, thinks that I have a stronger commitment to her. I agreed since this is more of an Us thing rather than an after-though like Marie’s wedding.
I then sent a message to Marie letting her know of my decision with a brief explanation and even offered options like her mom or step-dad to walk with her. I also reassured her that I’d still be with her there and support her with anything.
She almost immediately called me crying and telling me how much of a horrible father I am and how I apparently have always played favorite, which hurt me since it’s simply not true, I love them both. I tried to explain my reasoning but she said it doesn’t matter and doesn’t care about my excuses. She ended up hanging up and my ex has been sending me tons of texts berating me and calling me names.
Now word has spread to some family members and they are calling me a deadbeat and trash, but my wife and daughter agree that my decision is the only fair one and shouldn’t be pressured into doing something I don’t want.
I’m starting to feel guilty but I’m honestly unsure, AITA for refusing to walk my daughter down the aisle?”
And here’s what Reddit users had to say about this.
This person said that this whole situation is sad and that this guy is definitely an a**hole.
Another reader said that this must have hurt his daughter in a major way.
And this individual said this guy is an a**hole and that his reasoning makes no sense.
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