You’re about to read a sad story from a man who poured out his heart on the “Am I The A**hole?” forum on Reddit.
He tragically lost his wife and is now embroiled in some drama with her family…but there’s a catch.
Let’s take a look at what’s happening.
AITA for respecting my late wife’s wishes about keeping her family out?
“My wife unfortunately passed away last year when our daughter was only 3 months old. It was very difficult to get through but my little girl and I are keeping it together.
My daughter is 16 months now and there’s been pressure from my wife’s sister to let her side of the family see my daughter.
The issue is my wife had absolutely no contact with her family since she was 18, so 16 years of not seeing them. Her home life was something she never wanted to talk about.
It always made her upset so I never pushed her to tell me. All I know is they were manipulative and abusive in some form. She left as soon as she was 18, changed her last name and never spoke to them again.
4 years ago she got into contact with her older sister and she’s the only person my wife allowed into our lives. By that I mean we met through video chat but never actually in person.
We still maintained contact after my wife passed and we met a couple times before and during my wife’s funeral. My sister-in-law called me a few weeks ago. She mentioned her parents would really like to meet their granddaughter and want to start over.
They didn’t attend my wife’s funeral because they knew she wouldn’t want them to be there.
One thing my wife always made clear is that she did not want them near our daughter. Ever.
Telling my SIL this…well she got very upset. She said it’s been years and yes her parents were awful people (again won’t say exactly what they did) but losing their daughter has made them reflect on things. And they want to meet my daughter since my wife never gave them that chance.
She’s still trying to convince me and so far I’ve said no. Each time I just feel more and more bad for denying them but it’s what my wife wanted.
Her parents found my Facebook (pretty sure SIL might’ve told them) and I’ve gotten dozens of messages begging me to let my daughter know her moms side of the family. And I shouldn’t keep her from knowing her grandparents for past mistakes.
None of them will leave me alone and SIL has said a few times that I may be grieving losing a wife but to have some empathy for them losing a child. Because right now I’m being “too heartless” for denying them the chance to meet the only piece of my wife they have left.
I’m at my wits end with this because I’m not sure if I am being an a**hole or not. I don’t know the whole reason why my wife never wanted to see them again. Even if I did though, I’d still like to honor her wish.
The way they are being however, makes it hard not to wonder if I am?”
Wow…that’s quite a story. Let’s see what people had to say about it on Reddit.
This person argued that the man is not the a**hole here and that he needs to be vigilant about not letting the family see his daughter.
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Another reader argued that he should block ALL of them on social media and that he really doesn’t owe them anything at all.
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This reader said that it’s likely the family wouldn’t even be contacting him and his daughter if his wife was still alive…some people just like to stir up trouble for no reason.
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And finally, this individual stressed that the man should not have any contact with these people whatsoever and they called them out for what they are: MANIPULATORS.
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How about you?
Do you think this guy acted like a jerk or did he do the right thing?
Let us know in the comments. Thanks!
