Ugh, this story sounds like a real heartbreaker.
Any time a person has to keep their parents at arm’s length, you know there are some major problems that have been brewing for years.
And in today’s story from Reddit’s “Am I the A**hole?” page, a young woman wants to know if she’s wrong for not telling her mom where she lives.
Check out what she had to say.
AITA for refusing to tell my mom my new address?
“I (23f) recently moved in with my boyfriend (23m). We’ve been dating for a couple years now and my parents didn’t know about him. This was because they would not approve for various reasons (different religion/culture/race).
Well they found out. Believe it or not but my mom got suspicious and followed me, saw me with him. They gave me absolute hell and I don’t think I cried that much in years. The things they said about me and my boyfriend were extremely hurtful and I decided enough was enough. My boyfriend immediately had me move in and my sister helped.
It’s been a couple months now and my mom has cooled down. My dad won’t talk to me but idgaf anymore. My mom and I will have civil conversations though she hasn’t apologized yet for following me (don’t think she ever will).
Anyways, none of them know my address. My sister and friends do, but my parents do not. They have absolutely no idea where I am.
And while my mom claimed not to care the first months, she’s began asking me to give her the address so she knows I’m safe and where to look if something ever happened. Thing is, I don’t want to.
She promises she won’t tell my dad until he cools down but I don’t believe her. I also don’t want her to come over and find more things to judge my boyfriend for either. The pros just don’t seem to outweigh the cons for me.
My mom’s really upset about this. She keeps saying that she’s just trying to make sure her daughter is safe and that i don’t understand how scared she is. She said that I’m being inconsiderate towards her and causing her a lot of stress.
My boyfriend said that it’s ultimately my choice but he’d prefer that my dad doesn’t find out lol. My sister doesn’t know what she’d do but said that our mom is pretty stressed. I feel a little bad but again, I don’t feel it’s worth it.
Here’s what Reddit users had to say.
This reader said she’s NTA…but she needs to be prepared for the worst.
And another individual said she’s NTA and explained what she should do.
This reader said her mom ambushed her and really isn’t concerned for her safety.
What do you think?
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Thanks a lot!