Don’t mess with a woman on her wedding day and don’t mess with a woman about her wedding DRESS.
Well, I guess things can get tricky and every situation is different…as we’re about to see in this story from Reddit’s “Am I the A**hole?” page.
Hang on tight, folks!
AITA for refusing to give up my dream wedding dress, though it means my fiancé’s family will not attend?
“I’m in a lot of turmoil right now and it feels like everything is falling apart. I have never had a great relationship with my future MIL. It isn’t terrible but I can sense that she doesn’t like me. My fiancé is very close to his family, so there has been some tension.
I didn’t invite MIL wedding dress shopping because our relationship is awkward but I thought I’d show her a picture to make her feel included. My dress is a beautiful flowy beachy dress, but not technically a wedding dress and could be ordered in color. I bought it from a small local boutique that we both love.
MIL said that I can’t wear the dress because she bought the same one for her 50th birthday which is two weeks after my wedding. MIL does have the dress though in a mint green color (there is enough detailing that it is still clearly the same dress) and she has the receipt to prove she got it first. Lavish birthday parties are a thing in our circle, so I know she has invested serious time and money in this party.
I said that I am still going to wear the dress, (despite the fact I could easily return it with no loss) because I didn’t do this out of malice and I love it. Mil said if she wears it two weeks after I do everyone is going to to think she is pathetic and copying her sons wife. I said sorry but not really my problem.
Everyone has gone crazy since I said that. His entire side of the family and the friends MIL invited have all backed out of the wedding, so like 15 people and it will be noticeable. His sisters were supposed to be in the wedding party on his side but dropped out and have blocked him on everything.
His stepdad won’t talk to him and says he regrets raising him and he isn’t a real man because a real man would stand up for his mom. His bio dad is even in MILs side which doesn’t surprise me because they are good friends, but he called us up to shame us the other night.
My fiancé is hurting and found out his family had a big beach day and invited everyone but him. He called MIL and they talked but didn’t come to a resolution. She said if I refuse to do the right thing the only answer is no one going to her party can go to the wedding.
He tried calling SIL and found out she blocked him. He is mad at me now and feels like she had it firsts.”
Here’s what Reddit users had to say about this.
One reader said that, while she can wear whatever she wants, she might want to pick her battles more carefully.
Another person agreed but also thinks that the family is over the top.
And this Reddit user said that this woman needs to stand her ground on this or she’ll always be backing down to them.
And lastly, this person said that she might want to reconsider the whole wedding because these people sound like a nightmare to deal with.
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