Things tend to get a little touchy and complicated when parents dish out advice to their kids who now have their own children.
And sometimes they can get ugly, too…
And a man shared a story about what’s going on in his family on Reddit to find out if his actions were wrong or not. Let’s see what transpired.
AITA For suggesting that my SIL and Daughter hire a nanny?
“My daughter (27F) and son-in-law (30M) currently have two kids (4 and 6). They both have very intensive careers and mentioned that they were struggling with work-life balance.
They were hoping for my wife and I to help pick up the kids from school, help drive them to after school activities, and basically look over them from the 2:30-5:30pm time. To give some context, I used to do this for my three kids because I had the more flexible schedule (academia) between my wife and I. However, I also used to work every night from 10pm to 3am to make up for that time.
My wife and I are not retired. I love my grandkids, but I still have many responsibilities. I’m also far too old to consider returning to my schedule from before my kids went to college. I suggested that they hire a nanny because, as I reflect, that’s what I would do if I were to go back in time.
This upset my daughter, which I realize I was a little tactless in that regard. However, I also feel like she is old enough to understand that my schedule when they were growing up was really terrible, and not something I would want her to replicate.
My son-in-law then got really self-righteous about us not prioritizing the grandkids and had the audacity to even mention the word retirement. This lack of responsibility for their own kids and the condescending assumption that their time is more valuable then ours really angered me, and we left.
Now, I’m wondering if I was out of line with the suggestion, but I feel like that is the solution if they aren’t willing to make other trade-offs with their careers or their personal time.”
And here’s how folks on Reddit responded to the man’s story.
This person said the man was not wrong in this situation and that his daughter and son-in-law are acting pretty entitled.
This reader agreed and said that they only use their parents as babysitters once in a while and that the man’s daughter and son-in-law really should look into hiring a nanny.
This Reddit user said that it’s pretty obvious these folks can afford a nanny and that they should stop taking advantage of Grandpa to watch the little ones.
This person argued that the man gave them a good suggestion and that they are definitely taking advantage of the man’s kindness.
How do you feel about this situation?
Was the man wrong to suggest this or was it no big deal?
Tell us what you think in the comments. Thanks!