If you haven’t figured it out by now, it’s better to LISTEN than to TALK.
Well, at least most of the time…
Because you never know what words of wisdom you might miss out on that could potentially turn your life in another direction.
What advice did someone give you that changed your life?
Here’s what AskReddit users had to say.
1. Ms. Davis.
“My 5th grade teacher Ms. Davis.
“If you are getting frustrated it’s perfectly ok to walk away for a bit a come back to the problem, it’s better to walk away and come back with a clear head then just getting more frustrated”
This was the first person I met that saw me and got me.”
2. Gotta start somewhere.
“Embarrassment is the cost of entry.
I started training with a baseball team (baseball is barely existent in my country) and the first time I swung the bat I completely smashed the tee and broke it. I was mortified and thought about it for the rest of the week.
I went back the next week and no one mentioned the tee. Everyone was welcoming and now I h**e when there are days I can’t go because of work. Same when I started BJJ and got dominated.
Embarrassment is the cost of entry. Get over that and you’ll have so much fun.”
3. Can’t be liked by everyone.
“”You can be the ripest, juiciest peach there is, and there will still be people who don’t like peaches” – Dita Von Teese
Used to stress about people liking me or not, stemming from different experiences as a kid.
I read this quote and realized that I can be the best I can be, but I’m still not gonna be to everyone’s taste, and that’s alright.”
4. Don’t even worry about it.
“They said that most things people do have nothing to do with you, even if it’s directed at you.
It really did change my life in that I hardly ever take things personal anymore.”
5. A little bit of effort.
“Doing the minimum is better than doing nothing at all.
Example: it’s better to brush your teeth for 40 seconds than not brushing them at all.”
6. Compete with yourself.
“To truly become the best, you must strive to surpass yourself…
Not the competition…”
7. Make ’em talk.
“Be involved, not attached.
Had major problems socializing for most of my life. It’s way better now, thanks to advice like this. It doesn’t mean you have to dominate every conversation, just be more involved.
Ask the talking person questions, repeat what they said in other words to clarify their statements, ask follow-up questions. Let them know you’re actually interested in what they have to say.
Making people talk will get you way farther than talking about yourself.”
8. Confidence is key.
“”Act like you have been there before.”
It’s just another way of saying be confident in yourself, but just saying “be confident,” doesn’t really tell you how to be confident.
Saying “act like you have been there before” is more like instructions.”
9. That’s good.
“”You don’t have to know exactly how to do something. You just need to know that it can be done, and the rest can be figured out.”.
My former boss when I started my IT career.
Changed how I looked at the problems I dealt with at work and at home.”
“Not everything in your brain needs to come out of your mouth.
“”Good memories can be just as toxic as bad memories”
For people in bad friendships/romantic relationships, so many people hold on to the good times in the past, hoping that it’ll be like that again. You remember how good things were at the start, and you convince yourself ‘they’re not that bad, remember that one good time…..”, even though at present, you’re being treated like s**t.
But what’s in the past has already happened. Your current reality is not that anymore. Good memories can really trap you in bad places if you’re not careful.
This advice has definitely been a wake up call to me before.”
12. I like it.
““A quiet life is not a boring life.”
This is a good one.
I don’t need to be doing grandiose things with my life for it to be a good life.”
13. Good for you!
“My therapist told me not to fight my drinking cravings, but rather to ignore them.
Instead of white knuckling it on the couch trying to ride it out, she suggested I find a project and keep myself busy instead.
It worked. Today I’m 41 days sober.”
What advice changed YOUR life?
Sound off in the comments and let us know.
Thanks a lot, friends!