Right off the top, I’d say that this sounds like an incredibly complicated family dynamic.
But hey, don’t take my word for it!
Check out this woman’s story and see if you think she’s out of line for how she’s treating her parents.
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AITA for not going to my parents wedding before they get divorced again?
“My friends told me to make a Reddit account just for this because this is so weird and no one knows if I’m in the right.
So my(26f) parents (b50) got married when I was five and I was the flower girl. Around when I was ten they got divorced which no one saw coming because they NEVER fought. I feel like I have to mention my parents are both very wealthy and kept finances separate and so it was an easy divorce and obviously they could pay for it.
When I was about 17ish they decided to get back together. Me being 17, was overjoyed and was a bridesmaid at their second wedding. I really hope you see where this is going but they ended up separating again. They didn’t tell anyone and didn’t get a divorce but we all knew they were separated and 3 years later they wanted to “renew their vows” in which I was asked to buy a nice dress for the occasion.
Surprise! They got divorced! Again! And only after 3 months after their renewal. After that I sort of just lived my own life because I wasn’t exactly thrilled at whatever they were doing and honestly really over it.
So a few days ago I got an invite in the mail to my parents 3/4th wedding after 6 years and so I called my mom about it. She was super excited and told me I was old enough to be her MOH and that she wants me to buy a 1500 dress.
That’s a solid No from me. I told her I’d be her MOH but I’m either going to wear the original bridesmaid dress (which is a cream color) or the other nice one I got (which is brown) because I’m not buying a 1500 dollar dress. She freaked out and told me that those don’t match the color scheme (pink and green) and that she knows I can afford it.
Which is true. I got an inheritance from my grandfathers passing. However, when my fiancé and I moved in together, he made clear he didn’t want me to be paying for most things and he wants to do it 50/50.
So we got a small apartment that he could afford to pay his share of and all of my extra money is in savings/college fund because we want a large family of 5-7 kids and they are… well expensive. So I reminded my mom of that and told her that I also would like to use my money on other things that won’t be worn once and I’ll have to buy a new one every 3-6 years
My mom called me a spoiled brat and that I’m wasting my privilege (I have no words) and that I’m telling her I won’t be apart of my own parents wedding. I told her that I was going to be willing to show up to the wedding and not be the MOH, but at this point I’m not showing up at all and told her to call me when they get their next divorce.
I hung up and got a slew of nasty emails from my family throughout the day and my friends are divided on if I made the right call with the premise that they are my parents.
Check out how Reddit users reacted.
One person said she’s NTA and that she shouldn’t have to buy her own dress for THIS wedding.
Another individual said they can’t imagine having to go through with the same couple over and over again.
And this reader said she’s NTA and that her mom sounds selfish.
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